Never been this upset before

[heislost]

I left my ex recently. He was abusive emotionally and financially. I'm working with women's aid. I was heard at MARAC this week and general advice is to not have any contact with him.

Long story short. We have a small baby. He was taken to hospital via ambulance a month or so ago. He had a follow up heart scan recently and the appointment to discuss the results was meant to be today.

Ex has called and cancelled it. He's lied and told them a family member has been rushed to hospital. I've had confirmation from a close family member that this is a lie. He rebooked the appointment for 3 months time, and didn't tell me. Then there's me, stood there like a lemon because the appointment has been cancelled and he hasn't told me. He's playing games but the fact that he had cancelled his son's cardiac appointment to get at me is beyond madness. I am so upset.

How do I report this? And who to? Women's Aid?

I'm so, so angry. I have never done anything bad to him. All I did was leave and he hates it. He claims he had our son's best interests at heart... I'm sure if there was something serious wrong they would have got me in sooner but still, it's so important he's seen as soon as possible.

He rebooked the appointment for 3 months time because that's when he's on leave! He wasn't even meant to be at the appointment today.

Sorry. This is all jumbled but I'm shaking with anger.

Is he military (you say he rebooked for when he is on leave) ?

OP you're being too defeatist. Stay angry about it, report it, get it documented by the police, it will all help with DV stuff and Clare's Law. The court's won't just dismiss it. It doesn't matter what the outcome of the medical appointment is, it's the fact of what he's done.

I was just about to post what nearlythere has said.
Be very angry. Dont be fobbed off. In my experience those that shout the loudest get heard.
Get shouting!!!

I get that you are probably utterly exhausted @heislost but you need to push for a your ex to feel the consequence of his actions somehow or you need greater reassurance and proof that this cannot happen again from the hospital/related agencies.

As it stands I suspect there is absolutely nothing that would or could stop this happening again as you have no proof that he’s been brought to book, even contacted about such a deplorable thing.