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Who is in the wrong?

59 replies

Needmoresleep89 · 08/05/2024 20:25

DP and I have had an argument this evening and we can’t agree who is in the wrong, so we’ve decided to ask on here. Won’t say who is who for hopefully unbiased opinions!

Person A is stood on their phone, Person B walks past and flicks the phone up towards A. A gets angry and shouts that it’s unacceptable and sits down on the sofa. B comes and sites astride A, laughing and flicks the phone again. A lashes out and hits B on the shoulder.

A feels they are in the right as B has done the phone flicking thing lots of times before, though not regularly. A has expressed how much it annoys them and on occasion has dropped the phone. A feels their reaction lashing out was understandable as they felt trapped under B, B was laughing and did the thing that originally caused the argument again.

B feels that A is overreacting, that it was just a bit of fun and that they came to sit on A to lighten the mood. B thinks that laughing and doing it again shows it was meant to be playful, and that A reacting in the way they did is unacceptable.

Who is in the wrong?

OP posts:
Needmoresleep89 · 08/05/2024 20:26

Sorry just realised I should have posted in chat

OP posts:
MultiplaLight · 08/05/2024 20:28

B is an utter disgrace

PoppingTomorrow · 08/05/2024 20:29

Both being idiots.

Changingplace · 08/05/2024 20:30

B sounds a complete pain in the arse.

2Old2Tango · 08/05/2024 20:30

Laughing because you've done something twatty (twice) doesn't make it "playful", it makes you a twat, and an irritating one at that. B is in the wrong.

Catnuzzle · 08/05/2024 20:30

B. B is ignoring what A has previously said to them in continuing behaviour they've clearly stated irritates them. B is being dismissive and a twat.

HeddaGarbled · 08/05/2024 20:31

B is a total twat

Createausername1970 · 08/05/2024 20:33

B is an idiot. If I was A I would have reacted just the same, if not a bit more forcefully.

GabriellaMontez · 08/05/2024 20:33

B for bell end.

MulledWhiney · 08/05/2024 20:33

B is in the wrong. No respect for boundaries.

LemonySnickets · 08/05/2024 20:34

B is a twat.

HeddaGarbled · 08/05/2024 20:35

Actually more than that: B is a bully who does that common bully thing of “it was a joke/banter/bit of fun” when their victim objects to being bullied.

WilliamButt · 08/05/2024 20:35

I'm guessing from the way you've described it that B is your partner (and an annoying wanker at that)

dreamfield · 08/05/2024 20:35

Next time you post an A and B thread please can you give them pretend names instead? It's too difficult to track nameless alphabet characters in a story.

Fathomless · 08/05/2024 20:36

HeddaGarbled · 08/05/2024 20:35

Actually more than that: B is a bully who does that common bully thing of “it was a joke/banter/bit of fun” when their victim objects to being bullied.

this!

SeulementUneFois · 08/05/2024 20:36

HeddaGarbled · 08/05/2024 20:35

Actually more than that: B is a bully who does that common bully thing of “it was a joke/banter/bit of fun” when their victim objects to being bullied.

This.
B is a bully.

StormingNorman · 08/05/2024 20:36

B is being an arse.

Amx · 08/05/2024 20:36

It's clear your partner is B and they're an irritating cunt.

bloodyplumbing · 08/05/2024 20:37

HeddaGarbled · 08/05/2024 20:35

Actually more than that: B is a bully who does that common bully thing of “it was a joke/banter/bit of fun” when their victim objects to being bullied.

This

Redglitter · 08/05/2024 20:37

B sounds like an annoying pain in the arse

But that aside A shouldn't have hit them

Jokl · 08/05/2024 20:37

Both are in the wrong imo. B sounds unbearably annoying, and I’d be missed off too if I were you, but you shouldn’t have hit him, it’s never acceptable to hit someone.

Firawla · 08/05/2024 20:37

B is wrong - I think you should end it tbh the whole thing is clearly a shit relationship, for A to end up having to physically react as well… just end it.

CelesteCunningham · 08/05/2024 20:39

B is an utter dick.

Ponderingwindow · 08/05/2024 20:40

B is a jerk.

HappiestSleeping · 08/05/2024 20:41

My guess is that the OP is B and we will never hear again.