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AIBU for blowing out my nephew’s birthday candles as a joke

415 replies

AliceNotInChains · 05/04/2026 12:34

My nephews 6th birthday party yesterday. He was struggling to blow all the candles out so I jokingly blew the remaining ones out for him. My sister went on a full on strop over it saying I ruined his moment. AIBU to think she’s completely over reacting?? She ended up relighting the candles for him to “have another go” making it a much bigger deal than it needed to be.

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AintNoPunshineWhenShesGone · 05/04/2026 12:50

If this is true and you're not just bored, then yes of course YABU.

blubberyboo · 05/04/2026 12:51

AliceNotInChains · 05/04/2026 12:39

Just to add nephew wasn’t even bothered, he laughed

Yea but you know how girls laugh in awkward situations in the presence if those with more power because it feels like the polite /done thing to do.

Probably this is how your nephew felt.

Its a minor thing to you but i bet he will always remember how you made him feel

Zov · 05/04/2026 12:51

Brewtiful · 05/04/2026 12:44

I find it hard to believe a 6 year old was laughing at his aunt blowing out his candles. You sound like you were just looking to be the centre of attention to be honest.

Yeah, this........

ThatCyanCat · 05/04/2026 12:51

DrFoxtrot · 05/04/2026 12:50

This must be fake surely!

You’re the same poster who insisted on the en-suite being a ‘one person toilet’ when you went away.

Please tell me this is fake and nobody is this self absorbed 😂

Oh my God, that's the same person??

Zov · 05/04/2026 12:51

DrFoxtrot · 05/04/2026 12:50

This must be fake surely!

You’re the same poster who insisted on the en-suite being a ‘one person toilet’ when you went away.

Please tell me this is fake and nobody is this self absorbed 😂

Is it the same poster? Shock

Clefable · 05/04/2026 12:52

Main character syndrome right here.

randomchap · 05/04/2026 12:52

AliceNotInChains · 05/04/2026 12:39

Just to add nephew wasn’t even bothered, he laughed

I don't believe you.

Zov · 05/04/2026 12:53

Flickitspinittwistitbopit · 05/04/2026 12:50

Obviously Op will have got the point by now but I don't even understand how this could be interpreted as a "joke"? How would it have been funny, exactly?

Awaiting the "drip feed" that Op is Neurodiverse.... 🙄

Yep! ^

101Alsatians · 05/04/2026 12:53

AliceNotInChains · 05/04/2026 12:39

Just to add nephew wasn’t even bothered, he laughed

Mine would have laughed out of awkwardness - but I would have heard a lot about it later.

ThatCyanCat · 05/04/2026 12:54

randomchap · 05/04/2026 12:52

I don't believe you.

But even if it's true, it doesn't matter, you don't do that to a kid!

randomchap · 05/04/2026 12:55

ThatCyanCat · 05/04/2026 12:54

But even if it's true, it doesn't matter, you don't do that to a kid!

Agreed.

A dick move

Making the birthday candles about her, not the birthday boy

LilyBunch25 · 05/04/2026 12:55

You didn't need to step in. He's 6. You should have let it be and if his Mum thought he needed help she would have given it.

viques · 05/04/2026 12:55

AliceNotInChains · 05/04/2026 12:39

Just to add nephew wasn’t even bothered, he laughed

Well aren’t you the lucky one that he is a sweet child. some kids would have burst into tears. You only get to blow out your candles once a year, and it’s a big deal.

LilyBunch25 · 05/04/2026 12:56

Zov · 05/04/2026 12:51

Is it the same poster? Shock

Crikey its not that one is it 🙈

holjam · 05/04/2026 12:57

That’s a shitty thing to do to a child, I’d be pissed off if someone did that to my 6 year old.

ClassicalQueen · 05/04/2026 12:58

That’s a horrible thing to do.

viques · 05/04/2026 12:59

DrFoxtrot · 05/04/2026 12:50

This must be fake surely!

You’re the same poster who insisted on the en-suite being a ‘one person toilet’ when you went away.

Please tell me this is fake and nobody is this self absorbed 😂

Was this the one who insisted on using the shared toilet rather than walk down the ooooooh scarey corridor to the ensuite they had insisted they had.

Some people eh! Mind you , if the sun shone out of my arse I would probably insist on the ensuite room……

Pyjamatimenow · 05/04/2026 12:59

Do you have your own kids? Jesus you don’t do that. I’ve watched 40 five year olds stand patiently by while a birthday child huffs and puffs all over cake and not one interfere

Whaddabiacch · 05/04/2026 12:59

What a horrible, twatish thing to do to a kid.
What would possess you to do that.

AquaLeader · 05/04/2026 12:59

DrFoxtrot · 05/04/2026 12:50

This must be fake surely!

You’re the same poster who insisted on the en-suite being a ‘one person toilet’ when you went away.

Please tell me this is fake and nobody is this self absorbed 😂

Whatever you do, please don't point out that it is school holidays! You could find yourself banned 😂

c3pu · 05/04/2026 13:00

Who was laughing at the "joke"?

Everyone = YANBU
Just you = YABU

honeylulu · 05/04/2026 13:01

I thought this was a reversey percy until I noticed OP's use name and realised it's the Toilet Princess. So I can totally believe she would do something like this and consider it acceptable.

Dressinggownlife · 05/04/2026 13:02

What a pri*k

allthingsinmoderation · 05/04/2026 13:04

You don't ever blow out someone elses birthday candles...

fartoomuchtoblerone · 05/04/2026 13:05

Yeah that’s a dick move on a 6 year old