My Cousin has copied my Wedding Dress for my Wedding Day!!!

[PrincessA1203]

I am getting married shortly, and have shown my immediate family my wedding dress (those who I trust). I have bought this dress in June time and have gone for something a bit more modern in comparison to traditional Asian brides. My teenage cousin was one of the people who had seen my dress. My family asked for a colour scheme for them to wear to my wedding in which I told them a colour scheme that matches my theme. I then recently spoke to my cousin who told me she has a dress in the specific theme we told her. She sent me a photo of her dress and I am shocked at how similar it is to mine! Its the same shade colour and embroidery and details are the same colour and design too!! AIBU to think this is really out of order!

YANBU

Is her wedding before or after yours?

Do you mean she's coming to your wedding in a dress similar to your wedding dress?

Agree with previous poster.. Depends on wedding timings

Is she getting married or a guest at your wedding?

@LibrariesGiveUsPower45321 she is a teenage girl, she isnt getting married at all, her mum and herself would have chosen this outfit together

@Eyerollsausageroll yes she will be attending as a guest to my wedding

@Eyerollsausageroll

Do you mean she's coming to your wedding in a dress similar to your wedding dress?

sounds like it! Not really on is it...

The same colour, even after you gave them a colour scheme? And same embroidery etc? As her outfit for your wedding?

Can you tell her it’s inappropriate?

Just tell them your colour scheme has changed...

she is a guest to my wedding

I'd speak to your mum who can maybe have a word via her mum (or dad depending on how related you are)

Tell her sorry but that is way too similar to mine. Tell her to get a new one and wear the other for another event.

You’ll have to say something. How did either of them think it would be appropriate to wear something so similar?

Just tell her how similar it is to your dress and how uncomfortable you are about it. I'm sure they'll understand if not uninvited. ;)

@DrSbaitso my colour scheme was to match the whole wedding theme, my dress matches the theme! the embroidery details are ridiculously similar you can barely tell the difference

I’d give her benefit of the doubt that she misunderstood the instructions.

She’s bought a wedding guest outfit that is the same as your wedding dress, to wear to your wedding????? Who voted YABU? Does anyone honestly think it’s ok to go to a wedding dressed as the bride?

@LivingNextDoorToNorma

She’s bought a wedding guest outfit that is the same as your wedding dress, to wear to your wedding????? Who voted YABU? Does anyone honestly think it’s ok to go to a wedding dressed as the bride?

She's a young teenage girl, FGS. Calm down. She probably doesn't even realise that it's a big deal. I would assume she was told what theme and colours to look for and thought she found a great choice. I highly doubt this was malicious.

She’s a teenager who looks up to you, no ones gonna think she’s the bloody bride

I would just change your dress

I was talking to my Asian colleague last week about Asian weddings because they're so beautiful but I've never been to one, and she said that it's all about looking good, and some times the guests even try to out do the bride.

I was shocked because to me I just think every one looks collectively beautiful but she said it's all down to the fine details like the embroidery, so it's a case of if you know you know.

Just say “could you change the dress please or wear it another time, it’s beautiful but a bit too similar to mine”. She’s probably going to be embarrassed unless she’s really spiteful.

I think you need a 3rd party to handle this for you. Have you got a mum or a sister with diplomatic way about them?