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WIBU to be annoyed in this cafe?

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Hoppinggreen · 06/02/2023 18:42

Went for lunch today at a local cafe. I was paying as a treat for my friend. Bill was about £30.
When I went to pay the person on the till made a mistake and over charged me by £10. It was actually a lot more complicated as she mixed up my bill with someone else then tried to add on someone’s takeaway but that was basically it.
After a lot of discussion between 2 staff members they said the only thing they could do was refund and charge me again. No problem I said.
So they did the refund and I said it hadn’t appeared back on my banking app to be told that I had to wait up to 10 days to get it. I was then expected to pay again.
I (calmly) said that I wasn’t happy about that as I would have paid £70 for a £30 lunch until the refund arrived. I was told there was no other alternative. I said again that I didn’t think this was reasonable. The staff member who made the mistake kept apologising and I said that it was a simple mistake and everyone made them so she really didn’t need to be upset about it. The other staff member said that I just needed to pay again and if I hadn’t received it in 10 days to call in.
There was a queue at this point so I said fine but I wasn’t happy about it. The staff member then told me that I had “upset” her colleague and was very short with me. I said again that I didn’t blame her for a simple mistake, it was the lack of resolution I was annoyed at. I did not raise my voice at any point and was very calm and measured. We left and I could hear the staff member telling her colleague she could come out now (she had vanished into the back as apparently she was too upset to deal with me) since I had gone. I left feeling as if I had done something wrong, honestly happy to be told I did
Was I unreasonable being annoyed at this? It won’t cause me any issue financially but I’m a bit miffed at being £40 out of pocket due to their mistake for up to 10 days. It might come earlier I know

OP posts:
Supergirl1958 · 10/02/2023 21:10

*in

Supergirl1958 · 11/02/2023 06:48

Blossomtoes · 09/02/2023 20:16

Some of them say it themselves. My stepdaughter, who was born in 1992, deplores the lack of resilience in her generation.

Yep! Exactly this! I see it everyday in my job, we spoke about it on a training course I did the other day!

Supergirl1958 · 11/02/2023 06:53

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 10/02/2023 00:58

I m ‘front of house’ so to speak in a public role and have been made to cry by several ‘customers’ (note I’m not in retail or customer service at all, but in a role that requires dealing with the general public)

You should probably grow up.

Should I? How so @WomanStanleyWoman2 do you know what was said to me or what happened to make me cry? Make me so upset that i considered leaving my role regularly just so I didn’t happen to have to face ‘the customers’ because it isn’t a case of people calmly telling me that I got an order mixed up, it’s full on people shouting abuse and baseless accusations in my face and threatening my livelihood but sure, I’ll grow up and not cry in the face of that! 🤦‍♀️

Supergirl1958 · 11/02/2023 07:01

PuddlesPityParty · 10/02/2023 21:03

Oh no sorry, my mistake you put sadly not unfortunately. Same meaning meant by it though, clearly. Whatever, though.

“at all sadly :(“

Reading back through the thread now as I couldn’t properly last night, you seem to have interpreted more than my post to suit an agenda you have that I am somehow some freak horrible ageist mumsnetter who doesn’t really care! I’ve seen it all now! I’m done!

JackiePlace · 22/04/2023 01:15

I would not have paid but would have said "I will pop out to a cashpoint and come back at some point with the money"... after the original refund has been issued.

HotToddyColdSauvignon · 22/04/2023 05:57

JackiePlace · 22/04/2023 01:15

I would not have paid but would have said "I will pop out to a cashpoint and come back at some point with the money"... after the original refund has been issued.

  • would you have also maybe read the OP’s last post which shows she got the refund 2 months ago??
Blip · 22/04/2023 08:15

OP this was unacceptable.
They should have refunded you in cash with an apology.
You should not have to pay for their mistake (waiting for promised money for ten days is not on), they should be taking all reasonable steps to put things right which clearly wasn't the case here.

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