To think I can't wear the clothes I want because of a fat stomach?

[CaperTot]

I've always put weight on around my middle. I'm a size 10/12 and quite slim everywhere else but my stomach just looks huge.

When I wear jeans and a top I can't tuck it in because it makes me look pregnant.

I've ended up just wearing baggy jumpers and tops all the time, which I feel rubbish in.

Does anyone have any advice on what to wear?

How could you be unreasonable? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Following with interest as I’m the same

I feel your pain, except my issue is back fat. 🤢

Tops that are skimming and short enough to not need tucking in, but long enough to cover your tummy.

Have you tried spanx/hold me in knickers? High waisted versions I've found can keep it all contained and makes a big difference.
Primark do good ones.

I just feel I shouldn't be so concerned about it. But, when I see myself in photos I just cringe.

I have the same issue. Now I just wear big pants and get on with it and i actually feel good and confident now. Regret wasting good years of my life hiding myself. but it’s very hard so not minimising that for you!

Have you had children? Could you have diastasis recti possibly?

As for what to wear, I have a small waist and actually found confidence in high waisted trousers, that emphasised my waist rather than my stomach and a tight top. Also skater dresses and anything with a belt around the waist.

Yes, I used to live in peplum tops, but I feel they're very dated now! Desperately seeking an alternative!

I know what you mean. I wish I could just not care about it.

I mean this sort of length. Possibly a bit less voluminous if you want though! You need to keep an eye out. They are there.

I have been pregnant a few times, but no children unfortunately.

Here’s another example

Thanks, Cinders!

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I am a similar size to you, and normally my stomach isn’t too bad (bigger than I’d like 😂), however when I go drinking I get really bloated really fast, so have to think on about not wearing clingy clothes. I have a couple of nice long sleeved tops which skim rather than cling, from Vera moda, which look good with jeans. Hush is also really good for skimming tops and dresses. I think that’s the secret, you don’t want to go out looking like you’re wearing a tent, but for me I choose skimming items and never tuck anything in!

Also worth giving stitch fix a go if you’re stuck in a bit of a rut. I’ve had some lovely things from there which I’d have never chosen myself if I saw them in a shop, but actually look really good on me. You do a style quiz so they know what kind of things you do or don’t like, and can set your budget, as well as leave a note for the stylist to explain any issues you have or special events coming up. Here’s a link if you want to give it a try https://www.stitchfix.co.uk/invite/k2rwjf9ctp?sod=m&som=c&g=w

I have this problem and I’m tall so tops don’t even cover me properly.

Shirt dresses tend to be really flattering with a tie waist, try and draw attention to your waist or arms.

Also long black vest top with jeans and a lighter blazer if you still want some colour.

Roman do some flattering tops which are long enough to cover tums and go well with their cropped trousers https://www.roman.co.uk/sleeveless-crochet-detail-cotton-blouse-10023440

I have a similar issue and have recently just started sizing up - so buying the 12 not the 10 - things just seem to look a bit better . Roman do some nice trousers etc which I’ve also been happier tucking things in to as they have a higher waist

Re diastasis recti - I have the same problem as the OP but I had my last child 3 years ago, so assumed that wouldn't be the case.

Try layering a longer vest under your top. I find this draws the eye away from my rounded middle!

Sorry to say - I’m still suffering with an awful stomach due to diastatic recti that developed 10 years ago! I don’t think it goes away. My pysio friend recently confirmed they are still very much seperated. Despite my efforts!