So it’s almost my daughters first birthday, we want to have a small tea party with just grandparents and aunties and uncles (that’s already 11 people), one auntie has 4 children, none of who are a similar age to my daughter or who see her often (probably seen her twice). Am I unreasonable to say that we would like her to attend however we can not cater for her children as it’s just a small gathering at home??? There will be no other children attending and I feel having 4 children there brings number up even higher and makes it more difficult