Fed up with colleague rimming this down my throat?

[Glasgowrache]

I’ve a colleague who I get along with at work, we chat and know a reasonable amount about each other.

She has dated a few people over the past year of two, she’s currently seeing someone who is getting divorced. It seems to be getting a bit serious in her words (only been a few weeks) and they’ve discussed buying a house down the line.

He has a very well paying job and she has said they’ll either be able to buy somewhere and be Mortgage free, or buy a big house in a great area which she never thought she’d be able to live in. Great, I do want her to be happy.

My ‘AIBU’ is whether I am wrong to feel fed up with her mentioning his wealth at every opportunity, and how she could never dream of ‘being mortgage free at her age’. It is starting to feel gloaty now…

Rimmer is a bone fide surname...I had a Mrs Rimmer at church group lol but I was innocent then and didnt get the joke

Yes..it sounds like the OP has been having a scandalous affair....that got quite out of hand!! *cluching pearl necklace

This is what I see 😳

So he's married.

Its probably future faking nonsense..Will never happen

I had all this with a colleague - the money, the brand new motorhome, the amazing job, the big plans.

It lasted 5 months tops.

I'd feel a bit sorry for her, she's deluded.

Just be there to hold her hand when it all goes pear shaped. He's probably not even getting divorced.

The title of this post pulled me in. It promised so much.

......

And delivered so little.

I'm gutted. 😭

Honestly? He’s getting divorced and has children. If he really is rich then the divorce is going to take a while … and he will be appalled to discover that his wife is entitled to half.

At best this won’t last long, he wants a distraction but he won’t be in a position to get serious for quite a long time.

At worst, he could really do with somewhere decent to live and someone to help feed / clothe / house his children when they are with him.

🤣🤮

Maybe OP’s colleague would secretly like to be rimmed by her or vice versa?!

She sounds like an arse

I think I’d smile kindly, drink my brew and let her get on with it

I met a girl through work events and became friends with her. She had been with her DP for years - he had a very well paying job, slightly older than her and he had got in at a good time with buying his property so now was mortgage free AND had serious equity

She told me they were looking for large 4-5 bed houses in my area - she has one child who wasn’t his - and she would be mortgage free, able to go part time or if they bought a slightly smaller/cheaper house she could give up work altogether. I even sent her details on a few I’d seen near to me

Ive no doubt she loudly told a LOT of people

Fast forward 12 months and there was no move, they have in fact split up. And she’s back in her smallish house she had rented out to move into his house.

I feel so sorry for her. I’ve no doubt she’s had to have a large slice of humble pie

I would have to change my surname LOL!!! Mind you, when you were younger/when I was younger, the term 'rimm-ing' wasn't a thing (I don't think so anyway. I hadn't heard of it myself til this century ...)

I’d never heard of rimming in my late 20s, I’m now 54.

You're right to be annoyed... That's going to make you late to the fisting... 😐

TbH sounds like shes falling for some serious bullshit. Divorced men do not tend to be rolling in it especially if they have kids.. I'd be more worried about mopping up copious tears in a few months time! but yep a pain to.listen to...

Irritating granted, but get over it. There are plenty of dickheads out there.

Ramming, Rimming both are open to sniggering comments…and I’m hear for it 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Still making me laugh. 😁

Are there sound effects too?

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 just leave me here I’ve died

If it sounds too good to be true, it usually is. Get her a reservation at Heartbreak Hotel. Maybe she has a lot to learn and a few more frogs to kiss before she comes back down to earth.

When my dad was going through divorce I’m sure he was telling his 29 year old gf how loaded he was and how they were going to live happily ever after in a big house.. but he was also sobbing on the phone to my mum every night begging to come home 😭😭 can’t trust a word a lot of these men say

I'd be worried she was setting herself up for heartbreak or at least a very difficult situation. I would be tempted to say that I'm concerned about it all moving too quickly, because he's not even divorced yet, there are teens involved, and even if the friend and the new man stay together, dealing with a recent ex-wife and teens who have just been through a big upheaval is bound to bring a lot of difficulties and challenges.

But she would probably just think you were envious and wanted to be negative.

So I don't think there's much you can do about it except nod and smile, or say straight up, with some humour, "Well, I'm happy for you, but since I'll be working for decades yet, put a sock in it would you!"