Partner looking at other women on school run

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My partner comes with me on the school run sometimes and is always looking at other mums. One had tight gym leggings and was very obviously looking. I feel disrespected as he doesn’t even try and hide it. What would you do?

Pretty sure everyone looks at attractive members of the opposite sex? Obvious staring and leching more problematic but perhaps it’s your perception that he is “full on gawking” fwiw I’ve mentioned to DH how attractive one of the football dads is and he now refers to him as “your boyfriend” so perhaps we are just a bit too relaxed about such things

Yes she’s the problem,

Evaka - "a sex offender ?" For looking at another woman?

Jesus how on earth did you manage to conflate those two points? So ridiculous

@Skippydoodle Does he point men out for you too?
You are attracted to men but never see fit men.. but happy to point out fit women for you both to gawp at.. just more objectification of women going on here.

I don’t know why he is gawping at someone in gym leggings, you
wouldn’t get in and out of school in under an hour here, everyone is in gym leggings.

i feel perhaps @DonnaBanana is in a sexless marriage due to ED and is overdoing the rose tinted glasses a bit remembering the good old days. I do think when you lose a part of your relationship that was such fun, it can be very upsetting and perhaps they are misremembering.

I’m pretty sure most men with a decent appetite for sex don’t perv at mums on the school run. Either every man at our school has ED, or they were all brought up to have manners.

As some people have already pulled you up on your post, I won't bother adding in my 2 tuppence worth! I will just share a bit of information with you @DonnaBanana.

Unfortunately for us, a great many men who have an ED, does not stop them from ogling at, and fancying someone, or even lots of someones. It just means that the men the tablets don't help, can't do much about their fantasies... except maybe get drunk - a lot.

Luckily for me, I think I began to recognise the sleazy lookers when I was still quite young!

He is showing a lack of respect towards the OP but he also is doing the same to these mums: this is a school environment, with kids and the last thing the other women want is some guy checking them out so openly at the school gates...

As for the people who have it is normal to look at attractive people, raise your standards!

It is not acceptable for a man to leer at other women when his partner is with him and when these women just want to get on with dropping or picking up their kids.

The OP should not have to teach him how to behave either. He is a grown man and should know what is appropriate.

Women should not have to 'police' men's behaviour for them to behave decently.

I would get rid of him, OP.

@Itwasafterallallaboutme same, it's so obvious who is slimy.
We see them with their wives and feel sorry for them
ED stops nothing if there's still a sex drive
Thankfully most old men have no drive anymore
But there are still many sleazy men in their 60s/70s, doubt they can get it up but doesn't stop them being grim
I actually tell them to stop being disgusting when I see them look at teens like that, wish someone had intervened for me!

Yuk.

Big, strong, jokey fella having banter with his Stepford wife. Cool.

Kinell. 😂😁😵

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