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AIBU to think dismissal during probation was unfair given autism adjustments?

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SereneRoseRobin · 03/06/2026 15:37

I’m looking for honest views because I’m not sure whether I’m being unreasonable or whether this was genuinely unfair.

I was recently dismissed from a graduate/analyst role after my probation was extended. I am autistic, and my employer knew this. I had raised the need for clear written instructions, defined objectives, examples of similar work, timelines, and timely/direct feedback. Some support was put in place, including coaching, but I don’t feel the actual adjustments were properly embedded or reviewed before the decision was made.

The difficult part is that the concerns raised about me seemed mainly to focus on communication style, professional behaviour, asking for clarification, Teams messages, and quality assurance under pressure — rather than on whether I could actually do the analytical work. Some recent written feedback said my analytical skills were good, that my work did not contain relevant errors, that I was taking ownership, and that I sought support appropriately. Another person said I had picked up on a complex project well.

The project I was criticised on was not straightforward. I was a first-year graduate with no prior experience in that sector, and I was assigned open-ended/data-heavy modelling work with a lot of ambiguity and short deadlines. Some outputs were expected within hours or by the next day, so there was not much time for structured review. I also didn’t always get timely feedback while I could still act on it. Some feedback came months after the work had ended.
My probation extension was meant to allow support and coaching to take effect, but I was dismissed before the extension period had fully ended. I had submitted evidence of improvement the day before the decision, but I don’t feel it was properly discussed or considered.
The coaching report apparently said the benefit of coaching should be assessed after a longer period, because performance can dip while new strategies embed.

I’m appealing because I think they didn’t properly separate disability-related communication issues from actual capability, didn’t give recent improvement enough weight, and didn’t consider alternatives such as letting the extension run, providing clearer QA/communication frameworks, assigning more standard analyst work, or redeploying me to a more suitable team.

I’m not saying I was perfect. I know there were areas to improve. But I feel like I was assessed against unclear expectations, on complex work, without the timely feedback and structure that had already been identified as necessary for me.

AIBU to think this was unfair and potentially linked to disability discrimination/failure to make reasonable adjustments? Or is this just how probation works, and I should accept it and move on?

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Branleuse · 07/06/2026 12:50

StillNotDoingIt · 07/06/2026 12:14

It’s been mentioned several times in this thread.

The poster I was responding to seems to have very selective ability to read posts yet has a habit of criticising others who miss something.

I don’t think she’s posting in good faith.

Me not posting in good faith, because I'm not going trawling through old threads to try and be Mrs Marple and troll hunting?
Jeez.
I am responding to the OP at face value with the info given. This type of situation is relatable to me, and I think it's really important.

StillNotDoingIt · 07/06/2026 12:56

Branleuse · 07/06/2026 12:50

Me not posting in good faith, because I'm not going trawling through old threads to try and be Mrs Marple and troll hunting?
Jeez.
I am responding to the OP at face value with the info given. This type of situation is relatable to me, and I think it's really important.

You are also misrepresenting people’s posts, and lying, for example above when you claimed he wasn’t let go after misconduct.

Your user name I think gives a good picture of what you are about, you are just here to provoke arguments for fun.

For those who don’t know French, it translates as “wanker.” To choose this and post as you do is consistent at least.

PissedOffAutistic · 07/06/2026 12:58

PissedOffAutistic · 06/06/2026 21:57

Why do you think it is NOT good helpful advice? Speaking as an autistic, it seems very useful helpful advice to me

@Branleuse That's one hell of a leap that I enjoyed the pile on. Please substantiate that or appologise

Taztoy · 07/06/2026 13:02

Oh arsey. I posted the same link twice.

hold on.

PissedOffAutistic · 07/06/2026 13:04

Branleuse · 06/06/2026 23:59

Because it doesn't give anything constructive or helpful.

I get that you enjoyed the pile on, but you don't need to pretend to yourself that it was helpful

@Branleuse That's one hell of a leap that I enjoyed the pile on. Please substantiate that or appologise

[reposting this will the full quote]

StillNotDoingIt · 07/06/2026 17:45

PissedOffAutistic · 07/06/2026 13:04

@Branleuse That's one hell of a leap that I enjoyed the pile on. Please substantiate that or appologise

[reposting this will the full quote]

She’s acting out the user name. Best to ignore.

PissedOffAutistic · 07/06/2026 21:02

StillNotDoingIt · 07/06/2026 17:45

She’s acting out the user name. Best to ignore.

Thank you - I think you are correct!

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