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To be sick of my husband always being nude

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Emptycrackedcup · 20/02/2023 19:57

My DH is very comfortable in is skin so is always walking around naked, outside on the balcony, in the garden etc. I am not comfortable with nudity, and personally I don't think it's fair to the neighbours (I would be annoyed if a neighbour was doing this). Today he was stretching bent over and well you could basically see everything, not very attractive! He was facing the neighbours window (who he doesn't think is home). It's really annoying me as I think it's disrespectful and rude. AIBU?

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amusedbush · 20/02/2023 21:14

Crikey, I'm not a Naked Person at all and would shower fully clothed if it was at all practical. Can't stand the feeling of being nude.

If I found myself face-to-face with DH's bare arsehole while I was trying to make my lunch, I'd have something to say about it.

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Emptycrackedcup · 20/02/2023 21:17

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Yes everyday, although I'm not always around to see it. Why would I feel the need to make it up? It's not his arsehole, that would be too much, and I think definitely cause for an argument

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Yes everyday, although I'm not always around to see it. Why would I feel the need to make it up? It's not his arsehole, that would be too much, and I think definitely cause for an argument

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keepthesecrets · 20/02/2023 21:19

I'm in the UK. I did once look out of an upstairs window and catch sight of my neighbour bent over naked in the garden. My eyes will never unsee that!!

Florenz · 20/02/2023 21:19

Put him on Onlyfans.

Outingmyselfyetagain · 20/02/2023 21:20

DH would live naked if he could. We have kids and he doesn't like the idea of jail so he behaves always clothed. Once the bedroom door lock is on (to stop kids walking in on sexy time not because he might run outside naked) he likes to chill out sans clothes. I don't feel that same urge and i am happy to be in underwear. He's nice to look at so I don't mind. We have a lot of neighbours with kids and everyone can see into our garden (zero privacy) so he could never do what your DH does. That would be, you know, weird 😁

Thindog · 20/02/2023 21:22

I can't see anything wrong with being naked in your own home, but parading deliberately in front of neighbours crosses a line. My Inlaws next door neighbours were naturists and used to sunbathe naked in their garden, my SIL used to invite guests upstairs so they could peer into their back garden and oggle them. That's weirder.

Florenz · 20/02/2023 21:25

My parents used to walk around naked a lot (upstairs, inside the house). It was embarassing when we had friends round.

butterfliedtwo · 20/02/2023 21:25

I mean, if he also walked around naked in the house before you married him, it's weird that you stayed and got that far if it upsets you.

But yeah, that's assuming it's not made up.

AnnoyedFromSlough · 20/02/2023 21:28

So you haven't denied being Jane!

I know this sounds far fetched, but if you are Jane, you really need to tell everyone the story about him gardening in the nude when the vicar popped over.

flutterbyebaby · 20/02/2023 21:30

Can't you get a pea shooter and get some target practice in?

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Emptycrackedcup · 20/02/2023 21:33

AnnoyedFromSlough · 20/02/2023 21:28

So you haven't denied being Jane!

I know this sounds far fetched, but if you are Jane, you really need to tell everyone the story about him gardening in the nude when the vicar popped over.

Not Jane, and don't know any vicars 😆

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AnnoyedFromSlough · 20/02/2023 21:35

Emptycrackedcup · 20/02/2023 21:33

Not Jane, and don't know any vicars 😆

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Ah well. I should introduce you, you have something in common 🤣

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Emptycrackedcup · 20/02/2023 21:49

butterfliedtwo · 20/02/2023 21:25

I mean, if he also walked around naked in the house before you married him, it's weird that you stayed and got that far if it upsets you.

But yeah, that's assuming it's not made up.

Well he does have other positive traits, I guess I need to focus on those! He was 12 years younger then too ... also, not sure if he used to stretch like that ...

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QueefQueen80s · 20/02/2023 21:58

tillyoumakeit · 20/02/2023 20:08

I think we all like seeing our partners naked

Do we?!? 🤣

Was just thinking the same 🙈

RudsyFarmer · 20/02/2023 22:04

Yuk.

Curriedpeanuts · 20/02/2023 22:10

I grew up in a house where my parents were very relaxed about upstairs nudity, and also into naturism. I didn't like it. My dad would sunbathe naked in the garden sometimes but would find a corner that wasn't overlooked. I still think it was totally unnecessary, absolutely nobody needs to see that!

Also I once had a neighbour who said she walked around topless at home in front of her teenage sons because she was Swedish and apparently nudity was normal in Sweden.

I'm sorry, but no teenager needs to see their parents naked!

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Emptycrackedcup · 20/02/2023 22:31

Curriedpeanuts · 20/02/2023 22:10

I grew up in a house where my parents were very relaxed about upstairs nudity, and also into naturism. I didn't like it. My dad would sunbathe naked in the garden sometimes but would find a corner that wasn't overlooked. I still think it was totally unnecessary, absolutely nobody needs to see that!

Also I once had a neighbour who said she walked around topless at home in front of her teenage sons because she was Swedish and apparently nudity was normal in Sweden.

I'm sorry, but no teenager needs to see their parents naked!

Yeah, I think this is exactly why it annoys me. It's unnecessary, and I feel if it's annoying for me why do it. I also would be horrified if a neighbour saw (as I would feel in the same situation!)

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Takethatandparty30 · 20/02/2023 23:21

Are you our naked neighbour? Who does indeed bend over when out in the garden so you can see everything? Quite looking forward to the weather getting warmer so he will start making an appearance again!

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Emptycrackedcup · 20/02/2023 23:23

Takethatandparty30 · 20/02/2023 23:21

Are you our naked neighbour? Who does indeed bend over when out in the garden so you can see everything? Quite looking forward to the weather getting warmer so he will start making an appearance again!

Oh he doesn't bend over in the garden. He will go out on the balcony before and after a shower and stretch 😳🙈 He will though do things in the garden (briefly) naked. If you are my neighbour feel free to ask him to put some pants on!!

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CKL987 · 21/02/2023 00:26

Erm I don't know the rules but could he get into trouble if someone reported him?

bonzaitree · 21/02/2023 00:59

Sounds chilly tbh. Imagine your electric/ gas bill!

no thanks! I’ll stick to jumpers.

custardbear · 21/02/2023 01:12

Best check the indecency laws in your country ... particularly if it's a country that removes body parts for breaking certain laws 🫣

Starshine3 · 21/02/2023 01:14

AnnoyedFromSlough · 20/02/2023 21:28

So you haven't denied being Jane!

I know this sounds far fetched, but if you are Jane, you really need to tell everyone the story about him gardening in the nude when the vicar popped over.

I do love a good vicar story.

mathanxiety · 21/02/2023 01:15

@Emptycrackedcup

You're not the one with the problem.