Me or my neighbour?

[MonstranceClock]

Had an argument with my neighbour this afternoon about my music. She came over to complain about my music, I had the iPad on whilst cleaning my kitchen. I said I was sorry, I would turn it down (it's not that loud, just an iPad).

She then said, is not the loudness of the music, it's the actual music she doesn't like. As in, I could have it as loud as I like, as long as she likes the song.
I told her she couldn't dictate to me what kind of music I listened to, even if it wasn't to her taste.

She thinks I'm being a bitch, but I think she's being a cock.

Who is unreasonable?

I'd rather not be hearing heavy metal loud enough from neighbour to bother me in my own kitchen.

She is being bratty. Listen to whatever you like, I would rather hear heavy metal than hip hop or cheesy pop but my neighbours can play whatever they like as long as the volume is reasonable I.e can have a conversation over the sound of the music.

She wasn't in the kitchen, she was outside my open back door. She didn't say anything until she stopped sweeping, so probably couldn't hear it over the sweeping. Thats how loud it was. Not loud at all.

She can’t tell you what not to listen to. But if you’re not in to heavy metal it’s a bloody awful noise. So I kind of understand the neighbour.

Sorry but is nobody reading your new posts OP?

You've said several times now that she was stood outside your back door. Literally outside your door. On your property.

She is being vvvvur if she thinks it's okay to dictate to someone what kind of music they listen to

PS, not a huge fan of slipknots new album

Clearly, your neighbour is being ridiculous.

Your music wasn't overly loud; she could only hear it because she was right outside your kitchen door.

You can play whatever genre of music you like in your own home. My neighbour is quite keen on ballads from Disney films, which is not my thing, but it is absolutely not her problem that I don't like that horrible sugary duet from Aladdin that I can occasionally hear drifting from her dining room when we've both got the patio doors open. I can also hear her telly sometimes if we've both got the windows open, but I don't knock on the door and moan because she's watching a programme I don't like.

There is no way that any music played on an iPad in your own house is unreasonably loud.

So I kind of understand the neighbour.

I can understand the neighbour not liking heavy metal. I can't understand her thinking it's OK to ask someone else not to play it for that reason.

It is the law that those who play music loud enough for the neighbours to hear must always play utterly shite "music". Or so it seems. It's never a nice bit of ABBA is it?

I'd rather hear heavy metal than that awful pumping music you hear out of car windows.

Time for drowning pools bodies or kid rocks bawiitaba I think.

In my experience people who dislike metal hate these songs with a passion.

Even without trying to dictate what you listen to, your neighbour is unreasonable for listening to jazz because it's not even music, it's just horribly discordant noises being made simultaneously.

She's been out all day thankfully so it's been Rammstein o clock in the monstrance household

I was going to comment but Saskia has already said it perfectly!!

Those are my feelings towards jazz

Even so, in the middle of the day, even if I could hear her music in my house, I wouldn't ask her to turn it down or off.

Out of interest, how (why?) do you get your ndn to come round and sweep the patio / path outside your back door ?

She could have it worse, you could have been listening to Motown.........🙉🙉

Erm.... our back doors are next to each other

One word - earpgones

Earphones

Your neighbour was be an idiot.

Unless you have really awful taste in music.

No offense, but I can see your neighbor’s perspective. To those of us who don’t like Heavy Metal, it can sound utterly cacophonous

Well yes, as can any genre of music you don’t like

YANBU OP. I live in a terrace, front and back doors are practically next to one another. Sometimes you hear one another and it can’t be avoided.

Im not wearing earphones in my own house. Plus, how am I supposed to listen out for my child if I have earphones in?

Well, as it wasn't Nickelback, you're all ok.

Maybe she wanted some Old Skool Metallica or ACDC to sweep to?

Seriously, tho, she was bu. As you were.

I'm with @MonstranceClock she'll get why

Slipknot are ace. I also love classical.

Your neighbour is nuts.