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Unfriending right wing friends

935 replies

nondrinker1985 · 16/02/2026 16:53

One of my school mum friends of around 10 years has started sharing loads of Restore Britain/Rupert Lowe posts.

I’m actually really shocked as she’s an Irish immigrant herself.

I’ve unfriended her which is a shame as day to day she’s ok. Also another mum who has been liking and commenting on the Restore Britain posts, they’ll probably tell me they’re not racist but I can’t be arsed calling them out.

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Happyjoe · 17/02/2026 23:22

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 22:14

Well that's the problem when you think an AIBU platform only includes two people. I'm not surprised your thinking doesn't extend beyond your own comfort zone.

Wibble.

PortSalutPlease · 17/02/2026 23:23

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 17/02/2026 22:49

I have. I haven’t seen THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of the posts you are referring to.

Were you expecting me to post thousands of screenshots…? Hmm Those 2 articles alone have 1.8k laugh reacts and 700, respectively. Add those together. You’re welcome.

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:24

Happyjoe · 17/02/2026 23:22

Wibble.

Care to explain?

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:25

PortSalutPlease · 17/02/2026 23:23

Were you expecting me to post thousands of screenshots…? Hmm Those 2 articles alone have 1.8k laugh reacts and 700, respectively. Add those together. You’re welcome.

Do you normally measure validation by social media responses?

Happyjoe · 17/02/2026 23:26

Teanbiscuits33 · 17/02/2026 23:00

Awwww, don’t you like personal attacks? But it’s okay for you to do it to anybody you think you’re better than? Not my problem you’re insecure enough to hold the views you do.

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In a nutshell ❤

Happyjoe · 17/02/2026 23:27

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:25

Do you normally measure validation by social media responses?

So we should take nothing you've written as valid? Ok, that's sound.

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:30

Happyjoe · 17/02/2026 23:27

So we should take nothing you've written as valid? Ok, that's sound.

It can be as 'sound' as you want it to be. You won't be getting my submission to your passive aggressive, but blatantly clear tactics. It's really quite incongruous of you on a thread about intolerance.

TheActualQueen · 17/02/2026 23:31

notthatoldchestnut · 16/02/2026 17:00

Perhaps you should try to learn a bit more resilience OP. Are you really so arrogant as to think that your opinion is the only one that is correct?

Well op is right in this instance 🤷🏻‍♀️

Somerford · 17/02/2026 23:33

Teanbiscuits33 · 17/02/2026 23:22

You can be unhappy with immigration and you can be unhappy about grooming gangs, but to suggest that all asylum seekers are paedophiles and rapists and only being concerned about Asian men is the issue. You can raise the issue without bringing race into it.

Things have nuance, and your lower standard of living is not to do with immigrants.

When you’re basing opinions on plainly biased nonsense on X or GB News or don’t think past a headline and immediately jump to conclusions based on what Reform want you to believe, that’s when true debate stifles, because if you don’t know the facts, then how do you have real discussion? Thats where I lose my patience with it,

Ok, I'm unhappy with immigration. I don't want any more of it until we've stopped and taken stock of whats gone on in the past 30 years, and come up with a clear plan to remove immigrants whose presence here makes our country worse. If they're a drain on British tax payers, if they're criminals of any stripe or if they're religious extremists I want them to leave. Their skin tone doesn't matter to me, if they tick any of the above boxes I'd like them to be removed. Is that fair or not?

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:35

TheActualQueen · 17/02/2026 23:31

Well op is right in this instance 🤷🏻‍♀️

Is she? If she believed she was "right" why would she be seeking validation from a room full of strangers except to be goady.

EasternStandard · 17/02/2026 23:36

Happyjoe · 17/02/2026 23:21

You really do deny reality, am actually laughing at your response. I'd forgotten you were like this. Ah well, each to their own.

Sure whatever. I can see you’re struggling because even Mahmood wouldn’t back you on this.

Btw you write as if you know me with that weird familiarity when you don’t tg. Happy to keep it that way.

Feel free to engage with others, I’d rather not bother.

Happyjoe · 17/02/2026 23:38

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:30

It can be as 'sound' as you want it to be. You won't be getting my submission to your passive aggressive, but blatantly clear tactics. It's really quite incongruous of you on a thread about intolerance.

I am really finding this amusing. Passive aggressive is what your posts have been about. And aggressive without the passive bit.

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:39

EasternStandard · 17/02/2026 23:36

Sure whatever. I can see you’re struggling because even Mahmood wouldn’t back you on this.

Btw you write as if you know me with that weird familiarity when you don’t tg. Happy to keep it that way.

Feel free to engage with others, I’d rather not bother.

I think you get many backs up because you stand fast. It's an enviable trait that appeasers and apologists can't reckon with.

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:40

Happyjoe · 17/02/2026 23:38

I am really finding this amusing. Passive aggressive is what your posts have been about. And aggressive without the passive bit.

Are we going on to cryptic messages now? If so, let me just refill my glass of shiraz.

EasternStandard · 17/02/2026 23:40

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:39

I think you get many backs up because you stand fast. It's an enviable trait that appeasers and apologists can't reckon with.

God knows but thanks, reading the pp I can say let them talk to others, not worth it.

GaIadriel · 17/02/2026 23:41

Plasticdreams · 17/02/2026 07:10

Have you thought that this might be part of the reason why they are fleeing their county and trying to get their women and children out of there?

Perhaps in some cases. But how can you explain what happened on that NYE in Germany when 1200 women were sexually assaulted in a single night? Seem to have been a few similar incidents, all involving migrants.

Never really happened in Europe before but seems pretty common in the middle east. Loads of reporters have been raped/sexually abused in public in a way that just doesn't happen in Europe. Read Lara Logan's story.

Doesn't mean that all middle eastern men are dangerous, but neither are all men in general. But a complete lack of risk assessment seems foolish, especially if the driving force is misplaced political correctness.

According to a German local government report, the German federal police compared the attacks to "taharrush gamea (collective sexual harassment in crowds)".

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mass_sexual_assault_in_Egypt

Happyjoe · 17/02/2026 23:43

EasternStandard · 17/02/2026 23:36

Sure whatever. I can see you’re struggling because even Mahmood wouldn’t back you on this.

Btw you write as if you know me with that weird familiarity when you don’t tg. Happy to keep it that way.

Feel free to engage with others, I’d rather not bother.

Rather not bother? Thumbs up from me.

Jeschara · 17/02/2026 23:43

I was told when young that someone's politics is like their religion, their own business.
I have a left wing friend, I am not left wing, we disagree and move on.
Also what's the fact she is Irish got to do with it? She has her opinions, they differ from yours that's OK, you can discuss things.
I am in a mixed race relationship and there are things I disagree with my partner as well. We argue, we discuss, we accept everyone has different views.

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:43

GaIadriel · 17/02/2026 23:41

Perhaps in some cases. But how can you explain what happened on that NYE in Germany when 1200 women were sexually assaulted in a single night? Seem to have been a few similar incidents, all involving migrants.

Never really happened in Europe before but seems pretty common in the middle east. Loads of reporters have been raped/sexually abused in public in a way that just doesn't happen in Europe. Read Lara Logan's story.

Doesn't mean that all middle eastern men are dangerous, but neither are all men in general. But a complete lack of risk assessment seems foolish, especially if the driving force is misplaced political correctness.

According to a German local government report, the German federal police compared the attacks to "taharrush gamea (collective sexual harassment in crowds)".

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mass_sexual_assault_in_Egypt

I think the post you are responding to is desperately naive. That's the most civil way I can phrase it.

EasternStandard · 17/02/2026 23:44

Happyjoe · 17/02/2026 23:43

Rather not bother? Thumbs up from me.

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Yep plenty of others for you. Go for it.

genesis92 · 17/02/2026 23:44

SomersetBrie · 16/02/2026 17:45

I'm Irish in the UK. Any vote for Reform basically means they want me gone - or stay so long as I don't get sick or disabled.
It's hard really to stay friends with people who feel like that.

This completely sums up how brainwashed people are about Reform. That you actually think they’re going to deport people like you? Someone from Ireland? They’ve literally laid out the exact type of person they’re going to deport. Look it up

Honestly I had no words for how ill informed so many are about this. Or you actually just enjoy spreading lies and hysteria

Teanbiscuits33 · 17/02/2026 23:45

Somerford · 17/02/2026 23:33

Ok, I'm unhappy with immigration. I don't want any more of it until we've stopped and taken stock of whats gone on in the past 30 years, and come up with a clear plan to remove immigrants whose presence here makes our country worse. If they're a drain on British tax payers, if they're criminals of any stripe or if they're religious extremists I want them to leave. Their skin tone doesn't matter to me, if they tick any of the above boxes I'd like them to be removed. Is that fair or not?

I get that you’re concerned about immigration , believe it or not, us more on the left don’t want open borders either, we just recognise that Farage is a snake and a conman and his way of dealing with the issue isn’t the way to go about it.

We also recognise that the vast majority of immigrants are just ordinary people looking to improve their lives. They are people. Most people who follow the far right playbook don’t seem to have a true understanding of how the system works because they are told bullshit. (admittedly, I don’t know everything) but I endeavour to learn. I don’t want to dehumanise others.

And… what about the other things they’ve said such as leaving the ECHR? You do you realise that’s because they want to strip us of all our rights and pick and choose what protections we can have? Not just immigrants.

Abolishing the Equality Act, what happens when they can treat people like dirt based on disability, sexuality, race, age etc? You think they won’t? People always think they won’t come for them.. until they do?

Getting rid of the OBR so they aren’t accountable for government spending, hmmm.

There will be more that they haven’t said out loud yet and won’t until they get in by which time it’s too late

They want total deregulation so they can have unchecked power and treat their citizens like shit. They’re telling you it’s about immigration as a smoke screen.

You want to wait and risk me being wrong?

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:46

genesis92 · 17/02/2026 23:44

This completely sums up how brainwashed people are about Reform. That you actually think they’re going to deport people like you? Someone from Ireland? They’ve literally laid out the exact type of person they’re going to deport. Look it up

Honestly I had no words for how ill informed so many are about this. Or you actually just enjoy spreading lies and hysteria

Sensalisionalism/drama surround Reform. The party doesn't mind because not only does it lead the polls, it triggers the population that really don't want the great to ever be back in Britain.

Miggledyhiggledy · 17/02/2026 23:50

Teanbiscuits33 · 17/02/2026 23:45

I get that you’re concerned about immigration , believe it or not, us more on the left don’t want open borders either, we just recognise that Farage is a snake and a conman and his way of dealing with the issue isn’t the way to go about it.

We also recognise that the vast majority of immigrants are just ordinary people looking to improve their lives. They are people. Most people who follow the far right playbook don’t seem to have a true understanding of how the system works because they are told bullshit. (admittedly, I don’t know everything) but I endeavour to learn. I don’t want to dehumanise others.

And… what about the other things they’ve said such as leaving the ECHR? You do you realise that’s because they want to strip us of all our rights and pick and choose what protections we can have? Not just immigrants.

Abolishing the Equality Act, what happens when they can treat people like dirt based on disability, sexuality, race, age etc? You think they won’t? People always think they won’t come for them.. until they do?

Getting rid of the OBR so they aren’t accountable for government spending, hmmm.

There will be more that they haven’t said out loud yet and won’t until they get in by which time it’s too late

They want total deregulation so they can have unchecked power and treat their citizens like shit. They’re telling you it’s about immigration as a smoke screen.

You want to wait and risk me being wrong?

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Leaving the ECHR will ultimately prevent foreign pedophiles from hiding behind fat cat human rights lawyers in evading deportation. I guess you'd call that a racist view when it's putting the safety of women and children first. How often do British citizens seek recourse to this court compared to immigrants?

Rewis · 17/02/2026 23:52

I always find these immigration threads interesting. As someone who is trying to emigrate to UK, I understand why it is made difficult for me and why many (maybe even majority?) don't want me there. It sucks for me personally, but I can understand it. There is also a big variation of reactions from brits when I say, I can't move. Most seem suprised.