Sexual abuse ?????? How ? What? wtf

[TheOpalFox]

Scary shit
ny teenager has a gf. She said my son axles her to touch him and he’s had a warning off the police for sexual abuse! He’s 15!!!!!!! Why are they taking what she said as the truth? Scary world

Yes I have learning difficulties

I suspect we don’t have the full story. It’s not very clear what’s happened tbh.

Did you attend the police station in the capacity of being an appropriate adult?

What actually happened?

Did the police come to your door and take him to the station?

No they just had a chat with him in my house

OP, with respect, your story makes no sense.

You go from stating that they just believed the girl, to admitting he was cautioned so therefore he accepted and admitted guilt, to saying that the police just had a chat with him.

Those points cannot all be accurate at once.

Did either of you have to sign anything?

No?

Then he hasn't had a police caution.

They wrote everything down on a note pad and was saying he’s commited a crime tho? This is why I’m freaked out and I have a disability too so maybe I don’t under stand as well ? :( they were scary

He still hasn't had a police caution.

Firstly they're nearly always done at the police station after a written statement and admission of guilt.

Secondly your son would've had to sign it and would've been given a copy of the paperwork.

It sounds as though he's had an informal telling off.

Sounds like they aren't finished the investigation.
I suggest that next time police are involved that you ask for another adult to be present as you have a disability / learning difficulties.

It's likely the next conversation might be at the station.

It also sounds like maybe you don't know the full story (IMO). When did this incident apparently happen and when did the police arrive?

Police arrived at 4pm
, it happened 7 weeks ago xx

OP he hasn’t received an official caution if he hasn’t been asked to sign official paperwork and was not offered legal advice.
I think as PP have said, the police have had a chat with him. The only other thing it could be is a Caution +2, where they do an initial interview and are then going to investigate, however they would also still have to be really clear that he was free to leave at any time and ask him to sign something.
What’s important now, is that you sit calmly with your son and talk about what happened in the context of consent and coercion.
He’s 15, so he is exploring sex as teenagers do (I know he’s technically underage), but there’s a difference between asking his girlfriend to do something and her consenting and him coercing or forcing her.
I’m not saying he did, but it sounds as if there’s more to this than he’s told you and it’s really important for the future that he understands how consent works.

And when she report?
Have they been dating and sensually active in the meantime?

Wasn’t there anyone else that could have been his appropriate adult, then? You don’t seem to have understood what happened in any meaningful way and will not have helped at all.

Quoting myself to correct typos.

When did she file the report?
Have they continued to be sexually active in the last 7 weeks?

No they have split up xx

When did they split up? Why did they split up?

There has to be a lot more to this story that either you are leaving out or you don't yet know.

Hi OP. Thank you for disclosing your learning disability, I understand why this must be really confusing for you.

You can contact your local police station and ask to speak to the NHS liason and diversion specialist. They are an NHS worker who helps people to get the right support to understand what is happening in a poluce matter. When you speak to them you can tell them:
I have a learning disability
The police came to speak to my son at my house, but I don't understand what they were talking about
My son should have had an appropriate adult with him and I didn't know that. I cannot be his appropriate adult as I have a learning disability

Then ask them what you should do next.