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DH not arranging birthday card for mum

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Letsworkthisout · 02/06/2025 12:53

My DH hasn’t arranged for a birthday card for me from our 2yo son. He got a standard birthday card from the shop opposite from himself and that was it. He knows I don’t want a fuss or money spent on presents but that a card means a lot to me. Already feel that I’m often an afterthought as he’s focused on his career and his social life and that’s his priority. I manage everything else including working myself. Just feeling a bit fed up as I went through years of chronic health related infertility and this stuff means a lot. I don’t want to come across as bratty and demand he organises a card on behalf of my son as that feels like it loses part of the meaning of the card itself. Am I being too sensitive? I know if I bring this up he’ll either apologise profusely and try and make it up (but this is a running theme), or he’ll turn it around and self-wallow about how rubbish he is and can’t do anything right.

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peachescariad · 03/06/2025 14:16

TheArtfulNavyDreamer · 03/06/2025 11:43

Honestly surprised by the number of people who wouldn’t expect a card and gift. We wouldn’t dream of not doing that for each other and it’s also teaching your children from a young age how to treat one another.

Exactly this - I always got a birthday card to 'mummy' with a big, random crayon squiggles in it, followed by name writing (of a form!) from age 3 onwards...as I did for DH.

DappledThings · 03/06/2025 14:16

DipsyDee · 03/06/2025 14:00

it is routine for many many many people. Just because you don’t think it is doesn’t make it true. Thankfully my husband appreciates what I do and wants to show me just as I do him. It really does t take much to do the unthinkable for some people and buy one more card. Try it you might like it

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I really miss the laugh reaction.

DipsyDee · 03/06/2025 14:33

DappledThings · 03/06/2025 14:16

I really miss the laugh reaction.

I feel the same way about your comments

DipsyDee · 03/06/2025 14:34

peachescariad · 03/06/2025 14:16

Exactly this - I always got a birthday card to 'mummy' with a big, random crayon squiggles in it, followed by name writing (of a form!) from age 3 onwards...as I did for DH.

These are the very best cards ❤️

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