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To not be bothered if DS vapes

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Dsvape · 05/10/2021 18:10

DS is 16 (17 in November) and I have found out that he has a vape. I found out because he was seen doing it by a friend of mine. Apparently he goes off the school grounds (6th former allowed out for lunch) every day to do it. He does it with a couple of friends. I honestly can’t get too upset about it he’s almost 17 and it’s not like vaping is horrific for your health like smoking is he’s not doing it on school grounds I am honestly not that bothered by it. I am glad by friend told me but I don’t feel the need to raise it with DS. Or am I being a completely negligent mother if I do that is this something that should upset me? Any advice?

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wanttomarryamillionaire · 05/10/2021 18:13

Ive just found out my DD and DS 17 and 15 do it. Tbh im not happy about it because long term health effects are not yet fully known. However i think with teenagers the more fuss you make about something the more attractive it becomes to them. I made it clear I wish they didn't do it however now I just don't mention it in the hope they grow out of it.

AndOtherStories · 05/10/2021 18:15

I'd be horrified, but also recognise that the only difference me being horrified would make would be to encourage it.

WeKnowFrogsGoShaLaLaLaLa · 05/10/2021 18:18

What is he vaping and where is he getting it from?

LolaButt · 05/10/2021 18:54

It can in the short term cause lung problems which can be fatal. Up to you though. Your kid.

MyPatronusIsACat · 05/10/2021 18:56

@Dsvape

Is he vaping to try and stop smoking?

If not, then he is an idiot, and you are ridiculous to support him doing it.

GoodbyePorpoiseSpit · 05/10/2021 19:15

At least it’s not cigarettes would be my view
It has caused lung issues though so it might be worth encouraging him to research it
The vape juice seems a bit sort of sleazy to me... but I can’t really account for that judgement!

Fallagain · 05/10/2021 19:17

Have you googled popcorn lung or side effects of vaping?

MiniCooperLover · 05/10/2021 19:22

and it’s not like vaping is horrific for your health like smoking is ....

Less harmful but still not great according to BHF.

www.bhf.org.uk/informationsupport/heart-matters-magazine/news/e-cigarettes

LemonWeb · 05/10/2021 19:22

Nicotine causes bladder cancer. So I’d not allow my dc to vape.

DrManhattan · 05/10/2021 19:23

I'd be gutted

Sweettea1 · 05/10/2021 19:23

Vaping to quit smoking then yes thats the purpose of them.
Vaping just for the sake off it I would question why?

VaguelyInteresting · 05/10/2021 19:24

Ummm Google “popcorn lung”

It’s not a harmless habit.

DrWankincense · 05/10/2021 19:26

YABU.
That's like saying it's alright if he does cocaine cos at least it's not heroin. Confused

scarpa · 05/10/2021 19:27

It may not be as bad as smoking but it's still burning stuff and inhaling the burned stuff into your lungs, usually via coils made of plastics - not stuff you want to be breathing in. Certain liquids or faults with my tank make my lungs really hurt.

I wouldn't encourage it (and I say this as someone who took up vaping to quit smoking 6 years ago and haven't yet managed to kick the vaping - it's really addictive and I really wish I'd never started.)

Jenufer · 05/10/2021 19:27

I suspect it will turn out to be just as harmful as cigarettes, and I hate the fact that my DC have vaped or still vape. I think it's revolting, and have told them so. However, they are also old enough to make their own bad decisions about this. The only things that I have said are a) it's disgusting; b) they're not to do it in the house, because I hate it and I don't want the smell of it in the house; and c) I am not funding it. Beyond that, it's up to them to make a bad choice

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 05/10/2021 19:27

I think it's stupid when they haven't even smoked. What's the point? Do they think it looks cool or something

BrendaBubbles · 05/10/2021 19:29

Is he actually doing it with nicotine or just the flavoured ones for making big clouds etc?

Amzpie · 05/10/2021 21:39

I don’t know op I’m torn

Rosehip10 · 05/10/2021 21:40

Yabu. Vaping is common.

3luckystars · 05/10/2021 21:45

Common things are common.

I read that on the back of a teabag.

smallybells · 05/10/2021 21:51

"it’s not like vaping is horrific for your health like smoking is"

It really is. Popcorn lung etc. Teens in America have died from vaping.

It is the same as smoking - you're inhaling things into your lungs that you shouldn't be, that chemically have to be altered to be in a vapour form and are usually full of unnatural flavours etc.

DriftingBlue · 05/10/2021 21:52

How on earth did you arrive at the conclusion that it isn’t harmful to his health?

cricketmum84 · 05/10/2021 21:54

Oh god people popcorn lung is not a thing. Please do more research before you start peddling harmful theories like this.

BurntO · 05/10/2021 21:55

You are ignorant or extremely naive. At least act like you give a shit about your child’s health Hmm

cricketmum84 · 05/10/2021 21:55

www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/causes-of-cancer/does-vaping-cause-popcorn-lung

There you go. "Popcorn lung" is not linked to vaping.