To think Facebook messenger is intrusive?

[EvelynTheCanary]

I use Facebook to keep up to date with distant family and friends updates from my home town but find the messenger app quite intrusive.

People know when I'm active and so message with an expectation that I'll get back to them right away, nothing of importance 99.9% of the time yet I feel a degree of obligation to respond otherwise i think I'll appear rude. I have one friend in particular who gets grumpy if she thinks she's being ignored.

Some of the people I know spend alot of their free time on Facebook and message most days just for a chat whereas I prefer to just browse through my newsfeed, leave a comment on some updates that interest me and then go about my business rather than exchanging small talk through the day on messenger and having my phone pinging continuously.

I'll be removing the app as personally I don't like the intrusion, I just wondered whether anybody else felt this way or is it me?

Beyond, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum. Your post definitely shows that the feature can be a positive thing and I'm glad you managed to get the message across to your brother quickly.

Unfortunately I'm just a bit antisocial and value time alone so it's a PITA for me.

Though I'm pleased that it can be helpful for others in times of urgency

as I WFM half of the week and need to be on the internet to do so unfortunately.

You can do that on your laptop and set yourself to be invisible on Facebook messenger, presumably it's not used for your job ?