Sexual abuse ?????? How ? What? wtf

[TheOpalFox]

Scary shit
ny teenager has a gf. She said my son axles her to touch him and he’s had a warning off the police for sexual abuse! He’s 15!!!!!!! Why are they taking what she said as the truth? Scary world

You what?

Huh?

How old is she?

Scary son, more like

I think you are going to have to be clearer on what's gone on as I have no idea where to start on deciding if I think yabu or not

I assume you will be getting some help with educating him about boundaries and what no means. Obviously you're not capable.

Exactly. Do you think a 15 year old is incapable of sexually abusing someone?

Do you mean he had a girlfriend?

yes

When you say a warning what do you mean? I think if he hasn’t been arrested and interviewed then you should consider he’s been extremely lucky. They are also required to take seriously all allegations made to them. Your comments are pretty offensive actually - what do you think they should do? Just write her off as a liar ?

I'm sure this is very upsetting for you, but at the end of the day, consider it a good warning. Police being involved for him just asking a girl to touch him (presumably intimately) seems a bit over-the-top, so I have to wonder if it was a bit more than that? Did she make a complaint or did her parents (eg maybe they saw phone messages)?

I don't think it's some sign he's terribly abusive but maybe not mature and he evidently made this girl feel unsafe. The most important lesson from this is not 'OMG, girls are manipulative liars, this one is obviously nuts, be careful who you pick!' but be mindful of girls' boundaries and respect them.

Do 15 year olds get warnings off the police without an adult being involved?

I doubt he’s had a warning from the police tbh. OP would’ve been present for the interview

It was a caution. It was his gf and she said he asked her to touch him! She said yes there was no forcement

Is 'axles' a typo or a colloquialism or something?

Sorry for sounding dim but Google is giving me nothing to fit the context.

Asked

why did you allow him to accept a caution?

If it's a caution that's very much not a warning that's him admitting guilt and will be seen on his record until 18 possibly longer given the offence. If it were a caution, tbh this feels like a rage baiting troll post, that has serious implications and he should have received legal advice prior to accepting it. Also there's way more than can you touch me for it to escalate that high.

Goes in to depth. https://www.libertyhumanrights.org.uk/advice_information/what-is-a-police-caution/

Bullit points:

https://www.gov.uk/caution-warning-penalty

It’s hurt me so much. The story is

my son is 15 and goT a gf
she said my son told her to touch him and she said yes? Yes it’s wrong but she said yes? How’s that sexual abuse? Or am I being stupid ? What about it’s not the truth ? What she said?

If he has a police caution he has to have accepted that he committed a crime.

You need to be a bit clearer of events really

If the police got involved then there has to be more to this than two teenagers having a grope.

Have you considered you sons lying and she said no?

No way)!!! Has he done something wrong by asking his gf to touch him and her saying yes. ???? Is that abuse. ?

She’s reported him