There are three people in our marriage

[Uptheqpr]

What do you do when there are three of you in your marriage ?

But who is the 3rd person? Your MIL? your mum because DH has said this to you? Your cat? Your dog? Context is important here!

Depends if the third person is his girlfriend or his mother.

Get a 4th. I don't like uneven numbers.

What do you do when there are three of you in your marriage ?

Make sure I’m in the middle.

It’s illegal, so shop him /her/it.

Get a divorce.

That's an assumption @Frazzledd , the OP hasn't said that.

MIL?

It depends who you class as a third person… mil, sc, other women, ex partner?

Impossible to answer with such little information.

His work colleague!
Not my choice
Not cool when you had an argument nearly two years ago and he won’t except my apology has withdrawn any affection r attention interest to myself the dog or our house have found out for the past two years he has got I’m self involved with this colleague and her domestic abuse situation I wondered why he was never coming home and now I know covid or not my husband has no interest in me and yet makes time for this woman they go out with each other a lot too god knows what he does behind my back he even said he would do what ever behind my back. I’m all for space but I lost my dad last year he left me to go away on holiday then we have the pandemic I did ask him not too as I couldn’t go on the holiday I have taken on more responsibility at work working harder and longer but still running the house like a mug I realised pretty soon he was never home. I’ve had councilling which helped me see it from both sides and help me approach this subject but he won’t let me in order to do that we don’t speak because he will just attack me and be negative. We don’t contact each other throughout the day his request and he has hobbies he pursues and family so is not home hardly any more I know this may all seem one sided but this is my side in short.

@ginbramble

That's an assumption *@Frazzledd* , the OP hasn't said that.

Yep, well done 👏

Is it Twins?

After the update you’ve given then split up. He’s out of order

Bin him off. Like now.

He's seeing another woman quite openly and has checked out of the marriage?

Time to ditch him.

The dog?
A snake?
Racing pigeons? To be fair probably more than one if racing pigeons.

@Garraty47 - this is Mia - she was the third person in my marriage - she would insist on sitting between Dh and I on the couch, and even trained us to let her sleep on the bed - between us, of course.

Sadly she passed away in January last year - I wish we still had her here.

Sorry cross posted with your update

Sorry - the picture didn’t post. This is Mia, basking in the sun.

If he's not willing to change then I think leave him

Lawyer up and divorce.

Apologies for my flippant post, @Uptheqpr. It sounds like a really horrible situation for you.

You don't seem to have a marriage in all honesty. So just make that official.

He doesn't have to allow it. You can just do it.