This really annoys me. It is often accompanied by the comment ' babies should fit into your life, you shouldn't have to fit in to their's'
Often used as a reason not to breastfeed or not to persist when it is difficult in the early days. It drives me mad that so many people expect a baby to be an accessory that does everything by the book.
In my opinion the people who feel like this are trying to make themselves feel better about putting their own needs ahead of their babies. Have they never heard of feeding on demand???
Surely a small baby can't, in a lot of ways, be expected to fit into your life. A small baby is only aware of it's own needs.
I know that eventually parents need their own time and space but surely not in the early months.