Not even sure lesphobia is a word 😂 but anyway.
I’m a lesbian, a ‘femme’ so to speak. I’m very secure in this after a few years of figuring it out.
I work in the NHS with a close team, great and supportive no issues there but I have one male, gay (not sure of relevance but adds context) friend. I suspect him to have ASD (I myself am ND).
Anyway, he is a very nice person but I’ve noticed a low level of lesphobia. ‘I need to find you a man’ ‘a man to tame your views’ (I’m very left wing and a feminist) ‘trying to impress the men’ ‘trying to attract a boyfriend’. ‘too pretty to be a lesbian’ ‘too skinny to be a lesbian’
I do not tolerate it, I bite back with girlfriend women not everything is about men why are men so offended by women being attracted to women *why is everything about validation.
When I bite back hard he is very sensitive and apologises for a week. Again I kind of cba with this. I don’t mind banter but he literally doesn’t seem to have anything else. I now just do girlfriend women *woman when he says BF/man and move on.
but yeah, any advice. I have to work closely with this person and in many ways he is a great friend.