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She's dying isn't she?

610 replies

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 07/11/2025 23:15

Mum discharged herself from hospital today.

Hiatus hernia. She can't eat or drink anything. Literally throws it straight back up.

Can't walk because her lower back is buggered.

UTI in blood. Been given antibiotics but nothing seems to be giving her a boost.

Sat in a sodding chair for 36 hours at A&E. Not slept for at least 48. Said she just wanted to go home.

I'm really scared 😭

MNHQ EDIT to gently suggest that MNers new to this thread take the time to read through all of the OP's posts before answering

OP posts:
ArchieStar · 20/11/2025 22:20

Oh OP. Sending you a hand hold at this time. I know it’s the last thing on your mind but please do make sure PALS knows all about this, the good care and the bad.

we are all here for support. 💐

Jeschara · 20/11/2025 22:25

So very sorry. Thinking of you.

Barneysmomma · 20/11/2025 22:33

So very sorry to read your updates. The MN Community are all holding your hand through this night. x

dancinfeet · 20/11/2025 22:35

sorry to read your recent updates, thinking of you and your family 💐

LizzieW1969 · 20/11/2025 22:43

So sorry to hear your updates, OP, I’m thinking of you and your family.

MrsMillyFluff · 20/11/2025 22:49

Oh OP I'm so very sorry that you're all going through this nightmare. Massive hugs and loving thoughts to you all 💐

Cornishclio · 20/11/2025 22:51

So sorry to hear that your first instincts were correct and that your mum was treated so poorly at the hospital. I hope she goes as peacefully as possible. What a nightmare for you all.

tougholdbirdy · 20/11/2025 22:51

Just read your posts….been through it with my darling mum a couple of months ago. Sending you a big hug and strength .

NewAgeNewMe · 20/11/2025 23:00

I just have to say that it was an honour to be with dad at the end. Heartbreaking but a complete and absolute honour to be his advocate and by his side. Sending you hugs.

McSteamyorMcdreamy · 20/11/2025 23:25

Hearing my 36yo, 6ft 7in, 18st brother shouting "mum wake up"

Broken 💔

OP posts:
Lalgarh · 20/11/2025 23:28

Oh @McSteamyorMcdreamy I am so sorry

MiniMaxi · 20/11/2025 23:28

I’m so sorry OP. My lovely Mum left us on Monday in similar (but different) circumstances. It’s so hard. Wishing you all the best.

HildegardP · 20/11/2025 23:33

May her memory be a blessing for you all.

Roomforapony · 20/11/2025 23:33

I am so so sorry @McSteamyorMcdreamy for the heartbreaking loss of your lovely mum 💔

ohfourfoxache · 20/11/2025 23:34

Oh darling I’m so, so sorry 💔

Nothing is going to make this better. Just take everything minute by minute, or second by second if a minute is too much

Sending the gentlest of hugs x

Apileofballyhoo · 20/11/2025 23:37

I'm so sorry, OP. She is altogether too young to be saying goodbye to. I'm so so sorry.

lazyarse123 · 20/11/2025 23:43

So sorry you're going through this nightmare op. And your brother too it is heartbreaking 💐

sleepwouldbenice · 20/11/2025 23:48

What a rollercoaster of mess you’ve been through. Sending many hugs. X

Lalgarh · 20/11/2025 23:51

Yeah the initial admission and treatment by hospital was fairly dismal from OPs account

Nottogetapenny · 20/11/2025 23:52

I’m so sorry, the only consolation is now she is out of pain. You did all you could and she will know how much you and your brother loved her.
Take care of yourself, memories of your mum will last forever. 🌺

PebbleDashAtOne · 20/11/2025 23:56

Oh no. So very sorry.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 20/11/2025 23:58

This is such a tragedy.

LizzieW1969 · 21/11/2025 00:05

I’m so sorry, OP. Xx

biggestcatmom · 21/11/2025 01:01

So sorry to read this OP, I went through something similar with my DF. Sending you hugs

Jeschara · 21/11/2025 01:09

So very sorry for you and your family.

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