@Uptheqpr
His work colleague!
Not my choice
Not cool when you had an argument nearly two years ago and he won’t except my apology has withdrawn any affection r attention interest to myself the dog or our house have found out for the past two years he has got I’m self involved with this colleague and her domestic abuse situation I wondered why he was never coming home and now I know covid or not my husband has no interest in me and yet makes time for this woman they go out with each other a lot too god knows what he does behind my back he even said he would do what ever behind my back. I’m all for space but I lost my dad last year he left me to go away on holiday then we have the pandemic I did ask him not too as I couldn’t go on the holiday I have taken on more responsibility at work working harder and longer but still running the house like a mug I realised pretty soon he was never home. I’ve had councilling which helped me see it from both sides and help me approach this subject but he won’t let me in order to do that we don’t speak because he will just attack me and be negative. We don’t contact each other throughout the day his request and he has hobbies he pursues and family so is not home hardly any more I know this may all seem one sided but this is my side in short.
OK, so actually there are 4 in this marriage, not 3.
You, DH, colleague, dog.
How about you brace yourself, leave DH & colleague to it, & start again - just you & the dog?
As DH is ignoring you & dog, you may as well take control instead of waiting & wondering.
No need to do the Pick Me Dance - the excellent Chump Lady explains all here - www.chumplady.com/2012/04/the-humiliating-dance-of-pick-me/
I know this may all seem one sided but this is my side in short.
You're allowed to post your own side, you're here for support for you, not anyone else in this sad scenario. I am sorry for what you are going through, but there IS only one way through it, & that's to take charge & end it.
I’ve had councilling which helped me see it from both sides and help me approach this subject but he won’t let me in order to do that we don’t speak because he will just attack me and be negative.
Please access some more counselling, this time focused on YOUR side & YOUR interests.
Why focus on the "side" of a man who is being horrible to you & is playing away?
I'm getting tired, so please forgive bluntness, I know you must be reeling, confused & in pain. So take this post as a short sharp dose of Tough Love - & look after YOURSELF, not this doomed & miserable marriage.
