Me or my neighbour?

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Had an argument with my neighbour this afternoon about my music. She came over to complain about my music, I had the iPad on whilst cleaning my kitchen. I said I was sorry, I would turn it down (it's not that loud, just an iPad).

She then said, is not the loudness of the music, it's the actual music she doesn't like. As in, I could have it as loud as I like, as long as she likes the song.
I told her she couldn't dictate to me what kind of music I listened to, even if it wasn't to her taste.

She thinks I'm being a bitch, but I think she's being a cock.

Who is unreasonable?

Er, your neighbour IBU of course.

As if she can dictate what music you listen to!

Were you listening to music with a lot of expletives

She's obviously BU. Out of interest (nosiness) what were you listening to?

What were you playing op ? Unfair to ask opinions on such limited info!

I did once have a neighbour when I lived in a flat play Elvis on repeat 🙄

But surely it shouldn't matter what I was listening to? Nothing with swear words in.

We need to know what you were playing OP. Did she offer up any alternative suggestions?

Need to know what it was

Rationally, the neighbour of course has no right to dictate what you were listening to.
But every fibre of my being says that some music just needs shutting down...

Of course it doesn't matter what you were listening to, she is very unreasonable.
We still need to know what you were listening to though.

I don't see why it matters, but I was listening to heavy metal. She listens to Jazz which i can't stand but I've never asked her to turn it off or down.

She wouldn't have known what music it was, if you had been playing it at a reasonable volume. If you are playing your music loudly enough that your neighbour can hear it, then you are being unreasonable regardless of what the music is. Just turn the bloody thing down and have some consideration for others.

Earphones but she was being a bit unreasonable

A lot of people won't find heavy ,metal palatable.

However, how was she able to hear it? We're your windows wide open?

No offense, but I can see your neighbor’s perspective. To those of us who don’t like Heavy Metal, it can sound utterly cacophonous.

Your music must be ridiculously loud for your neighbour to hear it, so on that basis only, YABU

DH can't hear the music from the kitchen from our bedroom or his study, and we live in the same house! How loud must you be for the neighbour to be inconvenienced?!

YABVU trying to get away with describing heavy metal as ‘music’...

It is the law that those who play music loud enough for the neighbours to hear must always play utterly shite "music". Or so it seems. It's never a nice bit of ABBA is it?

YABU.

YABU for playing heavy metal shit.
Your neighbour sounds awesome with the Jazz vibe - my kind of next door dudes!

It's never a nice bit of ABBA is it?

Oxymoron right there.

Until the type of music was revealed the neighbour was BU, but now that we know, I can see their point- and it must have been very loud.

Use earphones. I like a bit of heavy metal, but not filtered through a wall.