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To think posting children's reports on fb is a bit..

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Hamsterdancer · 04/04/2019 20:36

... much. I know I'm probably being u but I just feel like they are quite a private thing and I know as a child I would have hated everyone seeing them. I know parents are proud and I probably post things others would think was odd but I just think it's strange. I dont mean people who say that they had great reports I mean actually putting photos of every page on there.

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TemporaryPermanent · 05/04/2019 07:14

Crazy thing to do. hard to believe it's so common actually.

I will admit to feeling the occasional impulse to post some of ds's achievements on fb because he is obviously the most amazing child in the history of the universe. These impulses can be controlled.

Clankboing · 05/04/2019 07:21

Yes my friend posts 2 of his 3 children's reports all the time. It makes him look an arse and makes me wonder why the 3rd child's report doesn't get photographed.

Janleverton · 05/04/2019 07:25

It all stops once they get to secondary school IME. And possibly by the time they’re top primary. Used to find it all a bit eurgh. Particularly the posts saying “well done Jim and Jean for your excellent reports. #proud” when the children in question were 5 and 7 say and presumably the parent could have told them in person rather than by Facebook post.

ShaggyRug · 05/04/2019 07:27

Sadly @Janleverton still going strong in secondary here. Very cringey.

itsaboojum · 05/04/2019 07:30

It's called Bragbook for a reason.

longwayoff · 05/04/2019 07:33

A bit??? A LOT. Poor children.

NorthernSpirit · 05/04/2019 07:37

It’s like pictures of your kids in their school uniform plastered all over FB on the 1st day of school. No one really gives a sh@t!

HexagonalBattenburg · 05/04/2019 07:39

Relative does it every single time with her kids - totally done because she relies a lot on FB validation for her self-esteem and she's actually a pretty shocking parent in the real world.

I posted something about how proud I was that DD2 is working at expected level for her writing - but the kid works so fucking hard to overcome her dyspraxia and the class teacher's been awful to engage with all year (and has been expecting and pre-empting her failing completely all year) that this has ALL come from that little girl whose tenacity is phenomenal so I'm incredibly proud of her for that. I've vented and discussed a lot of negativity about the school situation with FB friends so the positive stuff needed to be said as well.

codenameduchess · 05/04/2019 07:42

I have a friend who posts every single part of her kids lives, including reports, awards, homework, put shoes on, farted.... and one of them is 10! Pretty soon they'll probably be on social media themselves and will see every detail of their lives has been broadcast to their mums 900 'friends'. And the comments from the teachers, on fb and reports, are obviously either copied and pasted or desperate scrabbling for something nice to say.

Its a weird cycle of cringe with first day of school photos, plays, parents evening and reports.It's all a bit much, nevermind the security/safety issues with this over sharing.

pilates · 05/04/2019 07:42

One of the reasons I’m not on Facebook

Springwalk · 05/04/2019 07:49

Your dc will definitely have something to say about it as soon as they are old enough.

The eye ball rolling is absolutely guaranteed.

No one cares how your kid is doing in school unless it is a really really bad report and likely to cause a few chuckles. I would never do it either way.

Springiscomingsoon · 05/04/2019 07:52

@TemporaryPermanent I think you have that wrong. MY dc is the most amazing child in the history of the universe

And yes I hate Facebook too - I get anxious just looking at it!

AngelsWithSilverWings · 05/04/2019 07:53

It would be fine if everyone posted the good and the bad.

Mine would have been

Primary - so proud of of X'a report, top of the class in everything and a joy to have in the classroom. Going out for celebratory ice creams. So proud of my lovely boy!

Secondary - just back from parents evening . What a disaster! X was in tears after the second meeting and refused to join me for the rest of them..He's going to be put down to second set maths as he just isn't engaging in the classroom. Need to figure out why he is being so rude and disrespectful in class. His English teacher clearly hates him.X now playing fortnite after having a major meltdown and storming up to his bedroom.I need a strong drink after that.Bloody teenagers!

I've never posted stuff like this on Facebook.

Friedspamfritters · 05/04/2019 07:55

YANBU. For a start no one is going to want to read that and anyway it's a private document prepared by the teacher for the parents only. There's being proud and there's being narcissistic about your kids.

littlemeitslyn · 05/04/2019 07:57

No fb when I was at school 😁

Whatad · 05/04/2019 08:01

Not something I've ever witnessed, but I think I'd be personally fascinated and inwardly smirking knowing that my little Johnnie was clearly doing better than little Harry haha. But I'm juvenile

There's only one FB oversharer I've had (ex SIL) and she's only recently had a baby (I'd say he's 3 now) so I've been saved that shite lol. I have no doubt that it will be spread all over FB though when the time comes - thank Christ I got rid of her and her cunt of a brother quite a while ago!

ChiaraRimini · 05/04/2019 08:04

Oh no rocketsurgery :(

ChiaraRimini · 05/04/2019 08:07

Yeah it's super cringe. But then I am only FB friends with people I actually like so I am happy for them if their kids do well.

billybagpuss · 05/04/2019 08:07

I did once, the report from DD1s swimming teacher said ‘Dd struggles to swim a width’ this was the day after she and her club had done a sponsored swim and she’d done 24 lengths. I’m thinking the teacher may have got DD mixed up 😂

AintNobodyHereButUsReindeer · 05/04/2019 08:09

I'm friends with someone on facebook who is a massive oversharer, every occasion has a ridiculous amount of photos posted, like Mothers Day that's just gone, she posted photos of her pile of unopened presents and cards, her kids, herself and her kids, her opened presents, the front of every card, the inside of every card so you could see what was written in there. She's the same with Christmas, Easter, her kids birthdays, her husbands birthday, her birthday, Fathers Day. Every bunch of photos is like what I described up there for Mothers Day. Photos of every little detail

I'm amazed she doesn't update her status every time she has sex or goes for a poo

SirGawain · 05/04/2019 08:10

I belong to a Facebook group for the University I studied at. Hundreds of both students and graduates on it. One student posted a copy the certificate for his first module. Why? Everyone in the group has been there, is there or is going there. Great achievement for them but not of much interest to others.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 05/04/2019 08:12

YANBU. No one gives a quarter of a shit. They have their own children's achievements to be proud of.

RocketSurgery · 05/04/2019 08:18

seesawteddy no, I didn’t mention it to either teacher or my friend. I still think the woman is lovely and is a great teacher. I just think it’s odd to put such an emotional comment and then just copy it out for every child. But then all kids are different so I’m sure she won’t meet another child quite like my son. He’s currently eating a dry weetabix so he is one of a kind.

jamiecooks · 05/04/2019 08:21

It’s absolutely not on.

I’m so sick of FB. At the minute, it’s a slew of soppy self indulgent posts from the girls in my NCT group as we are all around point of returning to work and it’s all “I can’t believe how much you’ve taught me about myself” etc etc. Set it out in a fucking letter or email for your child to read when they are an adult. FB is all just showboating - like when people post on their mates wall “thank you for an awesome time last night” erm, do you not have email, text, what’s app or messenger to just tell them directly? Of course you do but you want the whole world to know about your “awesome” night out. FB posting is for self indulgent morons

Sculpin · 05/04/2019 08:24

I'm very pleased to say that none of my FB friends have ever done this!

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