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AIBU to feel helpless about a large asylum camp in our village?

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putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 16:15

My village has been chosen for a 1500 open asylum camp for single men. It will be an open camp (as the men haven't done anything wrong so aren't detained.)

The thing is the village only has 700 people and it is pretty isolated. it's about 10 miles to the nearest city and you can walk to another small village. There is a playpark, a pub and a primary school.

It has to go through planning, but the government have changed the planning laws so that they grant themselves planning and you can't see it as it is deemed sensitive. So they will just grant themselves planning and you can't oppose it without a judicial review--by which time it will probably be already open.

They want to reduce the number of people in hotels. But am AIBU to think that this puts the burden of sorting these issues out on one tiny community? Feels like we are collateral damage to be honest. The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 and it feels too much. There is nothing for them to do or places to go. Also the fact that it is all single men put in one massive place with no money or means or anything to do is going to lead to problems

Apparently the camps cost £10 less a night than the hotels. But they don't count the set up costs which are astronomical (the one in Essex was £47 million to set up). So it seems like it's not not even cheaper than the problem it is trying to solve but much more expensive.

AIBU to feel a bit helpless? It seems so unfair but there is nothing I can do. We wouldn't be able to move from the village anyway as no one would buy a house here.

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OneAmberFinch · 29/06/2026 21:40

Net migration has fallen slightly since its historic insanely high peak after multiple years of "importing a city full of people every year" and is still extremely high by historic standards, and the government is opening even more routes for people to enter the country...

Lefties in the comments: "LABOUR IS FIXING MIGRATION! WILL THE FAR RIGHT NEVER BE SATISFIED?!?!"

Cannybeme · 29/06/2026 21:41

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 21:23

Of course there are men from 'countries with Sharia law' who come here for tourism or in business. I'm in Kensington / Knightsbridge and there are a lot of Saudis. They own a huge proportion of housing around here. There is a visible Middle Eastern community. It's great actually - they tend to go to cake shops and sit out in the evenings as families, rather than go to pubs and get drunk. I probably feel safer amid them than your average Nigel.

I think some people confuse government regimes with individual human nature. Most of the people scared of 'these men' don't know any Muslim men and have never been to 'those countries.'

Stop being fooled by TR and Farage's divisive and incendiary rhetoric and turn your attention instead to the porn or other 'manosphere' content your sons and other men in your families are no doubt consuming. THAT is what you need to be scared about.

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I don’t think refined Saudi business men worth mega bucks are the ones hanging around street corners in Norfolk* with nothing to do.

*or similar

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 21:41

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 20:53

What damage has been caused by Jewish culture?

What in the UK.
Nothing.

daisybanks · 29/06/2026 21:41

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:38

Who is making 'clever' people leave? Maybe they're getting out before Farage's reign.

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Because anyone who has any entrepreneurial skills is fed up with being taxed to death by Reeves and is moving their business abroad.

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:42

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 21:36

I'm baffled honestly. No one admits white men don't commit crime. No one dismisses atrocious crimes committed by white men. But why do so many here thread after thread just ignore the clear per capita risk.

Where would you rather your DD do a solo trip Mogadishu or Budapest?

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Why would anyone send their daughter to Mogadishu, which the Foreign Office has currently classed as a war zone? You wouldn't even get travel insurance.

All war zones are verboten by the FO, including Ukraine.

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 21:43

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 21:38

Everyone dismisses atrocious crimes committed by white men. It's a huge problem. That is often discussed here on MN. Assault, rape, domestic abuse all have terrible sentencing rates.

Which is why we don’t need to import more in addition to our home grown ones!

5MinuteArgument · 29/06/2026 21:44

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:36

13 rapes by Afghan men are one too many but trying to represent them as worse than 140,000 rapes by white men is misleading.

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Logic: we already have plenty of rapists and murderers in the UK so importing more is no big deal.

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 21:45

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 21:24

Yep so if you're just against the specific cultures you don't like, but you're ok with others like Jews, then you're not against multiculturalism in general. Which is what I said

You seem to be confusing culture with ethnicity. They obviously go hand in hand but it's the actions that people have an issue with, not the skin colour or religious beliefs.

I mean, there's literally a Church of Satan but nobody gives a fuck as they're not chopping off heads and forcing children to marry old men.

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:45

5MinuteArgument · 29/06/2026 21:44

Logic: we already have plenty of rapists and murderers in the UK so importing more is no big deal.

No one has said this.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 21:46

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:38

Who is making 'clever' people leave? Maybe they're getting out before Farage's reign.

Edited

No one is making them leave.
They are leaving because they can. They have the money and the skills.
They believe the country will get worse. We will not be allowed to own anything. We will be taxed on even more.

They are leaving to access better health care. Better education
Less DEI
More opportunities
Better roads
Less business tax.
Less inheritance tax.
Less tax on everything
Less LGBT plus experimenting on children
Less immigrants
More community
More safety

Amusing you think Nigel Farage will be the next Prime Minister.

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 21:46

Cannybeme · 29/06/2026 21:41

I don’t think refined Saudi business men worth mega bucks are the ones hanging around street corners in Norfolk* with nothing to do.

*or similar

Quite. I lived in the Gulf and felt extremely safe. I wouldn't feel similarly safe in Afghanistan or even say Egypt or Morocco as a woman.

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 21:46

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 21:45

You seem to be confusing culture with ethnicity. They obviously go hand in hand but it's the actions that people have an issue with, not the skin colour or religious beliefs.

I mean, there's literally a Church of Satan but nobody gives a fuck as they're not chopping off heads and forcing children to marry old men.

In what way am I confusing culture with ethnicity?

ThreadGuardDog · 29/06/2026 21:46

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 21:32

Yes. The worst hassle my girls get is invariably white van men, etc. Walking past a group of men is walking past a group of men.

Do you live close to a migrant facility ? We do - a hotel. My 14 year old DSD and a number of her friends have to walk past it to get home from school. They are regularly followed by men from this facility variously offering money for sex and going into disgusting detail about what they would do to them, and berating them for not covering up their bodies. The police are largely useless, often treating complainants as racists.

Correct me if I’m wrong but as wrong as any sexist behaviour is, white van man doesn’t usually openly target underage girls in public. Stating that all men are a threat is the equivalent of saying ‘look over there’ as a distraction from the fact that we are allowing into this country men from violently misogynistic cultures, who deem it acceptable to marry children and who still allow women to be stoned to death. Men may be a risk per capita, but allowing men from these backgrounds into the country isn’t exactly helping is it ?

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:47

OneAmberFinch · 29/06/2026 21:40

Net migration has fallen slightly since its historic insanely high peak after multiple years of "importing a city full of people every year" and is still extremely high by historic standards, and the government is opening even more routes for people to enter the country...

Lefties in the comments: "LABOUR IS FIXING MIGRATION! WILL THE FAR RIGHT NEVER BE SATISFIED?!?!"

Fallen slightly? UK net migration is falling significantly. ONS estimate net migration at 171,000 for 2025. This is a sharp drop from the peak of 944,000 in the year ending March 2023

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 21:47

nomas · 29/06/2026 20:57

What 'culture' drove Wayne Couzens to rape and murder?

What 'culture' drove James Varley's depravity to baby Preston?

No culture is safe from depravity or misogyny.

Oh here we go , whataboutisim.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 21:47

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:42

Why would anyone send their daughter to Mogadishu, which the Foreign Office has currently classed as a war zone? You wouldn't even get travel insurance.

All war zones are verboten by the FO, including Ukraine.

Nomas, sitting in Iran, chatting shite

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 21:47

daisybanks · 29/06/2026 21:41

Because anyone who has any entrepreneurial skills is fed up with being taxed to death by Reeves and is moving their business abroad.

Laffer Curving them right out the country.

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 21:48

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:45

No one has said this.

They defo implied it. One of the most common responses to anti immigration arguments is "well, plenty of European white men rape too".

I can't see how that response is intended to do anything but minimise the concerns around women's safety.

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:48

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 21:47

Nomas, sitting in Iran, chatting shite

So which part was incorrect? Is Mogadishu not a war zone according to the Foreign Office?

And anyone who disagrees with you must be foreign and not British?

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 21:48

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 21:46

No one is making them leave.
They are leaving because they can. They have the money and the skills.
They believe the country will get worse. We will not be allowed to own anything. We will be taxed on even more.

They are leaving to access better health care. Better education
Less DEI
More opportunities
Better roads
Less business tax.
Less inheritance tax.
Less tax on everything
Less LGBT plus experimenting on children
Less immigrants
More community
More safety

Amusing you think Nigel Farage will be the next Prime Minister.

Fewer immigrants!

Calendulaaria · 29/06/2026 21:50

I'm so sorry. The worst thing is that even talking about it will get you criticised. You absolutely have a right to your feelings about it.

5MinuteArgument · 29/06/2026 21:50

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:47

Fallen slightly? UK net migration is falling significantly. ONS estimate net migration at 171,000 for 2025. This is a sharp drop from the peak of 944,000 in the year ending March 2023

This is because so many British people are leaving.

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:50

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 21:48

They defo implied it. One of the most common responses to anti immigration arguments is "well, plenty of European white men rape too".

I can't see how that response is intended to do anything but minimise the concerns around women's safety.

Your point could have been seen to be misleading that Afghan men are responsible for hundreds of thousands of rapes. I corrected that it was 13 rapes.

That does not imply in any shape form that 'we already have plenty of rapists and murderers in the UK so importing more is no big deal.'

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