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AIBU to feel helpless about a large asylum camp in our village?

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putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 16:15

My village has been chosen for a 1500 open asylum camp for single men. It will be an open camp (as the men haven't done anything wrong so aren't detained.)

The thing is the village only has 700 people and it is pretty isolated. it's about 10 miles to the nearest city and you can walk to another small village. There is a playpark, a pub and a primary school.

It has to go through planning, but the government have changed the planning laws so that they grant themselves planning and you can't see it as it is deemed sensitive. So they will just grant themselves planning and you can't oppose it without a judicial review--by which time it will probably be already open.

They want to reduce the number of people in hotels. But am AIBU to think that this puts the burden of sorting these issues out on one tiny community? Feels like we are collateral damage to be honest. The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 and it feels too much. There is nothing for them to do or places to go. Also the fact that it is all single men put in one massive place with no money or means or anything to do is going to lead to problems

Apparently the camps cost £10 less a night than the hotels. But they don't count the set up costs which are astronomical (the one in Essex was £47 million to set up). So it seems like it's not not even cheaper than the problem it is trying to solve but much more expensive.

AIBU to feel a bit helpless? It seems so unfair but there is nothing I can do. We wouldn't be able to move from the village anyway as no one would buy a house here.

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Livelovebehappy · 29/06/2026 21:50

There are a lot of inhabited islands off the UK. Why can’t they build something there to house them until they process their claims? They can have their own medical centres there and other necessary facilities. Would be a far better option than dumping them in the middle of villages leaving people to navigate the dangers that that situation brings.

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 21:51

Honestly, I don't care whether they're black, white, yellow, magenta, believe they're a woman, believe they're a frog, etc. If they're demonstrating that they're a threat to the society whose taxes are accommodating them, and especially to women and girls, then they can GTFO. It's really that simple.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 21:51

ThreadGuardDog · 29/06/2026 21:46

Do you live close to a migrant facility ? We do - a hotel. My 14 year old DSD and a number of her friends have to walk past it to get home from school. They are regularly followed by men from this facility variously offering money for sex and going into disgusting detail about what they would do to them, and berating them for not covering up their bodies. The police are largely useless, often treating complainants as racists.

Correct me if I’m wrong but as wrong as any sexist behaviour is, white van man doesn’t usually openly target underage girls in public. Stating that all men are a threat is the equivalent of saying ‘look over there’ as a distraction from the fact that we are allowing into this country men from violently misogynistic cultures, who deem it acceptable to marry children and who still allow women to be stoned to death. Men may be a risk per capita, but allowing men from these backgrounds into the country isn’t exactly helping is it ?

Liggtseejer is a disingenuous poster. Probably like Nomas, sitting in Iran, or Russia, drinking coffee and getting paid.

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 21:52

Livelovebehappy · 29/06/2026 21:50

There are a lot of inhabited islands off the UK. Why can’t they build something there to house them until they process their claims? They can have their own medical centres there and other necessary facilities. Would be a far better option than dumping them in the middle of villages leaving people to navigate the dangers that that situation brings.

What about the locals who live on those islands?

ThreadGuardDog · 29/06/2026 21:52

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:45

No one has said this.

They don’t need to. Allowing men to enter the country from countries with deeply misogynistic cultures, often allowing them to marry children, and subjugate their wives is saying it for them.

Carpedimum · 29/06/2026 21:52

I wouldn’t be happy @putupwhatever and I’m sick of anyone being immediately labelled racist if you voice any dissent on the topic. These men have not had the same cultural upbringing, their views, values and mores are not generally compatible with life in the U.K. Their attitude and general behaviour towards females is not respectful and can be threatening. I do know that they get spending money and they also get a daily bus service to major cities, so you might find not as many infiltrate the villages. I’m no fan of the political parties who are jingoistic, but surely this mass of men arriving (to do what?) has to stop. I should say that I’d probably have more sympathy were it not for my intel from friends, but the vast majority are not in desperate need and have not fled terrible situations. Plus most of them don’t give accurate identification information. You have to wonder why and that’s a legitimate question, irrespective of cultural or ethnic background.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 21:52

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 20:57

All these people spouting on about the threat of rape from migrants. Just listen to yourselves ffs! Turn off the GB News or whatever drivel you listen to. You are more likely to be raped by a man you know or on a date. In London or other major cities, we obviously all pass millions of men from all corners if the world every minute of every day. Funnily enough, Im no more likely to be attacked than if I was walking alone in some village or in the countryside. Get a grip people - please.

I suggest most people are not watching GB news but are aware of the attacks, rapes and murders, even those the authorities try to conceal when an asylum seeker is involved.
As for you are more likely to be raped by a man you know or on a date, how does that even compare to the children that are getting attacked by asylum seekers.
Yes many are trying the nothing to see here, no problems whatsoever stance, it’s not working.

caringcarer · 29/06/2026 21:53

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 19:40

They will have the same problem as other parties, ECHR lawyers will prevent them being deported. It would be very hard to leave the ECHR

Legally a government can do so under article 58 by giving 6 months notice.

OneAmberFinch · 29/06/2026 21:53

British Jews are also like 0.5% of the country and have pretty high levels of intermarriage with non-Jews.

It's just in practice much, much easier to manage a population which is say 95% one ethnic & cultural group, and the rest made up of various small 0.5% groups who understand they are not the dominant group and are fine with it, than it is to manage several groups of 5/10/15% who all disagree with each other and have significant numbers. (Note that many cases of ethnic tensions are not necessarily white British vs others, it's e.g. different south Asian groups flaring up over Kashmir or whatever.)

As they say "quantity has a quality all of its own"...

Livelovebehappy · 29/06/2026 21:54

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 21:52

What about the locals who live on those islands?

I said ‘inhabited’, meaning no-one lives there……

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 21:54

caringcarer · 29/06/2026 21:53

Legally a government can do so under article 58 by giving 6 months notice.

But there would be a lot of resistance to that

Nuthatch26 · 29/06/2026 21:54

YANBU OP.
Most people would feel the same. Your poll reflects that, despite the whataboutism in some posts.

daisybanks · 29/06/2026 21:54

Livelovebehappy · 29/06/2026 21:50

There are a lot of inhabited islands off the UK. Why can’t they build something there to house them until they process their claims? They can have their own medical centres there and other necessary facilities. Would be a far better option than dumping them in the middle of villages leaving people to navigate the dangers that that situation brings.

Which islands are you thinking of?

Don't you mean uninhabited ones?

Rockall would be a good start 🙂

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:55

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 21:50

https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2025/jun/30/sexual-violence-tigray-women-abuse-gang-rape-ethiopia-eritrea

These are the men I'm terrified to share a country with. Yet 87% of Eritrean men have their asylum applications approved, and they're one of the main nationalities arriving here.

Male depravity transcends borders. We should be against it everywhere, not just abroad,

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Killing_of_Natalie_Connolly

White male John Broadhurst killed his victim with multiple attacks, including by raping her with a bottle of carper cleaner in her vagina.

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 21:55

Livelovebehappy · 29/06/2026 21:54

I said ‘inhabited’, meaning no-one lives there……

No, you mean uninhabited!

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 21:55

Livelovebehappy · 29/06/2026 21:54

I said ‘inhabited’, meaning no-one lives there……

Sorry, pedant alert, but that is "uninhabited". Inhabited means people do live there.
I do agree with your point though.

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 21:55

ThreadGuardDog · 29/06/2026 21:52

They don’t need to. Allowing men to enter the country from countries with deeply misogynistic cultures, often allowing them to marry children, and subjugate their wives is saying it for them.

👏👏👏

Nuthatch26 · 29/06/2026 21:56

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 21:52

What about the locals who live on those islands?

Clearly the pp meant uninhabited.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 21:56

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:55

Male depravity transcends borders. We should be against it everywhere, not just abroad,

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Killing_of_Natalie_Connolly

White male John Broadhurst killed his victim with multiple attacks, including by raping her with a bottle of carper cleaner in her vagina.

Nomas. It isn't working

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 29/06/2026 21:56

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:36

13 rapes by Afghan men are one too many but trying to represent them as worse than 140,000 rapes by white men is misleading.

Edited

One too many, you say.

Not completely unacceptable?

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 21:57

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 21:54

But there would be a lot of resistance to that

If Reform or the Tories win the next election then they'd have a clear mandate though.

Livelovebehappy · 29/06/2026 21:57

daisybanks · 29/06/2026 21:54

Which islands are you thinking of?

Don't you mean uninhabited ones?

Rockall would be a good start 🙂

Edited

Haha. Yes you got me there. Uninhabited. ☺️

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 21:57

Puzzledandpissedoff · 29/06/2026 20:58

Indeed it's become an entire industry hasn't it

Unfortunately yes it has, @WhatFreshHelll - the scripts I mentioned and the chortling staff recommending "what to say" came from part of it, in this case a local Legal Advice Centre which pretended to be a service for all but was in fact purely an asylum seekers' resource

They even openly admitted they'd lied about this in order to secure their funding, which was crazy because they didn't know me from Adam, but they presumably believed absolutely nothing would be done and so far they've been right

I would go to the papers with this.

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 21:57

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 21:51

Liggtseejer is a disingenuous poster. Probably like Nomas, sitting in Iran, or Russia, drinking coffee and getting paid.

Oddly, I work in construction and in an entire decade have yet to be harassed by the dreaded white van man. Maybe it's my demeanor but for sure most people I've had lecture me about misogyny in my sector have never set foot on a jobsite. When I mention what I do they're usually a bit 😳.

I don't doubt it happens but I do think it's a bit like 'the feminist who shouted at me for holding the door open'. That is to say it probably didn't happen in a lot of cases.

daisybanks · 29/06/2026 21:57

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 21:55

Sorry, pedant alert, but that is "uninhabited". Inhabited means people do live there.
I do agree with your point though.

Edited

The Tories tried to do something similar with the Rwanda Scheme but Starmer thew it out saying it was "gimmicky" 🙄

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