Partner gave me ex girlfriend's souvenir

[AmIbeingtooprecious]

Tell me if I'm being ridiculous....

My partner of a year bought over some things I'd left round his, mostly a bag of toiletries. However amongst the belongings he put in a souvenir from a holiday he had with his ex girlfriend before me (a pen from a zoo they went to).

I'm pretty peeved as I think it was insensitive and how did he not realise it wasn't mine.

Should I bring it up with him or just leave it?

Its.a.pen.

It is just a pen. In the nicest possible way, I think you are being ridiculous

Just thrown it out if you don't want it. It's a pen.

I think I am being precious but why would he have given it to me?!

He probably didn’t realise.

Because he thought it was yours. Shows how unimportant it is to him

This is a wonderful insight and probably so true - almost all you need to know is here @AmIbeingtooprecious

Why is he bringing your stuff back in the first place, have you split up? Or have you been moving in by stealth

Leave him and find someone better. Someone who doesn't give you old pens.

Do him a favour and leave him.

I would just say it's not mine and give it back to him, he probably just saw it in his house and thought it's not mine, it must be hers. Unless there's some big drip feed where he turns out to be super passive aggressive I'd just put it down to a simple error

He probably just picked up items and did not realise it was not yours - it really is not worth getting upset about.

Is there more to this, as you are coming across insecure and like you don't trust him.

It is just a pen - give it back to him or bin it and move on.

Is this a joke?
He will have scooped it up and rammed it in a bag probably not even noticing.
Highly unlikely he even connects it to his ex because ITS A PEN.

I think, in his eyes, it’s just ‘random shit women clutter up my house with’.

Bin it and move on.

I think you are reading way more into it. Either he didn't realise it was from the zoo, just thought it was something that wasn't his, so assumed it was yours. Or he did clock it was from the zoo and had genuinely forgotten he didn't go with you, which shows his ex isn't at forefront of his thoughts, at all.

Either keep the pen if you like it, give it back, or bin it.

Jeez. It’s almost like you’re LOOKING for problems.

Which Zoo was it????

Your replies have made me chuckle thank you! Back story is he is selling his house to move in with me so we are starting to move bits in gradually.

I am DEEPLY insecure and hate the fact he has exes, I know its daft as I have them too. He knows I'm like this so I guess that's why it wound me up.

Thank you for this 🙂

It seems he knows it's not his, and therefore he has assumed it's yours because that's the only other person who would have things in his house. It suggests that his ex isn't really in his thoughts anymore, so if anything it's a good sign.

So you think he gave it to you to wind you up because he knows how insecure you are? If he is capable of that, tell me again why you decided to move in with him?

On reflection I don't think it was deliberate, just careless. He doesn't have a bad bone in his body. I think I will make a point of saying the pen isn't mine...

But for what purpose? To make him feel bad?
Just toss it and move on. You are giving this too much thought.