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Neighbour and his england flag!

162 replies

incrediblyincredible · 15/07/2026 10:30

Our NDN are both 80, and we don’t have the best relationship with them, we feel they can be a bit inconsiderate in terms of boundary noise. We’ve had to mention a couple of things which have affected the enjoyment of our home. So we don’t really speak anymore and they have clearly taken offence despite us mentioning things in a polite way.

Anyway, the man has put up a large England flag on a pole on the joining fence. It’s right at the front of the house and the pole isn’t particularly high so the flag flaps in our faces or visitors faces when they open our gate to go down our walkway. This morning I got pissed off with it as the wind is always blowing our way so the flag is always over our boundary and it looks like it’s our flag as a result (just to add I love football and have no issues with the flag itself, just the positioning of it).
So this morning I wrapped it round the pole and opened my gate to make a point that it’s a walkway.
Anyway, I was sat in my living room and I heard the man come out and say “someone’s wrapped that up!” In an angry loud voice.
AIBU to think that he should realise it’s a bit inconsiderate and could put the flag in an area that doesn’t hang over our boundary?

OP posts:
Applesonthelawn · 15/07/2026 17:34

You're just being passive aggressive. If you are inconvenienced by it, and he's elderly and looking forward to the game, your starting move is to offer to reposition it for him.

likelysuspect · 15/07/2026 17:38

Nannyfannybanny · 15/07/2026 10:37

Do you mean the St George Cross?

The England flag.

OP - dont worry it will come down tonight!!!

EasternStandard · 15/07/2026 17:41

likelysuspect · 15/07/2026 17:38

The England flag.

OP - dont worry it will come down tonight!!!

I hope this isn’t the case

billycat321 · 15/07/2026 17:41

creep out in the night and set fire to it? Only joking

francy99 · 15/07/2026 17:46

What about putting a tall piece of wood on your side of the boundary right beside the flag pole so the flag won’t flap onto your side

likelysuspect · 15/07/2026 17:49

Bullandbear · 15/07/2026 15:24

Was the flag the Union Jack or St George’s cross?

The OP says its the England flag, so how would that make it the Union Jack.

Which is not the England flag.

Tryanalogue · 15/07/2026 17:51

FrenchandSaunders · 15/07/2026 10:52

I'd chop it down ...

Slashing the flag itself is easier.

Or bleaching it.

Definitely don’t do either of those things.

Bullandbear · 15/07/2026 17:52

likelysuspect · 15/07/2026 17:49

The OP says its the England flag, so how would that make it the Union Jack.

Which is not the England flag.

Well done.

The flag of England is the St George’s cross - that would be the correct name, hence my question.

INX · 15/07/2026 17:53

likelysuspect · 15/07/2026 17:49

The OP says its the England flag, so how would that make it the Union Jack.

Which is not the England flag.

Indeed.

And the OP doesn't mention being at sea.

Unless she's forgotten to tell us her neighbour lives in the submarine next door...

PetulaGordeno · 15/07/2026 17:55

There are few occasions when I would suggest getting a huge Argentinian flag, but…

CraftyYankee · 15/07/2026 18:02

NicolaSturgeon · 15/07/2026 16:58

Just pin up an even larger Saltire above/behind it.

Name checks out 😁

Shelleyblueeyes · 15/07/2026 18:03

Let it go.

It's not going to be up much longer if it's only for the football.
If he has it up out to be patriotic all year round then thats another matter.

X

Any1ForTennis · 15/07/2026 18:05

You must be very popular with all these visitors. Last person who walked down my front path was the Amazon man a few days ago.

likelysuspect · 15/07/2026 18:09

SmudgeButt · 15/07/2026 13:30

Well if it was a tree with branches overhanging on to your property you would have the right to cut anything that goes from the border on to your side. I'd be considering that. But I suppose it would be best to ask the neighbour to move it.

Frankly most the houses I've seen with St George cross flags appear to be inhabited by the far right. And I wouldn't want anyone to think that was me. So I might find another flag that I could fly instead and act surprised when the neighbour asks where his went.

"Oh! It was just gone!! I guess it flew off in that high wind last night!!! And since it was gone I thought flying the Welsh/Iranian/Argentinian/Pride flag would be a delightful change!!!"

England are playing

So people are flying the English flag

Why wouldnt they

Are all the England players racist too?

likelysuspect · 15/07/2026 18:13

Mygardenshedisfallingdown · 15/07/2026 16:29

I'm very surprised noone has mentioned the 'd' word yet if he is that bad.😀

Whats this?

Dangerous?
Dead?
Dieting?

ChirpaChirpaCheepCheepChirp · 15/07/2026 18:21

Put up an Argentinian flag along the same boundary. Or maybe a Palestinian or Pride flag, sounds like the type who’d love that.

BeanQuisine · 15/07/2026 19:11

MuffHairLady · 15/07/2026 16:06

Haha! Brilliant! Yours, BeanQuisine?

Ta MuffHairLady, yes, it's one of me own.

Ohmygawdflippingheck · 15/07/2026 19:12

Bullandbear · 15/07/2026 17:52

Well done.

The flag of England is the St George’s cross - that would be the correct name, hence my question.

Do you call all the other flags by their correct name? Le Tricolour, La Rojigualda etc? I think that might come across a bit twatty tbh

MickyMoonshine · 15/07/2026 19:27

ChirpaChirpaCheepCheepChirp · 15/07/2026 18:21

Put up an Argentinian flag along the same boundary. Or maybe a Palestinian or Pride flag, sounds like the type who’d love that.

Edited

Why? Because you’ve made assumptions about someone who puts up an England flag?

If you were to put up an Argentinian flag today I’d think you were a bit of a twat (unless you were Argentinian of course).

We have an England flag up and last weekend we also had a pride flag up because it was our local pride festival.

Laughorbloodycry · 15/07/2026 19:33

It sounds like the overall problem is something similar to mine - another issue, on top of prior issues and you feel you can't now raise another problem.
You want people to just think for one minute about their impact. You e already had experience asking them to stop something and you are left feeling like the problem. So you're kind of silenced.

My advice to you here - breathe through this one. Literally spend an hour tonight doing that 6.7.8 breathing and let yourself know it is going to improve when you are able to switch your energy off.

He's a twat. I don't care his age. The flag can go in his gob for all I care. This is about you finding a way to try bring your energy down, feel calm in the face of this fucking annoyance behaviour. Things usually naturally improve then.

Bullandbear · 15/07/2026 19:34

Ohmygawdflippingheck · 15/07/2026 19:12

Do you call all the other flags by their correct name? Le Tricolour, La Rojigualda etc? I think that might come across a bit twatty tbh

Speaking of twats….

Laughorbloodycry · 15/07/2026 19:37

Bullandbear · 15/07/2026 19:34

Speaking of twats….

😆 I have no clue what's going on in this part of the thread .... but we do need a thread about the England flag in general.

I would enjoy discussing the politics of our flag now and all the feelings it evokes ( rightly or wrongly).

Muffsies · 15/07/2026 19:40

Bullandbear · 15/07/2026 17:52

Well done.

The flag of England is the St George’s cross - that would be the correct name, hence my question.

No, if we're being pedantic, it's called the England flag. It is based upon the Cross of St George, which appears on all sorts of other shields, symbols and flags. St George's cross has been used for centuries by many different places and armies, we are not the first to use it on the our flag, and it's not even our original flag, which used to have the Cross of St Edmund on it (similar to the Jerusalem cross).

Bullandbear · 15/07/2026 19:40

Laughorbloodycry · 15/07/2026 19:37

😆 I have no clue what's going on in this part of the thread .... but we do need a thread about the England flag in general.

I would enjoy discussing the politics of our flag now and all the feelings it evokes ( rightly or wrongly).

Some posters get their Alan’s in a twist when it comes to the St George flag, as we know.

Right, off to watch the match.

TTFN.

ByUniqueViper · 15/07/2026 20:06

Could you maybe wait until the world cup is over then address it after that if its still in the way?