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Neighbour and his england flag!

162 replies

incrediblyincredible · 15/07/2026 10:30

Our NDN are both 80, and we don’t have the best relationship with them, we feel they can be a bit inconsiderate in terms of boundary noise. We’ve had to mention a couple of things which have affected the enjoyment of our home. So we don’t really speak anymore and they have clearly taken offence despite us mentioning things in a polite way.

Anyway, the man has put up a large England flag on a pole on the joining fence. It’s right at the front of the house and the pole isn’t particularly high so the flag flaps in our faces or visitors faces when they open our gate to go down our walkway. This morning I got pissed off with it as the wind is always blowing our way so the flag is always over our boundary and it looks like it’s our flag as a result (just to add I love football and have no issues with the flag itself, just the positioning of it).
So this morning I wrapped it round the pole and opened my gate to make a point that it’s a walkway.
Anyway, I was sat in my living room and I heard the man come out and say “someone’s wrapped that up!” In an angry loud voice.
AIBU to think that he should realise it’s a bit inconsiderate and could put the flag in an area that doesn’t hang over our boundary?

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Weirdwonderfully · 15/07/2026 20:08

incrediblyincredible · 15/07/2026 10:35

I’m just thinking if we win the World Cup it’ll be up for ages. Plus the 3rd place play off. Also we’d be looking at the same issue again in 2 years with the euros etc etc

It really isn’t that big of a deal and it’s our country’s flag.

TeaIsLovely · 15/07/2026 20:09

Oh the flag will be down come the weekend - and as they’re in their 80s, they may have kicked the bucket on 2028 and replaced by a family with 10 screaming kids…..so pick your battles.

Nannyfannybanny · 15/07/2026 21:23

Oh do grow up,a lot of people insist on calling the union flag ,and England flag. It was a genuine question. I shan't engage further.

alifesizefoamversionofapopularfrozenfoodstuff · 15/07/2026 22:57

alifesizefoamversionofapopularfrozenfoodstuff · 15/07/2026 16:12

Yeah probably in about 6 hours 😄

There you go.

Byebye flag 👋

Nousernameideaaga · 15/07/2026 23:04

BauhausOfEliott · 15/07/2026 10:48

Of course she means the St George cross, which is the flag of England. What else do you think she means by 'England flag'? A picture of Mr Blobby and a Gregg's?

OP, absolutely YANBU. If it's hanging over your property, they're dickheads.

Mr Blobby and Greggs 🤣🤣🤣

gamerchick · 15/07/2026 23:06

Going to war with very elderly people is like going to war with toddlers..they have the time to stand their ground. Pick your battles.

I am curious to what the original fall out was though.

InterestedDad37 · 15/07/2026 23:09

Take a hedge trimmer to the overhanging bits 👍

maxslice · 16/07/2026 20:49

Bit passive aggressive of you. It’s going to just cause things to escalate.

Marleyandme71 · 16/07/2026 20:59

Is it still up op? We need an update.....

incrediblyincredible · 18/07/2026 17:33

It’s still up! But I expect it’ll go down if we lose tonight, so hopefully tomorrow. The wind has been on our side so I’ve been feeling, on a whole, slightly less irritated by it, but I’ve also been looking around at other peoples’ flags when driving around (for some reason there’s quite a few in my area), and generally, most people have the pole in the middle of their land so it doesn’t fly over their neighbours’, or, if it is on the boundary it’s high enough not to blow in anyone’s face. So yeah, bit of a joke!

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incrediblyincredible · 21/07/2026 19:47

The flag came down on Monday 🙌

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TalkToTheHand123 · 24/07/2026 13:51

Few up permanently around here.

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