AIBU for blowing out my nephew’s birthday candles as a joke

[AliceNotInChains]

My nephews 6th birthday party yesterday. He was struggling to blow all the candles out so I jokingly blew the remaining ones out for him. My sister went on a full on strop over it saying I ruined his moment. AIBU to think she’s completely over reacting?? She ended up relighting the candles for him to “have another go” making it a much bigger deal than it needed to be.

It's interesting you didn't deny that you did it to annoy her.

What sort of person tries to deliberately spoil a 6 year old’s birthday?

So you blew out 1/3 of his candles. You behaved like a 3 year old.

But you said you did it jokingly, so it wasn't to "give him a hand".

Are you ND OP? Because it's obvious to everyone that you don't blow out candles for anyone else, never, unless asked to do so. Especially not a child's birthday candles. When my autistic DS1 was around 6-8he had a thing about wanting to blow out all candles. I had to lphysically hold him to stop him blowing out people's candles. Luckily he finally got it and today at 16 he would never do it because he knows one is not supposed to do that. Yet here we are, a grown up woman doing exactly this to a child. Because it's "funny".

So excuse me for not feeling sorry for you literally shitting yourself when you feel it's your right to methaporically shit on everyone else- Especially a 6 year old!

Ahhh! Total sense. I didn’t realise Main Character Energy was an actual health condition OP, my sympathies.

No I didn’t do it to annoy her, I did it because he was struggling to blow them all out and dare I say - deliberately struggling because everyone was laughing so I simply joined in on the joke. He did laugh when I did it.

Well, I guarantee you won't get to do it for birthday number 7.....
Post's not going the way you expected it to is it OP?

I won’t be going to the next one. My instincts were correct.

I'm sorry OP, but I too think it was a bad move, although impetuous, I can see that. Lots of parents blow out their kids candles for them if it takes too long, but for you to do it, I think you should have restrained yourself, as he's not your DS.

Your DSis likely wanted to capture the moment; it was obviously a bigger deal to her than to you, or even her DS as he was just living in the moment, as kids do. I would advise you to say you're sorry, to your DSis anyway, to whom it was a big deal.

We were at a 4th birthday party where another child blew out the candles. I felt so sorry for the birthday kid.

Presumably you should know better but you are just a lot self-centred?

You did it “jokingly”. What was the punchline?

gawd - you don’t blow out a child’s candles 😳

Yes YABU.

Exactly, even if you're annoyed with her, you don't take it out on the 6 year old kid at his party (even if you say he apparently laughed)
Blowing your candles out at that age is half the fun even if it did "take ages" or whatever. Why get yourself that wound up over the time he took to blow them all out? You sound dramatic. Or if you weren't really fussed about how long it took, you sound like you were doing it on purpose.
So dick move whichever way you look at it.

I dont have kids, no friends or relatives have kids and I never interact with them....but I believe the correct response in this situation is, 'do you need help?'.
Then do what the kid wants (not act like a giant knob).

That was a really nasty thing for you to have done, and is one of those things that your nephew is always going to remember. It’s irrelevant that your sister re-lit them - you ruined part of your nephew’s birthday celebration. Things like blowing out your candles is very important to children at that age.

No im not neurodiverse. It was a joke. Nephew got the joke, if he’d burst out crying I could understand it but let’s be honest, this isn’t about him is it, it’s about sister and her organised fun.

Good to know you can recognise civility, because blowing out a six year olds birthday candles is not a very civil thing to do.

It's not funny if you are the only one laughing OP, nobody else saw it as a joke especially your 6 year old nephew. Apologise to your nephew and next time you are tempted to do something "jokingly" consider if it'll actually be considered as such by the intended audience.

Sorry, didn’t realise you were there?

I'd have kicked him back.

OP you’re not a nice person are you?
Surely you must know this is poor conduct.

I think maybe you should go and talk to someone as you seem to not understand the impact your actions have on others.

To do this to a small child on his birthday is not in any way funny. If you have to ask here, then I’m wondering what other obvious things you are doing to hurt people, and then say it’s a joke. It’s not your fault if you don’t instinctively know these things but to continue to do them will alienate you from others.

All you need to do is apologise. Then maybe think why you wanted to step in. Reflecting on why we do things helps us grow/ improve.
So many lovely GIFs you could send your sister to say an easy and heartfelt sorry.
Then don't sulk and definitely go to the next Birthday celebration and be a fun and kind guest..all over...life moves on.