Guy I’m dating didn’t wish me happy birthday.

[Sarah24x]

Hoping for some insight whether I’m being petty or not.

Been dating a guy around 2 months. Consistent dates and seems to be going well. Says he sees a future ect.

For the last 2 weeks, I had noticed he has been taking much longer to reply and cancelled a date planned by himself at the very last minute to hang out with friends instead. This really ticked me off as I’d arranged babysitting.

I ended up sending a message that it didn’t seem to be working and all the best, hope he finds what he’s looking for.

He was extremely apologetic and has been making more of an effort since. Saying he’s been very busy with work but now that isn’t an excuse and really wants to continue working things.

Today is my birthday and haven’t even received a happy birthday text. He knows it’s my birthday as he asked when it was a few weeks ago and commented it was the day before his mams. 🙃

What would you do in this situation? Any advice appreciated!

Hope you had a lovely birthday without him. He sounds like a waste of time.

He's just not that into you.
If he was, he'd def not cancel a date for his friends or forget your birthday.

Forget about him and keep looking. He's not worth your investment and time if he's already this shit.

Sounds very familiar to a situation I was in and he has been trying to get back in with me lately. He did buy me a naff game to play with my kids for my birthday though but no card or real acknowledgement. Some men just don't think. We deserve better. I would end things asap, I wish I had in hindsight. Your worth more than a man messing with your head. If he can't be consistent now he never will be.

It's easy to forget a birthday...

However, a dating man into the woman would pick up on it.

Sorry OP, he's more into hanging out with his friends.

Next!

I'd block and move on. He has ruled himself out with his bare minimum behaviour and I wouldn't waste any more time when someone who is a much better fit could be right around the corner.

@Sarah24x I wouldn't care if he had forgotten my bday so early on
What I would have cared about is cancelling on me for seeing a friend instead! I think he's dating several people. It's clear that he's not invested- my dh would never have cancelled on me for any reason- he even went abroad to find me when I moved 3 months after we had met! You can do better OP.

Thanks all you’re right! He followed through with saying he would make it up to me and happy birthday but I haven’t opened the message and will not respond.

Tbh I thought it would be casual from the very beginning given he is younger and childfree (he’s 26, I’m 29 today). Then he started making a lot of effort and saying he wanted a relationship.

Why the hell do they do it! I slept with him pretty early on and he still continued his efforts. I would have had a lot more respect for him had he just admitted he didn’t want anything serious.

Lesson learnt!

Happy birthday - it’s mine today too. But it sounds like it’s not going anywhere so tell him to do one.

Happy Birthday!! Hope you had a lovely day ☺️ It’s definitely not going anywhere.

CF has my favourite bra at his, guess he can keep it as a souvenir 😂

Nah. Being busy at work isn't a reason to see friends when he has a date with you, or not sending a birthday text. Happy birthday OP and better luck wtih the next one.

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Yep! If they are hard work at 8 weeks, can you imagine them after 8 years? Get rid and find someone worthy of your attention.

Happy Birthday. Another year older, another year wiser! X

Look back at your messages to see what date you sent him the text about it not working. Once you have the date, text him to say “please refer to my text of DATE”

He is a bad apple. Block and delete. I was in a similar situation few years ago. I wont get better

Bin this one op. I used to know a guy who would always dump a girl before their birthday so he didn’t have to buy them a gift 😂

This. He doesn’t sound very emotionally available OP, sorry to say. You deserve much better. Move on…

Not before shes ghosted him for a bit, he sounds like a serial dater who most probably ghosts in the end, would be nice for him to have a taste of his own medicine!

Happy birthday Op. Glad you decided to bin him!

There is a fine line between the ones that show they dont care and ones that love bomb.... find one in between, there will be one for you!

Get rid!

Op, you might find the burnt haystack Facebook group useful. It's very handy for spotting early red flags, so that you don't waste your time, find yourself second guessing etc.

I wouldn’t even bother to text. Delete and block. He’s not interested.

I wouldn’t even bother to reply, but if you did this would be very funny 😂

Yes, do this

Don’t give him the satisfaction of letting him even think your bothered
imagine a guy your not that keen on started saying “you didn’t text me on my birthday” it would give you the ick- you wouldn’t care, that’s how he feels.
dont be the ick- go date someonelse