To feel like the biggest fucking idiot going

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I’m probably just looking for straight talking. Lost a lot of weight. Felt good, got DH to take photos of me and the kids.

I don’t look good at all. I still look huge. I am less huge, I can see that, but still fat and so ugly. I feel really stupid, like I’m on the receiving end of a bad joke.

Sorry. Just had to say it somewhere.

I’ve lost 7.5 stone in 10 months. I look weird in real life tbh. Don’t look any different in photos, apart from a few less chins. Agree with the poster above who said turn the photos upside down and you’re immediately more objective.

None of this makes you a fucking idiot though.

It sounds like you’ve done amazingly, you should be so proud of yourself. I don’t think many of us love the way we look in photos. Just think how much healthier you are and how much easier it’ll be to run around after the children. I bet you are looking great too. Be proud of all the hard work you’ve put in loosing weight isn’t easy.

You have to remember that one is always at least 30% more attractive than any photo a husband has taken of you. They just tend to be really bad at it I’m afraid. Soooo many jokes about this online.
I’ll be reasonably happy with how I look and inevitably the photo my DH takes of me will be all double chin and arm fat.
Huge congrats on how well you’ve done with your weight loss!

Some of us just aren't photogenic. I look fine irl but not in photos.

I hate pictures of myself next to other people because I always look huge, not because I am but because compared to other people I am tall and wide hipped, on my own I look fine but it’s the proportion of standing next to smaller people makes me look giant.

I know a few people who are so attractive face-to-face, they have energy and charisma and just look dreadful in photos. You are being very harsh on yourself.

At my heaviest I weighed in at 15 stone 2lbs. Had a weigh yesterday and I am 7 stone 6 and have been around that give or take a few pounds for about 17 years.

I STILL buy clothes that are too big for me, convinced that the smaller sizes won't fit or that I will look like the side of a house in them!

It's completely psychological. After spending most of my life being fat I just cannot see the weight loss.

I'd bet my house you are nowhere near as big as you think you are.

You need a better photographer, that's all! If you can afford it, treat yourself to a professional session. And well done!

It’s a real “thing” to find ourselves odd looking in photos - we’re used to seeing a (literal) mirror image of ourselves so when we see pictures that show us the other way round our brain thinks we look strange.

www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/selfies-vs-the-mirror-face_n_5a4faf77e4b01e1a4b14cdf9

Why are you being so mean to yourself? You've done great, don't sabotage it.

Are you by any chance pre menstrual, I don't normally feel too bad about myself but the week before my Period I feel like like the biggest scruff on the earth, wake up days later with a bit more self appreciation. Tomorrow will better. Always remember it's good to be alive. X

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I'm like that with video's I hate listening to the sound of my own voice and think is that what I really sound like so I won't take vidoes. You have done really well with losing the weight I will be just your mind playing tricks on you ..

I HATE every single photo taken of me until years later when I suddenly realise I actually looked quite nice and it was all in my head. I bet it’s the same for you op. You are being over critical x

I would bet my first born that in 10 years you'll look at that photo and see a pretty, youthful woman and wish you still had her looks.

You have lost a stack of weight - good for you. You will be fitter and healthier and you will look better. Maybe it was a bad shot or maybe you had unfair expectations (based on crazy half starved insta and Hollywood images?) of what 'good' looks like.

Be kind to yourself and proud of your achievement so far. If you felt sad at how you looked, take it as a gentle sign you want to lose more weight to feel right in every day life. And you've already come a long way towards that. I felt massive this week in photos but know I am a stone lighter than I was last year and way fitter. It's a journey.

OP I had exactly the same thing happen to me about 6 weeks ago. I have managed to lose nearly 7 stone in weight over the last 3 years,and have dropped from a size 24 to a size 16. I still have another 4 stone to lose. In the middle of May just gone,I went out for a meal with a group of 6 friends,and we got someone to take our photo outside the restaurant. My friend showed me the photo a couple of days later,and I thought 'OMG I still look huge!'. My friends have said that I don't,and I suppose I don't look quite as huge as I was,and I've had numerous people comment on my loss. But the mind is a strange thing. I think if you've become used to seeing yourself at a certain size for so long,it's quite difficult to actually 're-see' yourself as you are now.

Look at your photos and try to see a lady that can have more fun and more activity with her children because she has decided to live a healthier lifestyle. I’m sure you look fine but (although you don’t hear it much anymore) beauty is only ever skin deep - and your kids love the bones of you. Be proud of what you have achieved.

Photos do that, l used to be really slim and toned and had a fabulous figure that l would kill for now.
I was tiny, a size 8 at 5ft 8 ins but still had boobs and hips. My now DH took lots of pics of me with various views behind me etc on our holidays, l was either in bikini or shorts and top. I look at those pics and when others have seen them they've not believed me when l said what size l was. Even DH says he remembers me being much slimmer than that when he sees the pics. I look around a size 14 on nearly all of them, which l am now. On pics now l look a size 18.
There are certain poses celebrities avoid such as pics that cut you in half or don't show full length of you, straight on pics are another one that make you look bigger and certain poses make you look slimmer. I read once that Victoria Beckham always poses slightly side on with one leg in front l couldn't be arsed to be honest. I'm sure you look great and we'll done on the weight loss. What does the photographer/your DH think? I'm sure he thinks you look great.