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To think this man is a twat?

63 replies

Movin4wards · 23/07/2021 10:57

Side note, his bio says "feminist destroyer" and "known locally as that creep from Facebook"

To think this man is a twat?
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granhands1 · 23/07/2021 11:04

YANBU, he is indeed a twat. Whoever he is referring to in that vile mental outpouring has had a lucky escape

Foghead · 23/07/2021 11:07

He hadn’t figured out yet common denominator appears to be him.

Movin4wards · 23/07/2021 11:07

@granhands1

YANBU, he is indeed a twat. Whoever he is referring to in that vile mental outpouring has had a lucky escape
It screams Incel doesn't it.

I would bet money on the woman having not lead him on at all, moreso not wanting to be too impolite by telling him straight to sod off.

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SleepingStandingUp · 23/07/2021 11:08

I mean i think any woman os better off not dating him but why would you post it? Do you think someone's going to come on and admit hes their ex? The people who know him can see it so know what he's like. We have no idea if she refused to make him toast one morning or he walked in to her giving his Dad a blow job. Just don't follow him on FB.

ChainJane · 23/07/2021 11:08

If you base your opinion solely off that evidence then he does sound like a twat. But a twat who has been let down repeatedly and treated badly. If you (as in, multiple random people) treat someone like shit, eventually they will return the favour.

If the "bitch" he is talking about behaved badly, I see nothing wrong with his post, certainly no more than some of the things I've written about my exes.

Stompythedinosaur · 23/07/2021 11:08

what a specimen of manhood.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 23/07/2021 11:09

String someone along - possibly means " spend months trying to tell me no but I ain't listening bitch! Oi! Where are you going?"

I've only ever known one man like that - well out loud like that. And the woman he was talking about was terrified of him. Absolutely hysterical if his name was mentioned. After a year, 2 house and a job move later she facebooked something like - feel so good now, alone and safe! - and he responded much like that creep.

Feminist Destroyer my arse! Violent man child, more likely!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 23/07/2021 11:11

certainly no more than some of the things I've written about my exes.

It's no more acceptable when done by a woman and really doesn't make you look good, friendly, balanced etc.

NewlyGranny · 23/07/2021 11:13

A sad case of somebody not learning, by the look of it. If every woman he engages with always responds to him the same way in the end, it might be time for him to wonder if he's going about things the wrong way.

It would be interesting to know his expectations of an intimate partner.
No, scrub that, it wouldn't be.

Movin4wards · 23/07/2021 11:15

I posted it to see whether people think I'm being unreasonable to think it's an atrocious way to speak about a woman.

The post, coupled with his bio, has lead to me judging him quite harshly.

I was interested in what others thought.

I no longer follow him on Facebook as of seeing that tirade. He's a friend of a friend who added me.

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Kinkybutkind · 23/07/2021 17:43

He’s certainly one unhappy bunny. I tend to think people like that are all bluster and noise; yes he’s a twat but at least he’s set out his twattishness in black and white for any woman who cares to look and perhaps give him a wide berth in future. Public Service Announcement at its best Grin

SchrodingersImmigrant · 23/07/2021 17:56

He doesn't sound ok but moaning about someone talking badly about someone else while calling them a twat in a forst sentence is bit... Ironic

DrSbaitso · 23/07/2021 18:00

Well if he knew she would and still let her...

Fool me once and all that.

WorraLiberty · 23/07/2021 18:04

It sounds like the ranting of a very hurt man.

Can you post the bio?

That'll be the deciding factor for me.

Kanaloa · 23/07/2021 18:04

To be honest he’s sort of the best type of gross. He’s putting it all out there as an advertisement. I think more arseholes should tattoo ‘avoid’ on their forehead to help us find out which ones not to bother with.

Much more dangerous are the nicey nice ones who are sinister under the surface.

TSSDNCOP · 23/07/2021 18:07

He is quite cross isn't he?

I do love an open letter, absolutely everyone else is utterly Confused and the person it's directed to doesn't give a rats arse.

Midnightballerina · 23/07/2021 18:10

Obviously if I read that I would think he was a bit of an attention seeking wanker... but it's not really any worse than a lot of the threads on the relationship boards.

veganmayo · 23/07/2021 18:14

Why do people publicly post these outpourings? I’ve never understood.

chunderwunder · 23/07/2021 18:19

Strong 'she won't let me see the kids' vibe.

I'm enjoying the MRA apologists on here though. Any woman who makes excuses for a man who calls himself a 'feminist destroyer' has issues.

SameToo · 23/07/2021 18:26

You be upset and angry without being petty and rude.

It’s horribly cringe and makes him look pathetic.

BrozTito · 23/07/2021 18:27

Im picturing this as him.

Ponoka7 · 23/07/2021 18:32

"I posted it to see whether people think I'm being unreasonable to think it's an atrocious way to speak about a woman."

YABU, the cap might fit. I know women who play men and rinse them, if they can. I know a woman with children who is taking advantage of a man with slight LD's. I know another who has taken advantage of a man's poor mental health to get what she can. She recently got back in touch with him when she found out that he was selling his house, she's had him off to the tune of about £4k, he thought that he was moving in with her.

Ponoka7 · 23/07/2021 18:33

I was ignoring the 'feminist destroyer' and concentrating on his post.

DolphinFC · 23/07/2021 18:36

Depends on how he was treated.

For anyone to make up their mind when they only have a fraction of the story is just pathetic.

He may indeed be an awful man. He may have been treated badly by several awful women.

Without full context this thread is meaningless and needs no further posts however...

CaMePlaitPas · 23/07/2021 18:36

Yikes on several bikes.