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To think women can "get rich easy" compared to men?

76 replies

namechangedtoday22 · 19/05/2022 16:10

This is more of is HE being unreasonable.

My male colleague said to me earlier that he wishes he were female because then he would be rich. He seems to think women can just show off their bodies and get rich. He always tells me I should get on OnlyFans as I'd make a killing. Or be an Instagram "influencer".

I can see his point in a way but I don't think it's as simple as that. First of all, I wouldn't make an OnlyFans account, and second of all, even if I did, I highly doubt I'd be able to generate any traffic as I don't have a big social media presence as it is.

As for being an influencer, there are so many good looking women out there who post on Instagram and the majority AREN'T influencers, nor do they make a living or even any money out of it.

Am I being naive or is he?

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minipie · 19/05/2022 16:11

Stealth boast much? Grin

HellyR · 19/05/2022 16:11

He's a simpleton that understands very little.
There's not exactly a fortune to be made in porn. Ignore the poor little lamb.

DogsAndGin · 19/05/2022 16:12

How disgusting. He has no clue about the reality of women’s lives and lack of safety. We don’t want to be porn stars, thank you, we just want to be paid fairly for the same work that men do. What a revolting misogynistic prick.

tootiredtobother · 19/05/2022 16:12

he's an absolute twit
read The cost of Sexism, it will blow your mind as to how marginalised women are in the world.

ChairCareOh · 19/05/2022 16:13

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FlyingMasticatedParticles · 19/05/2022 16:14

He's being highly inappropriate to be honest. Why has it become acceptable for men to suggest prostitution to women as a career choice, at work of all places?

IntegrityisDead · 19/05/2022 16:14

I don't know about naive but he is certainly an unpleasant misogynistic creep. What about successful male sportsmen - footballers, Grand Prix drivers, tennis players etc they all earn a fortune - ask him why he doesn't try that!!

P1lar · 19/05/2022 16:16

He has the IQ of a flea. A work colleague you say? What a wanker. I'd file a complaint .

jaffacakesareepic · 19/05/2022 16:16

If your male colleague is telling you to go on onlyfans your reaction should be to report him to his manager and/or HR as that is totally inappropriate

He might be stupid, or mysoginistic, or naive or another million different reasons for such idiotic reasoning but that doesnt mean he gets to go around reccomending women he works with become porn stars.

nearlyspringyay · 19/05/2022 16:17

He sounds a delight. Why is he your friend?

MintJulia · 19/05/2022 16:17

Ah yes, us women who generally get paid 12% less than men. We who do 80% of the housework/childcare even when working, while coping with periods, menopause and care of elderly parents.

Gosh, it's a breeze! An absolute doddle !

🤔

Firesidefox · 19/05/2022 16:21

I do see his point tbh. Look at those WAGs. It's rare you get a super rich woman marrying a poor man.

namechangedtoday22 · 19/05/2022 16:26

nearlyspringyay · 19/05/2022 16:17

He sounds a delight. Why is he your friend?

He's not. He's my colleague and I sit with him all day. I definitely would never spend time with him outside of work. Ever.

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mudgetastic · 19/05/2022 16:31

Firesidefox · 19/05/2022 16:21

I do see his point tbh. Look at those WAGs. It's rare you get a super rich woman marrying a poor man.

Possibly because there are fewer women for whom men could be HAB s for - I mean womens footballers don't seem to get the riches their male counterparts do ?

EinsteinaGogo · 19/05/2022 16:37

OP

Why are you talking OnlyFans at work with a male colleague, and/or not shutting down that sort of conversation the moment it comes up?

2orangey · 19/05/2022 16:37

Only a small number of Only Fans models manage to make a living from it. From what I've heard they are pushed to more extreme acts to keep their 'fans' interested. I can't imagine their 'careers' are more than a few years. Anyway your colleague sounds like a misogynist.

GrumpyPanda · 19/05/2022 16:38

Report to HR - this is sexual harassment at work. Disgusting creep.

PermanentTemporary · 19/05/2022 16:43

Onlyfans is a MLM scheme. The high earners on it are 1. The male CEO 2. Bait to encourage other women to open accounts and publicity so that men believe they'll be able to see the cunts of the girls they lust after.

This idea that women are privileged over men because they can fuck their way to the top or prostitute themselves for big salaries is straightforward misogyny, weaponised by the Internet. If it were true thered be some evidence that fucking to promotion actually happens and that women aren't punished for it.

The idea that women could be opening their legs for men but aren't drives some misogynists crazy. Then if they are actually with a woman, they become intensely possessive and punish the 'whores'.

Tl:DR; he's a twat. Avoid.

ValBiro · 19/05/2022 16:44

That's beyond BU, he is just a dickhead.

Startuplife · 19/05/2022 16:47

Well I have a male friend earning around £10k a month from Only Fans so there’s obviously a market for your colleague to get rich quick as well

SleepingStandingUp · 19/05/2022 16:48

minipie · 19/05/2022 16:11

Stealth boast much? Grin

We need the thread from the other day 😂, did you see it?

Yes OP I'm sure it's only certain women who can make lots of money on OnlyFans or Instagram not all of them, glad we've established you're hot enough

Johnnysgirl · 19/05/2022 16:49

HellyR · 19/05/2022 16:11

He's a simpleton that understands very little.
There's not exactly a fortune to be made in porn. Ignore the poor little lamb.

Neither of you sound particularly bright.

Felix125 · 19/05/2022 16:49

Firesidefox · 19/05/2022 16:21

I do see his point tbh. Look at those WAGs. It's rare you get a super rich woman marrying a poor man.

These are only a tiny percentage of the population - and there will me men who marry rich & successful women purely for that reason.

I think your colleague is very much over simplifying everything - and i'd imagine men can make a heap of money from the 'only fans' type industry too.

jaffacakesareepic · 19/05/2022 16:51

Yes in a conversation where a male colleague is advising a female colleague to become a porn star/prostitute, and making it clear he sees her as nothing more than a sex object it is clearly her fault for 'allowing' the conversation to happen and for daring to be 'hot'

Pumperthepumper · 19/05/2022 16:51

He’s going to be absolutely distraught when he finds out about the gender pay gap.

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