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To think posting children's reports on fb is a bit..

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Hamsterdancer · 04/04/2019 20:36

... much. I know I'm probably being u but I just feel like they are quite a private thing and I know as a child I would have hated everyone seeing them. I know parents are proud and I probably post things others would think was odd but I just think it's strange. I dont mean people who say that they had great reports I mean actually putting photos of every page on there.

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LostInShoebiz · 04/04/2019 20:37

It’s too much. No one cares except the poor child who will one day be mortified.

Momzilla82 · 04/04/2019 20:39

We don't. Because I think it's quite cringe and also because our kids go to a fee paying school we already have to deal with enough snide comments from friends about that choice without broadcasting how wonderful we think our children are to boot. The only people who need to know of our pride is them. I also think it's hugely tactless if you have friends with kids whose kids through no fault of their own aren't very academic, or have SN. But as with all things on the internet I just scroll on by.

Wearywithteens · 04/04/2019 20:40

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BlueMerchant · 04/04/2019 20:41

I agree. Why would I want to see another child's report.
Bit like a 'friend' I had who would text me her son's spelling score.🤷

Bunnyfuller · 04/04/2019 20:42

Another reason to dislike FB. It plays on everyone’s insecurities

ElizabethG81 · 04/04/2019 20:53

It's cringey, as are all the "just been to parents' evening and our little darlings are just AMAZING!" posts. You never get anyone coming on to say their little Johnny's been a little shit this term and he's actually not very bright.

Leeds2 · 04/04/2019 20:53

I cringe when I see them, although I do read with interest!

I never posted my own child's reports on there, and she is now at university so I missed my chance.

ShirleyPhallus · 04/04/2019 20:56

It’s cringe, but so is “happy 2nd birthday to our amazing son Alfie, we love you so much!”

Unless Alfie has seriously advanced reading and comprehension skills then keep it off Facebook

Thirtyrock39 · 04/04/2019 21:01

One of the many reasons I came off Facebook - also there are often comments which the boastful parents haven't read between the lines of which you can guess are the teacher trying to say something positive about a nightmare child !

RocketSurgery · 04/04/2019 21:17

A friend who has a child in the same class as my ds posted her child’s report last year. I’d cried at my dc’s report as the teacher was so lovely and had written some absolutely lovely things about ds. One phrase said ‘I have been a teacher for 30 years and I haven’t come across a child like rocketsurgeryds and I don’t think I will again’, after a long list of reasons ds is awesome. My friends child’s report was word for word the same.

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Hamsterdancer · 04/04/2019 23:12

@RocketSurgery that's awful.

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alittlesnow · 04/04/2019 23:18

Yeah it's a bit out of order.

I would never do it.

GunpowderGelatine · 04/04/2019 23:26

Massively cringe. No one cares! It's just another way of saying "Look what a great parent I am and the school thinks so too!" Hmm I have a friend who does these soppy statuses every time one of her three children gets star of the week. The other day her 5 year old son clutching his certificate was captioned with "One day my darling you're going to move mountains". He got star of the week for colouring in his Egyptian mask neatly, I wouldn't reach for the stars just yet Julie

seesawteddy · 04/04/2019 23:40

@rocketsurgery that’s really shocking of the teacher!! Did you tell your friend or the school about it?

SandyY2K · 05/04/2019 00:42

If it makes them happy...let them do it. They're proud parents.

It's not something I'd do myself...posting the actual report, but when my DD aced her GCSEs, I put it on FB. Not the result slips, just my words saying how well she'd done and how proud I was.

I did the same when my other DD passed her A levels and got her first selection Uni place.

Lalliella · 05/04/2019 00:48

DS’s report was quite clearly copied and pasted because it referred to him as “she”. Or perhaps DS is self-identifying in school in a way I didn’t know about. It also contained 7 spelling and grammar errors. I don’t think I’ll be posting it anywhere except the bin.

Ihatehashtags · 05/04/2019 05:46

Absolutely cringe worthy

PregnantSea · 05/04/2019 06:04

I completely agree

olderthanyouthink · 05/04/2019 06:49

Funnily enough when I was at school we would compare reports to see how much was C&P, occasionally a parent would post about it but as we'd all compared notes it was only interesting if someone had son other than the stock paragraph

floribunda18 · 05/04/2019 06:54

It is a bit cringey, I haven't posted about reports, I did post about DD2 getting a headteacher award for being "mature, polite, and a role model for other children" just after she had had a bit of a rubbish time, and I cringed at myself for doing it, but just felt so proud which outweighed the cringe.

Dothehappydance · 05/04/2019 06:57

I roll my eyes.

The only time I did post was when DS was in nursery and it was because they had written 'X will sit and listen to a familiar story' I put that this obviously translated to 'he never sits for story time' but that has been the only time as I found it funny.

Still makes me smile years later (since that he was diagnosed with autism)

ShaggyRug · 05/04/2019 07:08

Last night I read one on FB. No photo but full paragraph detailing teachers comments (standard nice ones - wish I had a classroom full of ‘Diana’s’ blah blah blah) followed by child’s pathways to GCSE’s and how she already exceeding in them Confused ... all from a Year 7 pastoral evening. Seriously read as if she’s just picked up her GCSE results and never once contemplated that between years 7-11 ‘Diana’ might just not exactly achieve what her SATS said she could. FFS. Poor kid.

Oblomov19 · 05/04/2019 07:09

I've never seen one. A photo of the actual report? Shock
Seen people comment that their child had a good one. I even cringed at that.

holly873 · 05/04/2019 07:10

Yes it's taking liberties with the child's privacy. Doesn't surprise me one bit some people do this on fb though.

lovelyupnorth · 05/04/2019 07:13

Only friend I had do this was more about the crap C&P job and the fact their DS had subjects he didn’t do and they used the wrong name and on one bit left the previous child’s name in.

Not good if boasting though. My DDs would kill me if I did anything like that.