To feel like the biggest fucking idiot going

[beenfoolingmyself]

I’m probably just looking for straight talking. Lost a lot of weight. Felt good, got DH to take photos of me and the kids.

I don’t look good at all. I still look huge. I am less huge, I can see that, but still fat and so ugly. I feel really stupid, like I’m on the receiving end of a bad joke.

Sorry. Just had to say it somewhere.

Well done on losing weight. You’ll be healthier for it and will be setting a great example to your children. I’m not overweight and still think I look awful in photos.

I bet you don’t look huge, or ugly. Be nice to yourself. You have lost a load of weight, congratulations, that is an achievement.

If you aren’t feeling very confident you are likely to be more critical of yourself. Focus on your good points. Everyone can take a bad picture now and again, don’t let it get you down.

Brain is really funny, isn't it.
"Oooh, who is that pretty?" In the mirror and then "boom" photo is like someone photoshopped it into a different person.

It's not you. It's the brain

Clicked too early. There was an article long time ago that our brain plays tricks on us like that and that for aome reason we see ourselves uglier on pics

You are your own harshest critic OP, I bet you look lovely. Well done on the weight loss. Don’t be sad.

How much did you weigh before and how much do you weigh now?

I bet you do look great now. I bet you looked great before TBH.

Unfortunately, something in society has created this myth around losing weight that it will solve all of your problems in life and it will make you happy. But it won't. The reality is if you hated yourself before you lose weight, you will still hate yourself once you lose it.

Maybe it's time to start thinking about why you wanted to lose weight, what you expected it to fix in your life and what you actually need to do to be happier.

Well done for losing weight. No one here can judge whether you're still "big" without knowing height and size. What I would say though is that losing weight is a gradual process and every lb/kg/dress size you go down (within reason) is a victory you should celebrate

Photographs notoriously add at least a stone to what you actually look like. I'm sure you look great. We are always our own harshest critics, zoning in on lumps, bumps and imperfections that others will never notice.

I felt like this as well, lost loads of weight (3/4 stone) then had a picture taken and I was absolutely massive! Most have looked shocking before 😬

MASSIVE well done for loosing weight that is a great achievement OP dont be harsh on yourself.

You've just given me the inspiration to do something...Im starting Monday for definite. Ive piled on nearly 2 stones over a year...I can only if in 1 pair of jeans and 1t shirt.

So Im.taking a leaf out of your book and going to make a start. I feel humoungous but we are our worst critics arent we.

We could do it together...maybe others might want to too.

That will happen no matter your size and your not a joke!

I swear I’m a size 10 in the mirror but look a easy 16 in photos, I don’t know how but it just is! I also look really ill in photos and never know how to pose properly!

You never look as bad as you think you do! I remember hating how I looked, in person and in photos but now I look back at those photos and would LOVE to look like that again! As a PP said, you are your own harshest critic.

Well done on the weight loss, that's a great achievement x

You felt great, and happy in yourself, until you clocked what you THINK everyone else sees (and I bet anything you're wrong). In your own mind, pleasing just you, you're quite happy. Hang on to that. What others think - or, more accurately, what you think others think - is their problem.

And well done on the weight loss. It's a marathon, not a sprint...

I look terrible in photographs. I look perfectly presentable in the mirror and even on video calls but photos are of someone else entirely! I'm sure you look lovely in real life

I know this isn't the point of your message, but I guarantee your kids won't look at that photo in 15/25 years time and go "look at fat, ugly mum". They will just love having some nice happy pictures. But if you hide away from having your picture taken jusr because you think of yourself as fat and ugly, I guarantee you that your kids will regret not having pictures of you.

And for the record, I bet you are beautiful at any size. Well done on the weight loss!

You're not fooling yourself - you will look loads better but cameras really make you look bigger than you actually are. I'm really unphotogenic and I always look huge in pictures especially if my arm is in the front of the picture - it looks like a tree trunk. One of the most attractive women I know always looked dreadful in photos. The camera really does lie sometimes.

@Howcanthisbe123

That will happen no matter your size and your not a joke!

I swear I’m a size 10 in the mirror but look a easy 16 in photos, I don’t know how but it just is! I also look really ill in photos and never know how to pose properly!

Oh me too @Howcanthisbe123 😢

I too am size 10 but always see myself as huge in photos whereas I look fine in the mirror.

Everyone tells me I have a great figure but I just don't see it in photos at all. ☹️

I bet you don’t look as bad as you say, some photos are not flattering. We all experience days like that. Don’t be hard on yourself.

The biggest fucking idiot going?

I feel like stepping in to protect you from yourself. Why are you being so viciously nasty to yourself?

Worst case scenario here is that you lost a lot of weight and have seen some photos of yourself that you don't like. Why rip yourself to bits?

Does anybody else speak to you like that, or is it just you?

It sounds like you did a really good job op. I’m not photogenic either. Keep going with the weight loss and don’t be so hard on yourself please, you don’t deserve it.

Really? My brain makes me see myself uglier on pics? I thought it was the other way and my brain tricked me into thinking I looked great in the mirror but the pics reflect reality!

So hope you are right and I look ok after all!

Do you have a picture from before you lost weight? I've recently lost quite a bit of weight and on my 'fat' days, I really find it helpful to look back at my before pictures and see how far I've come. Well done on the weight loss, done give up.

Yes you're an idiot. You think you look fat and ugly, which you almost certainly do not.

Be nice to yourself. See the beautiful person you really are.

Hugs.

Sorry OP YABU. I am the biggest idiot.

Well done for losing lots of weight. It's not easy and you'll benefit int erms of health, well-being and appearance. It might take time for the appearance to filter through. Could be the photo, could be the brain or it could be how rapidly you lost the weight, bodies don't always like rapid weight loss. Keep it off and your body will catch up.

Keep going OP Rome wasn't built in a day. Keep golf slow and steady and you will get to your goals