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Feminism and transphobia

65 replies

CatsArePeopleToo · 02/08/2020 15:14

Are we supposed to include males in everything now? Facebook/Twitter feels like an alternate reality.

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sst1234 · 02/08/2020 15:22

This should be interesting.

CatsArePeopleToo · 02/08/2020 15:25

I've been banned from some supposedly feminist groups on Facebook. Crime - being a terf and a swerf Confused

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GrumpiestOldWoman · 02/08/2020 15:27

You mean 'ejaculators'?

Dugsbollox · 02/08/2020 15:28

Whats a swerf?

There's a group of very vocal people on Twitter/FB who bully people into bending to their version of reality. When I speak to people irl about this sort of thing, we're of a different opinion than Twitter mafia would have you believe.

CatsArePeopleToo · 02/08/2020 15:30

I find the whole thing pretty amusing, yet disturbing.

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CaveMum · 02/08/2020 15:33

@Dugsbollox

Whats a swerf?

There's a group of very vocal people on Twitter/FB who bully people into bending to their version of reality. When I speak to people irl about this sort of thing, we're of a different opinion than Twitter mafia would have you believe.

SWERF = Sex Worker Exclusionary Radical Feminist. AKA you don’t agree that all sex work is wonderful and empowering for all women.
Dugsbollox · 02/08/2020 15:37

Ah, I see!

BelleSausage · 02/08/2020 15:37

I find it all quite sad really. There are lots of very advantaged women out there who seem to believe that they speak for the entire of womanhood in centring men’s desires in feminism in the name of inclusivity.

I do wish they would take a good hard look at the lofty position they stand on to preach this horse shit.

There is a whole generation of women who have been gaslit into thinking prostitution is an empowering choice for most people that do it. Wrong and wrong again.

MouthBreathingRage · 02/08/2020 15:37

Its a Brave New World out there.

In my opinion, people can do whatever they want to as long as it doesn't impact or hurt others. When trans women can partake in female sport, take positions that are female only, or be allowed into female prisons when they are fully-male sexual offenders, then we have a big problem.

Proudboomer · 02/08/2020 15:38

Most people I know are pretty liberal with a live and let live Outlook But I haven’t met one person in real life who thinks that you can change sex but the internet is full of them.
And it seems a case of those who shout loudest are taken as the majority when the majority is actually pretty silent on the issue.

SmileEachDay · 02/08/2020 15:40

There’s a poster on my Pornhub thread who is crashing about telling me to fuck off because liberal feminism is, like, the bomb.

I imagine they’ll be here in 3..2...1 aaaaand....

(Btw Only women have a cervix)

GrumpiestOldWoman · 02/08/2020 15:42

When trans women can partake in female sport, take positions that are female only, or be allowed into female prisons when they are fully-male sexual offenders, then we have a big problem.

This.

We have female only things for a reason, which is now apparently irrelevant because a group of men want access to these spaces.

CatsArePeopleToo · 02/08/2020 15:42

The majority is oblivious. Just before the lockdown, a man walked into the local supermarket wearing a flashy outfit, bad wig and huge fake tits. People were staring and giggling. Nobody would have bought him to be a woman.

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GrumpiestOldWoman · 02/08/2020 15:42

Sorry smile only me Grin

MouthBreathingRage · 02/08/2020 15:43

I haven’t met one person in real life who thinks that you can change sex but the internet is full of them.

Aye, and they wrongly try and bring intersex people into their argument without any care of how offensive that is. In real life, people are very much live and let live as far as I know. Twitter is a cesspit of super right-on ignorant idiots who just want to see the world bend to their deluded (supposed peace and love) ideals.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 02/08/2020 15:45

We have female only things for a reason, which is now apparently irrelevant because a group of men want access to these spaces.

And to that group of men .... FUCK. RIGHT. OFF!!!!!

Proudboomer · 02/08/2020 15:46

I don’t use twitter as quite frankly I think it is a pit of human excrement and the world would be a better place if it ceased to exist.

DioneTheDiabolist · 02/08/2020 15:49

Liberal feminismis anindividualisticform offeminist theory, which focuses on women's ability to maintain their equality through their own actions and choices. Liberal feminists argue that society holds the false belief that women are, by nature, less intellectually and physically capable than men; thus it tends to discriminate against women in the academy, the forum, and the marketplace. Liberal feminists believe that "female subordination is rooted in a set of customary and legal constraints that blocks women's entrance to and success in the so-called public world". They strive for sexual equality via political and legal reform.

I've put this definition of Liberal Feminism up for clarity.

Fairenuff · 02/08/2020 15:52

A swerf is a person, usually a cervix haver, that is against other cervix havers being trafficed for sex work.

JudyGemstone · 02/08/2020 15:59

YANBU OP, social media is like an alternate universe though so don't let it get to you.

If you ask the people in the queue at Tesco if men can change into women etc you'd get a very different perspective.

Fairenuff · 02/08/2020 16:00

But I haven’t met one person in real life who thinks that you can change sex but the internet is full of them.

I have met people in real life who think humans can change sex.

But their definition of the word sex is different to mine. And I think that's where the problem lies. We need clear meanings in order to be able to discuss issues.

The attempts to change the meaning of the word woman and make it 'transphobic' is just another way to silence debate.

Remember, their whole campaign is based on #nodebate

Tappering · 02/08/2020 16:00

Social media is an echo chamber. Anyone with dissenting views is immediately labelled as a bigot, roundly demonised and blocked. Consequently what's left is a group of people who have zero exposure to anything other than their view of the world.

Then when they actually interact with people outside of social media, they are shocked and horrified that other people don't agree with them.

If you stood on the average high street on a Saturday afternoon and canvassed 500 people on whether women have penises, and men have vaginas, I suspect the majority of respondents would give views that would be classed as 'bigoted' by social media standards.

GrumpiestOldWoman · 02/08/2020 16:03

@JudyGemstone

YANBU OP, social media is like an alternate universe though so don't let it get to you.

If you ask the people in the queue at Tesco if men can change into women etc you'd get a very different perspective.

Yes that's true but it's still frightening how it gains traction. It might not cut the ice with the queue in the supermarket but if a female employee objected to a male-bodied employee who identifies as a woman using the same changing room I'm not confident that the retailer would defend the rights of the female.
Proudboomer · 02/08/2020 16:05

I haven’t heard of this woman but she popped up on my YouTube recommendations and I was interested enough to watch some of her videos. This one is mind boggling in the fact people really think that lesbian sex can involve a penis.

Proudboomer · 02/08/2020 16:07

Should also point out that the woman doing the video is in fact a lesbian and she doesn’t buy into men with penises being lesbian.

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