Im coming from a place of growing up with zero help, had to get and pay for my own lessons/licence/car, as did DH, so I’m asking for opinions as some people have made me feel it’s well…odd
DDs 18th birthday soon and we’ve bought her a car as a main gift, she doesn’t know. Won’t be much more substantial just a few little bits as we’ve been paying for lessons/car purchase and will be covering her insurance for this year.
Shes got her test just before, it’s the car model she wanted, and I was thrilled to be able to do this for her as we didn’t get anything like it, I can’t even remember my 18th. It took ages to find an instructor with availability and then a while to get a test, hence she’s nearly 18 by the time she’s getting there.
A lot of people seem to think she should have had a car months ago when she started learning, or she should have just got a car anyway and it not to be a birthday gift? I’ve been almost made to feel tight. I would have been chuffed to bits with a car but maybe I’m still comparing to my upbringing too much.
I guess I’m just feeling down that I was chuffed and now feel a bit deflated.
YABU a car shouldn’t be a gift just an expected life thing
YANBU a car is a fine main gift for an 18th birthday