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Partner looking at other women on school run

111 replies

Minieggcookie · 18/03/2024 14:43

My partner comes with me on the school run sometimes and is always looking at other mums. One had tight gym leggings and was very obviously looking. I feel disrespected as he doesn’t even try and hide it. What would you do?

OP posts:
Shopper727 · 18/03/2024 15:48

Don’t think I’ve ever seen my boyfriend look at someone else, he’s not like that at all but if he did I wouldn’t like it, it’s not nice to gawp at other women alone or with your partner we aren’t pieces of meat. And to think we should be happy about it in case our partners can’t get it up in years to come? Ew and who says hot to trot? More like a Pervy git who has no respect for you really. It’s not an attractive trait in a person!!!!

QueenBitch666 · 18/03/2024 15:49

@DonnaBanana
'Hot to trot ' 🤮🤮🤮

CookieCrumbles23 · 18/03/2024 15:54

DonnaBanana · 18/03/2024 15:19

No I said he should not be obviously gawping because it's inappropriate, but at the same time if he is going to look he at least has some blood running through his veins. I would tell him off for that but still secretly be glad he's still hot to trot as it were

Oh Donna, please stop. It’s getting worse each time you try to explain it further lol.

tryingtohelp82 · 18/03/2024 15:55

ButterflyKu · 18/03/2024 15:12

I’m going through something similar however mine is more through social media than online. Ended things yesterday and we have children together. It’s disgusting and disrespectful, I’m sick of it. You don’t have to put up with nonsense

Well done 🖤 I didn't put up with it either. He still wants me back years later
Nah!

Deliadidit · 18/03/2024 15:57

Thanks DonnaBanana - you’ve given me a real laugh as have some of the responses to your post and I needed it this afternoon!

DrJoanAllenby · 18/03/2024 16:17

Loudly exclaim ' Put your eyes back in your head and stop drilling over that woman!'

Embarrass him a few times and see if he stops. If he doesn't then bin him.

Obeast · 18/03/2024 16:37

I think if he was drilling the women in public he'd have been arrested by now 😄

@Minieggcookie must still be wrangling her pervy boyfriend after this afternoons lech walk.

CruCru · 18/03/2024 16:41

Herdinggoats · 18/03/2024 15:13

You feel disrespected? What about the poor women who can’t even pull on a pair of leggings to run the kids to school without getting leered at.

What a pig.

Yeah, I was going to say this. The school run is when I really don’t want anyone looking at me / what I’m wearing.

ButterflyKu · 18/03/2024 16:50

tryingtohelp82 · 18/03/2024 15:55

Well done 🖤 I didn't put up with it either. He still wants me back years later
Nah!

Thank you! I don’t feel too great, couldn’t even get through a full shift and ended up getting sent home today but it is what it is.

Well done for not going back, we’re better than constantly being disrespected. It’s no way to live

SherrieElmer · 18/03/2024 16:51

If he wants to look to other women he is going to do it anyway whether your are present or not. He needs to learn how to do it in on the sly to not to disrespect you.

SplendidUtterly · 18/03/2024 16:53

If he does this in front of you, just imagine what he is doing behind your back!

ohdamnitjanet · 18/03/2024 16:57

TigBitss · 18/03/2024 15:15

DonnaBanana is clearly really DerekBanana

Derek Tiny Banana

Mulhollandmagoo · 18/03/2024 16:57

DonnaBanana · 18/03/2024 15:19

No I said he should not be obviously gawping because it's inappropriate, but at the same time if he is going to look he at least has some blood running through his veins. I would tell him off for that but still secretly be glad he's still hot to trot as it were

Absolutely rank! 'hot to trot' 🤢

TheShellBeach · 18/03/2024 17:01

SherrieElmer · 18/03/2024 16:51

If he wants to look to other women he is going to do it anyway whether your are present or not. He needs to learn how to do it in on the sly to not to disrespect you.

W. T. A. F

pinkyredrose · 18/03/2024 17:04

DonnaBanana · 18/03/2024 15:03

Sometimes you have to balance these things. Tell him to stop being so obvious, it's embarrassing. At the same time you will miss it when he's got ED and not interested in sex at all.

WTAF? 🤔

Op he's a pervy twat. Feeling sorry for the women he undresses with his eyes.

Sounds like this is the main reason he does the school run with you.

How long have you been with him?

TigBitss · 18/03/2024 17:34

ohdamnitjanet · 18/03/2024 16:57

Derek Tiny Banana

Derek deffo had erectile dysfunction and is using MN as his therapy session.

PlumbersWifey · 18/03/2024 17:37

Obeast · 18/03/2024 14:54

Do you really need this particular boyfriend? If you choose to keep dating him, stop inflicting him on women who are trying to go about their day.

Agree with this. Dump him or get him to stop being a pig.

TheShellBeach · 18/03/2024 18:00

This thread is bringing out some very odd posts.

MsDogLady · 18/03/2024 18:14

@Minieggcookie, you need to bin this panting dog.

Not only is he highly disrespecting you and these women, everyone around will be noticing his ogling and then pitying you. He is making you and the children objects of gossip.

BigButtons · 18/03/2024 18:19

Thing is @DonnaBanana ED does not stop men leering at women- they just can’t do anything about it🧐

BigButtons · 18/03/2024 18:21

@DonnaBanana ( derek) your standards are about as low as they can get. You are funny though.

AlexaPlaySomeHappyHardcore · 18/03/2024 18:22

Herdinggoats · 18/03/2024 15:13

You feel disrespected? What about the poor women who can’t even pull on a pair of leggings to run the kids to school without getting leered at.

What a pig.

Agree totally with this. Please stop taking this creep out with you and inflicting him on other women who are just going about their day.

Comtesse · 18/03/2024 18:25

DonnaBanana · 18/03/2024 15:19

No I said he should not be obviously gawping because it's inappropriate, but at the same time if he is going to look he at least has some blood running through his veins. I would tell him off for that but still secretly be glad he's still hot to trot as it were

On the school run? Oh mate - no one has time for that sort of nonsense. Checking out the other mums before 9am? Uhhhhhhh no.

User135644 · 18/03/2024 18:43

At least he's not impotent. OP doesn't realise how lucky she is.

thelengthspeoplegoto · 18/03/2024 18:51

He sounds awful. Honestly, I'd be mortified to be with him if this is how he behaves.