AIBU?
to tell my grandma she’s being irresponsible with lockdown rules?
nina3638 · 13/04/2021 19:39
sorry if this is the wrong topic
my grandma is 80 - she stuck to lockdown religiously the first couple of times but this time has not at all. she lives on her own and says anyone she likes can come over as if they get caught she’ll just say they’re her support bubble. i’ve kind of ignored the whole thing as i was under the impression everyone going to visit her (inside her house) knew the others were doing it. i haven’t visited her as have been pregnant/just had a baby.
a few days ago i was on the phone to her and she had some family friends over. one is terminally ill with prostate cancer and is going through treatment so pretty vulnerable. when i called back i said i was surprised he wanted to risk being at her house when she’s been having multiple visitors over all the time and has been taking risks. she said she lied to them and said they were the only people she’d seen in months.
i haven’t talked to her much since (this was last week) as i feel really uncomfortable knowing she’s risking someone who is very vulnerable by lying to them. it’s one thing if she was honest and he still chose to visit but he was under the impression that she hadn’t left the house or seen anyone in months and is therefore safe.
aibu to feel like i should say something to her?
You can criticise her, or have a word, but I doubt it will make any difference.Butchyrestingface · 13/04/2021 19:43
aibu to feel like i should say something to her?
I don't know whether you should say something to her (is there any point?) but I'd be thinking about saying something to the poor bastard who came over to see her in case he decides to go back.
Do you know who it is? Has he been vaccinated already?
Writerandreader · 13/04/2021 19:46
Wow you are being very judgemental and harsh on someone elderly who has lived through a year of lockdown. Are you in the UK? Presumably all these vulnerable and elderly people you refer to have been vaccinated?
Do you know the country is now coming out of lockdown and its been incredibly difficult for people.
I just cannot understand people who judge others for minor breaches of incredibly harsh rules we have all followed for a year.
Yoh aren't speaking to your own grandparent over a minor lockdown rule breach????
nina3638 · 13/04/2021 19:57
@HavelockVetinari as i’ve already mentioned i don’t really care about her meeting other people. i’ve said absolutely nothing about it - but i really think the lying is crossing a line. her friend can’t make an informed decision if they’re being lied to surely?
Umbivalent · 13/04/2021 20:05
@Ostryga
Just let them get on with their lives.
Yes. He assesses the risk on the information he is given. He is obviously wrong to trust OP's grandmother. Which is a shame.
Oh and by the way, the vaccine is not 100% effective. Which is why we still need social distancing.
lazyarse123 · 13/04/2021 20:08
@Ostryga
Just let them get on with their lives.
He made the decision after grandma told him she'd not been seeing people.
Some of the replies on here are horrible especially the one about him dying anyway.
Covidbegone · 13/04/2021 20:13
I think I’m currently in the everybody’s lying to themselves a bit mode. What I mean is that we have been pretty cautious until now when all our parents have been jabbed. But MIL for example seems to think she can see many different people, so long as it’s only one at a time 😬 we have tried to explain that’s not quite right. But then we have family who have their family to stay, and It’s been suggested they were part of an extended bubble, again not quite right as the extended family don’t live alone. I think people just make up the rules to make their situation suit tbh. I think all we can truly hope for is that enough people reduce contact to get shot of the pandemic for good 🤞
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