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Original poster

Racist?

71 replies

candlelighter · 10/09/2023 00:29

I was a member of a large facebook group. Think about 500k members.

One poster (white) put up a selfie of a well known black DJ with a "guess who i bumped into "

Several messages made references to other black people eg Linford Christie, Frank bruno and other black people with laughing emojis.

I never post on these FB groups but did post I thought some of the posts seemed racist and i didnt think the vibe belonged on the music FB page.

I have now been blocked from the group (after a pile in by others)

Aibu to think this was racist?

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Acuppaisbetterthanprosecco · 10/09/2023 00:32

I think so, yes. Why have you been blocked? For voicing your opinion on the racist comments?

EmmaEmerald · 10/09/2023 00:32

Definitely racist

Theimpossiblegirl · 10/09/2023 00:34

They're basically saying all black people look the same so yeah, racist.

Coralie1 · 10/09/2023 00:34

Yes, that is racist

RobertaFirmino · 10/09/2023 00:36

Yes, of course it's racist. Implying all black people look the same. Would someone posting a selfie with Sasha get a load of replies naming literally any other white guy?

Sometimeswinning · 10/09/2023 00:36

Out of 500k not one person had your back? Hmmm!!

Anewnamea · 10/09/2023 00:36

yes, juvenile and racist. The defensiveness and collective backlash when you called them out is the MO for groups of racists.

You’re well out of such a group so it’s their loss.

Well done for speaking up.

BackToOklahoma · 10/09/2023 00:37

Yep, disgusting.

FB don’t seem to deal with racist posts. I reported something about a week ago, it’s still there. The racists are all over it, liking it, sharing it, posting laughing emojis and loving the fact they’re getting away with it.

SadSandwich · 10/09/2023 00:40

Well done - it was defo racist

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candlelighter · 10/09/2023 00:42

@Acuppaisbetterthanprosecco yes seems so. I pointed out it seemed racist to comment on a black guy looking the same as eachother. I seem to remember linford christie was the butt of lots of racist jokes in the 80's as was frank bruno. The fact they were mentioned seemed a bit nasty.

The group is probably mainly white people
I would say - it an appreciation of early dance music group.

I was blocked within minutes but still had time to see 6 or 7 comments with laughing emojis and being very defensive. One black girl liked my post and that was it.

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Sucette · 10/09/2023 00:50

Yanbu

Sucette · 10/09/2023 00:51

BackToOklahoma · 10/09/2023 00:37

Yep, disgusting.

FB don’t seem to deal with racist posts. I reported something about a week ago, it’s still there. The racists are all over it, liking it, sharing it, posting laughing emojis and loving the fact they’re getting away with it.

They don't care. I reported a racist post and they couldn't care less.

Icantbelieveitsnotnutter · 10/09/2023 00:55

Isn't it utterly depressing? I used to call out so much nonsense like that but feel like it's a losing battle. FB seems to be full of very ignorant losers, with the rest of us agog at their uneducated bs posts.

BackAgainstWall · 10/09/2023 00:56

YABU
It’s not at all racist.
OTT sensitivity in the extreme.
Turn it around and replace the black person with a white person and you’ll see how ridiculous your assumption is.

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candlelighter · 10/09/2023 00:58

It is disappointing as one thing i loved about the dance scene in the 90's (hence joining FB group) that it was meant to be all about a community coming together to enjoy the music . But maybe it wasn't really - it really opened my eyes today

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candlelighter · 10/09/2023 01:01

@BackAgainstWall but isn't that the whole point?! It is racist because it is about a black person. Racism is against blacks in the overwhelming majority of occassions not against whites. The old racist adage that blacks look the same isn't used on whites

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Coralie1 · 10/09/2023 01:22

BackAgainstWall · 10/09/2023 00:56

YABU
It’s not at all racist.
OTT sensitivity in the extreme.
Turn it around and replace the black person with a white person and you’ll see how ridiculous your assumption is.

There's no excuse any more for this kind of ignorance. Appalling.

StarBloo · 10/09/2023 01:27

This is so similar to a post I seen recently where someone posted with a local celebrity who is bald (and white). The comments were "say hi to right said Fred", "oh where did you meet grant Mitchell" and so on.

JudgeRudy · 10/09/2023 01:33

I'm not sure it's racist, as in a bad way. Surely the 'dig' is at the people who think all black people look the same rather than black men themselves. Trevor McD looks nothing like Linford C so it's just emphasising what poor taste it is by using exaggerated examples. Probably mentioned Obama, Lenny Henry and Nelson Mandela too.

Sporkle99 · 10/09/2023 01:36

JudgeRudy · 10/09/2023 01:33

I'm not sure it's racist, as in a bad way. Surely the 'dig' is at the people who think all black people look the same rather than black men themselves. Trevor McD looks nothing like Linford C so it's just emphasising what poor taste it is by using exaggerated examples. Probably mentioned Obama, Lenny Henry and Nelson Mandela too.

Stop reaching. It's racist.

Coralie1 · 10/09/2023 01:38

It's almost comical the way people tie themselves in absolute knots to try and explain away an explicit example of casual racism.

I'm not sure it's racist, as in a bad way

So there's racism in a good way? I really hope you're not an actual judge @JudgeRudy

BackToOklahoma · 10/09/2023 01:39

And so the denial and minimising begins from the racist apologists. Didn’t take long. 🙄

Talltall · 10/09/2023 05:54

@candlelighter

it’s racist
report it to meta

7Worfs · 10/09/2023 06:01

Well, this is a common occurrence in other fan groups, e.g. a selfie with an actor from Star Trek, and all the comments “guess” actors from Star Wars.

It’s called humour.

JMSA · 10/09/2023 06:08

YANBU.