To be sick of my husband always being nude

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My DH is very comfortable in is skin so is always walking around naked, outside on the balcony, in the garden etc. I am not comfortable with nudity, and personally I don't think it's fair to the neighbours (I would be annoyed if a neighbour was doing this). Today he was stretching bent over and well you could basically see everything, not very attractive! He was facing the neighbours window (who he doesn't think is home). It's really annoying me as I think it's disrespectful and rude. AIBU?

I would insist that in certain circumstances that he puts some short on. Like when outside where neighbours can see and other times that really annoy you. Otherwise, he seems very well balanced.

If visible or possibly visible to those outside, then yes some clothing. Regardless of your own views on nudity.

Indoors: fine. Although you would be entitled to say that you would prefer he puts some basic clothes on. Because there is an hygiene issue as well.

Outdoors: grim. He is forcing his nudity on neighbours, include neighbours' kids. That's not being 'comfortable in his skin', that's exhibitionism and being disrespectful to others.

I should have added I had a friend who lived in a top floor flat in London and the neighbour on the ground floor used to sunbathe topless wearing only a bikini bottom in her garden in the summer. The lady was in her 70s...Residents in the flats above could not help but get an eyeful as soon as they went on their balcony or looked through their windows. I think some people really are exhibitionists.

To help clear up your confusion, if this is serious, this previous poster as nailed the explanation:

Or does he get a kick out of flashing and playing a game of 'accidentally' being caught naked? This is a horrible form of male entitlement. Willy-waving in public. Poor you. He sounds really pervy.

Would it have been better if she was in her 20s?!

The way you talk about your husband (who walks about naked before and after a shower in his own home) suggests that you do not really like him or respect him.

How about saying it to his face in exactly the words you used here? That will do wonders for your marriage.

How would you like, if he came on here talking about your body in this way?

Aside from going into the garden naked, I really couldn’t find issue with the rest. Life’s too short, it’s only a couple of bollocks!

There was a thread years ago about someone who’s Dh never wore pants or trousers in the house.

Not even when his teenage daughters friends were round. I think the poster was desperate!

My grandmothers partner liked to hoover naked. I found this out when I knocked on and caught a flash through the glass door 🤮

He's not pervy or giving off pervy vibes. He's just super comfortable, too comfortable! He's not bothered by nudity, his or someone else's. I think the reason I think its disrespectful to others is just because hes not bothered, it doesnt mean someone else isnt. Although equally I'm probably too uptight and it probably would be nice to feel so comfortable! I'm sure he'd be perfectly comfortable in a nudist colony or whatever they are called. I would not, I'd be wondering where to look. I do think its rude for the neighbours, but I guess he's his own person and I shoudn't let it bother me. Sometimes it's not particularly flattering ie the bending over stretching (touching his toes) or if he's on his hands and knees getting something off the floor. Not sure who would find that attractive 🤔 😆 that I have told him!! Maybe also I don't understand why you'd purposely do something your partner has said they find unattractive.
Thanks all for the replies.

OK ... I find that a bit disturbing!!

Not nice. I wouldn’t like it
have the neighbours complained?

Hey, OP, I have just had a brilliant idea. You should tell him that you have heard that the neighbours have a funny nickname for him like Bollocky Bill, upthread!

Being nude in the garden or in public is too much but I really don’t see the issue about being nude in his own home. I’m female and raised in the UK. I often walk around nude in my own home and when my partner’s here he does too. I’d be comfortable naked in front of friends too eg. in a naked sauna or getting changed in a shared hotel room. A female friend once sent me a nude selfie to show me a rash on her body. So no, I don’t agree that “most women” would have a problem

I love my husband more than life itself. I still don't want to see his balls jingle jangling through the lounge.

I'd get over-exposure of his... exposure and I'd lose all interest.

Even if I'd be stuck in the house with a hot male model for a whole month... I wouldn't find it arousing having it all out on the plate like that. Definitely NOT on my plate.

I like topless beaches. But full on nudist ones.. 🤢

Tim Softy 😆

I think even for Jason Momoa I'd ask he put some (tight, small) shorts on 😁

Is this for real?

Leave him alone. It's not your job to police him.

Its very arrogant of you to push your own ideas of respect and moral superiority onto a loved one who is doing their own thing within the privacy of their home or what you said was non-overlooked garden.

His behavior is eccentric and yes, icky but it is how he feels comfortable and happy so your job is to ensure he trims the verge carefully and doesn't get a nutsack caught in the patio furniture and to otherwise keep quiet. I'd also invest in some throws for the furniture in case of stray grey pubes...

Get a cat.
Get the cat hooked on catnip baubles.
Release the cat next time he's doing his bendy stretch exercises.
I guarantee he'll wear pants in the future.

Yuk!