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Trigger warning: newspaper story involving sex abuse and baby murder. To be furious that this girl has been treated as a suspect and not a victim

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Oioicaptain · 18/09/2023 09:58

I am utterly perplexed by the decision to charge and label the daughter as being in a consensual incestuous relationship with her father. She had 2 babies with him before she was 20. He had another with another of his daughters, which was forced. Who on earth in their right mind believes that any daughter would willingly have a consensual sexual relationship with their own father and choose to father his children and give birth at home without any medical assistance and then kill her own babies?!!! This poor young lady lost her mother at a young age and has doubtless endured years of abuse and trauma. Yet here she is, paraded around by the tabloids and charged rather than being treated as a victim.

Remains of three newborns discovered in 'house of horror' in Poland https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12530345/Remains-three-newborns-discovered-basement-father-54-daughter-20-consensual-relationship-raped-girls.html?ito=native_share_article-nativemenubutton

Remains of three newborns discovered in 'house of horror' in Poland

Depraved Piotr Gierasik, 54, and Paulina Gierasik, 20 (pictured), were arrested after the babies' remains were discovered in shallow graves at the property in Czerniki northern Poland

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12530345/Remains-three-newborns-discovered-basement-father-54-daughter-20-consensual-relationship-raped-girls.html?ito=native_share_article-nativemenubutton

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ShirleyPhallus · 18/09/2023 10:01

Absolutely horrific and I thought the same thing. There is no way on earth the girl was in a “consensual” relationship with her dad

catmom93 · 18/09/2023 10:01

Horrific.

Also "he shaved her head so other men wouldn't look at her " - and they think this was a consensual relationship between equal adults? 😵‍💫

Deadringer · 18/09/2023 10:06

That is shocking and sickening, how can the authorities think that poor girl had any choice?

GretaGip · 18/09/2023 10:10

Unbelievable that she can be charged for having an incestuous relationship with her father

She is totally the victim here.

Abhorrent.

JMSA · 18/09/2023 10:20

What the actual fuck?

It's nurture and a strong psychiatric intervention she needs, not fucking prison.

BrawnWild · 18/09/2023 10:21

I dont disagree AT ALL that she was a victim, but if she is insistent to the authorities that it was a consensual relationship and she is an adult, I dont really know how else they can proceed?

Wishitsnows · 18/09/2023 10:25

I thought the same when I read it. She has been horrifically abused by her father.

SallyWD · 18/09/2023 10:31

Absolutely horrific. Even if she said it was consensual she was clearly either groomed or acting out of fear.
And that photo of her with brown stuff on her face. What's that about?! Is it me or does it look like excrement?
The whole business is horrifying.

IcakethereforeIam · 18/09/2023 10:32

Thank you for this thread I needed somewhere to vent. The news story says he'd moved with the children to that house 15 years ago, after the death of their mother. So, she's been groomed, and possibly sexually abused, since she was at least 5 or 6 years old. It may have started earlier. Iirc there were around a dozen children. I suspect we haven't heard the half of it. This poor girl is 100% a victim.

aduckinarow · 18/09/2023 10:33

Uk authorities not looking so bad now then eh ?

KimberleyClark · 18/09/2023 10:35

Yes she absolutely is a victim.

Weacceptvisaandmastercard · 18/09/2023 10:41

Agreed - she appears to be as much a victim as anyone in this.

SirVixofVixHall · 18/09/2023 10:42

SallyWD · 18/09/2023 10:31

Absolutely horrific. Even if she said it was consensual she was clearly either groomed or acting out of fear.
And that photo of her with brown stuff on her face. What's that about?! Is it me or does it look like excrement?
The whole business is horrifying.

I wondered about that too.
I had a school friend who was raped by her father from around 13 or 14. At twenty she was still living with him. She was so damaged by his abuse and manipulation that she acted like his partner (her Mum had left when she was 15). She did eventually leave home in her twenties and got married, but I lost touch with her and she killed herself a decade later, leaving a baby and a toddler motherless.
To say that a very young woman with her whole life based on abuse is making a free choice to stay is so lacking in any sense of what happens to abused girls.

zoomiesdrivememad · 18/09/2023 10:42

I couldn't believe what I was reading this morning!

She is 100% a victim. How they can say she was consensual. Can't they see that this is what grooming is!

Screams Stockholm syndrome!

Weacceptvisaandmastercard · 18/09/2023 10:42

Is that excrement on her face. It's just shocking.

MoonShinesBright · 18/09/2023 10:43

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35965a · 18/09/2023 10:44

100% agree. The reporting shocked me, when it says it was consensual. She’s been groomed at the very least and abused her whole life, there’s nothing consensual about it, even if she believes herself that it is.

JohnFinlaysNewTeeth · 18/09/2023 10:44

aduckinarow · 18/09/2023 10:33

Uk authorities not looking so bad now then eh ?

What a ridiculous comment. We should set a ridiculously low bar for our own authorities because “at least it’s not Poland?” Depressing you people walk among us.

MoonShinesBright · 18/09/2023 10:46

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Oioicaptain · 18/09/2023 13:05

Well at least I'm not the only one who feels this. I searched online to see if there was any uproar in Poland but couldn't find anything. I feel helpless over this. I'll keep looking and see if there is an online campaign of any sort. This poor young lady needs a lot of help and therapy.

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Oioicaptain · 18/09/2023 13:09

What really fueled my sense of injustice was the tabloids using the term 'incestuous' relationship in their headlines, even if inverted commas. People always ignore the inverted commas and read it as a given. There then proceeded a barrage of comments about how sick they were or how they had never read anything as sick before in their lives! Well, actually unfortunately we do hear about hideous sexual child abuse and yet people seem to think this is different. It's just hideous!

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Deadringer · 18/09/2023 13:11

How on earth could that girl be expected to understand what consent is, living in those circumstances?

IcakethereforeIam · 18/09/2023 13:21

I think (hope) that stuff is chocolate.

I can't imagine, she'd already been impregnated by him at least once, given birth without medical attention and seen her baby...what? Hopefully 😔 stillborn, killed in front of her, taken away and not brought back or was she coerced into killing it? And then it happened again, but this time she knew what to expect. And she had to watch the same thing happen to her sister. This is monstrous. I'm not a believer but this makes me wish for a hell.

ProfessorSlocombe · 18/09/2023 13:24

Just to be pedantic, but in English law, duress is no defence to murder.

(I have no idea how the Polish legal system works).

IcakethereforeIam · 18/09/2023 13:27

It'd be mitigation though. No idea about Poland either.

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