We were having some renovation work done at home. We agreed it's best we stayed in a hotel for a week. He was meant to stay too but only stayed 1 night. A week later I find an empty condom wrapper on my side of our bed between the bed and drawers. We have never in 12 years used them ever. I confronted him and asked who came over not expecting to hear what i was told. 1st came out with random excuse of "oh some girls were knocking on the door but I turned them away". My response was in 12 years no one has ever randomly knocked on the door cus of where we live, especially a group of girls! He soon enough confessed he called an escort agency but bottled it wen he opened the door and turned them away. I'm too stunned for words. I told him I didn't believe him. He carried on protesting till I showed him condom wrapper. He laughed and said he used it himself while masturbating as it's lubed up. After rowing most of the day he has turned it all on me and basically said "well do you blame me you ugly fat cunt, look at the state of you". I could go on and on and on about him but seriously AIBU??