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To feel very sorry for Vicky B

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Stayinitstoocold · 20/01/2026 11:33

Yes, we don’t know the full story, but so many things being said about the dance story being untrue-they had already had their dance, she’d also danced with her father, Vb was reportedly called onto the stage by her friend, Marc A and was shy to do so. She comes across as a very awkward, sad person, David seems to dislike her and speak down to her. I can imagine she must be devastated and so humiliated by this. No matter the issues, Brooklyn shouldn’t have issued the problems publicly.
I know a lot about issues with Mil’s but my instinct tells me that this could be her and perhaps she has been difficult from the start. She doesn’t have a reputation for being a nice person at all, even before all this and it’s been said there may have been similar situations in the past with an ex of hers.
In comparison, I’ve never seen anyone say a bad word about Vb, the opposite in fact, she seems to have a great relationship with all her other children and the partners, plus a good relationship with Db’s family
She just must feel so devastated and humiliated, your first born that you held in your arms as a baby.

All so sad

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AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 20/01/2026 17:49

@mumofoneAloneandwell my literal experience with my own estranged mum and step dad, although they brought around bullies to intimidate me - just nasty

I'm so sorry, that's awful 💐.
Some of my dad's family were incredible toxic and I had to watch the impact that had on him and his MH. It's often done by people who pride themselves on having a "good" image too.

andIsaid · 20/01/2026 17:50

Victoria Beckham and her husband have always courted fame - they monetize it, but it comes at a cost.

She has spoken at length about the consequences of fame.

Photographers trying to get unofficial snaps.

Lies and mendacity splashed across papers, magazines, and in this day and age, across social media.

She has discussed how it had a negative impact on her metal health. She has suffered from paranoia, depression, anorexia (or bulimia), anxiety.

Knowing all of that, she (and he) still offered the children up at the same altar.

This is inevitable.

TiggerAndHobbes · 20/01/2026 17:50

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 20/01/2026 17:40

Like this?
And he's like "mummmmmm get off".

Yes with some embarrassing swaying added in. Unfortunately he’s made it sound sexual, with comments about ‘inappropriate’ and dancing ‘on him’. Presumably that’s intentional but, wow.

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 20/01/2026 17:51

JontyGentooey · 20/01/2026 11:48

Absolutely nobody forced the Beckhams to parade their children in front of the press from the moment they were born, selling pictures of them to OK magazine and talking in great personal detail about them during all those media interviews. Nobody asked those kids if that was ok.

Brooklyn has had a shit deal, he can't try and do anything with his life without people calling him a nepo baby or laughing at how rubbish he is, like with his photography or cooking and all the rest of it.

Sounds like he finally told V&D he didn't want to be part of Brand Beckham anymore, they were furious and he finally decided to kick back. All a bit sad really but the only bit we know for sure is 100% true is that they should have given him a basic level of privacy in his childhood. They didn't.

YABU.

He's not that bothered about his privacy though is he If he was he wouldn't have written his life story on Instagram and made sure everyone knew about it.
I also don't remember them being many photos of him or the other kids for that matter.
He reminds me of a certain Prince.

ChichesterNona · 20/01/2026 17:52

Regardless of what's going on - you never trash your family in public. These things can never be undone.
If the new wife was had any decency she would be keeping a low profile on any family issues and certainly not trying to drive a wedge between her new husband and his family. This is straight out of the Markles playbook.
Isolating your partner from their family is the beginning of coercive control.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 20/01/2026 17:53

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 20/01/2026 17:14

Exclusive footage!

Excellent 👌 😂😂😂

Rollonsummer1 · 20/01/2026 17:53

@AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta intersting re the image, we have similar with pils who are massively image conscious .

simpsonthecat · 20/01/2026 17:54

I also don't remember them being many photos of him or the other kids for that matter.

I can't believe anyone can say this.
The media was absolutely saturated with pics of them from the day they met, then had children.

Rollonsummer1 · 20/01/2026 17:54

@ChichesterNona well bb thinks that's what they have done to them by trashing Nicola

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 20/01/2026 17:55

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 17:44

That is weird - and it’s the pose from one of her music videos, I’m sure! 😂

You can remember her music videos??! I think I've blocked that whole aspect of her career out of my psyche 😂.

andIsaid · 20/01/2026 17:55

TiggerAndHobbes · 20/01/2026 17:50

Yes with some embarrassing swaying added in. Unfortunately he’s made it sound sexual, with comments about ‘inappropriate’ and dancing ‘on him’. Presumably that’s intentional but, wow.

I took that to be the case.

I mean, I have seen that type of behavior - thank God I have no sons, I am not in danger of that particular faux pas. 😛

If true, it screams of a woman who does not want to get old, does not want to pass the baton, and definitely does not want to lose out being the center of attention.

At a certain point the older ones need to leave the dance floor!

Ipsevenenabibas · 20/01/2026 17:56

There are so many people that I feel genuinely sad for. Victoria Beckham is not one.

Rollonsummer1 · 20/01/2026 17:56

@Stressedoutmummyof3

If both men harry and Brooklyn had never ever been in the spot light they wouldn't be in the spotlight !

I can't understand why people don't get this.

Harry grew up with parents giving TV interviews left right and center and selling stories and writing books about themselves !

PinkPanther57 · 20/01/2026 17:57

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 20/01/2026 17:44

Yes. He just stated that he was sick of being lied about (whether is is or not is a different story) what all that image obsession was like to grow up in and the impact it's had on him. And listed his side of things like DBs birthday. It didn't read as being particularly dramatic to me 🤷.

I thought the details were deeply personal, eg: dancing/dog anecdote were unnecessary & almost vindictive - therefore dramatic, yes.

AintNoKristine · 20/01/2026 18:00

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 17:30

i think she’s said something awful and is now doing the ‘don’t fuck with me’ smug look! Nicola looks genuinely appalled and pissed off

Nicola looks genuinely upset and hurt. Close to tears.

andIsaid · 20/01/2026 18:01

ChichesterNona · 20/01/2026 17:52

Regardless of what's going on - you never trash your family in public. These things can never be undone.
If the new wife was had any decency she would be keeping a low profile on any family issues and certainly not trying to drive a wedge between her new husband and his family. This is straight out of the Markles playbook.
Isolating your partner from their family is the beginning of coercive control.

Why is the new wife the problem?

He says, in his own words, that he is not being controlled, that he is standing up for himself.

Now, why will you not listen to a grown man?

Why are you deciding, for him, that he is reading this all wrong?

And why are you deciding that the new wife is to blame and not his dad or mum?

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 18:02

AintNoKristine · 20/01/2026 18:00

Nicola looks genuinely upset and hurt. Close to tears.

She does! I wonder whether Brooklyn didn’t stand up for her 😬

maybe trying to keep the peace or being unsure

what a mess

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 18:03

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 20/01/2026 17:55

You can remember her music videos??! I think I've blocked that whole aspect of her career out of my psyche 😂.

😂😂😂 just the one, I feel like it was kinda sci fi! I can almost see it omg

with her doing that pose!! Will have to find it it now

Rollonsummer1 · 20/01/2026 18:03

@mumofoneAloneandwell
Yes won that battle perhaps what ever it was and tramped over a young girls feelings in some way from the powerbase of her family.

She's pushed them into the peltz powerbase whjch is bigger better and I imagine nastier and has lost the war.

Catladywithoutacat · 20/01/2026 18:04

You don’t know her, she is not your friend and you did not grow up as Brooklyn

Ladybugsarentallladies · 20/01/2026 18:05

Stayinitstoocold · 20/01/2026 11:55

Up until the recent documentaries, I hadn’t seen much about Harper at all, especially not when she was younger, the occasional family picture maybe, which is not shocking

You don’t remember the topic of conversation online and in newspapers over David kissing Harper on the lips? Came up several times. they’ve paraded her around just as much as the others!

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 18:06

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 20/01/2026 17:49

@mumofoneAloneandwell my literal experience with my own estranged mum and step dad, although they brought around bullies to intimidate me - just nasty

I'm so sorry, that's awful 💐.
Some of my dad's family were incredible toxic and I had to watch the impact that had on him and his MH. It's often done by people who pride themselves on having a "good" image too.

Thank you, 6 years of estrangement this year! I did the right thing but it takes so long to accept!

Your poor dad as well xx - it never happens all at once does its its just years of shitty behaviour and then awfulness when you stand up for yourself

hard agree - the image of being ‘kind people’ in mines case, when it just isn’t true

diddl · 20/01/2026 18:06

Yes won that battle perhaps what ever it was and tramped over a young girls feelings in some way from the powerbase of her family.

Sad if so to feel smug at getting the better of someone half your age who your son loves.

At some point "Brand Beckham" was always going to fold as the kids grew up/got their own lives.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 18:07

Ladybugsarentallladies · 20/01/2026 18:05

You don’t remember the topic of conversation online and in newspapers over David kissing Harper on the lips? Came up several times. they’ve paraded her around just as much as the others!

Oh wow, I’d forgotten about that

they were the original Kardashian’s weren’t they

maybe that’s what they wanted, the Kardashian fame 👀👀

Rollonsummer1 · 20/01/2026 18:07

@SueHarris12 it is stuck on isn't it ?
I could not work it out ?

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