'Cheer up love, it might never happen'

[tactum]

What if it already has and that's why I've got a face like a slapped arse??

Does anyone else think it's a stupid and inappropriate comment to make?! Fuck off!!! I know I look miserable, don't need you to point it out ta!

Exactly! How do they know you've not just had something awful happen or are going through something terrible. I just give the 😏 face.

Exactly. Sibling just been diagnosed with terminal cancer so really didn't need it!

I'm sorry OP.

Yes, someone said this to me on my way home from the miscarriage clinic.

I'm sorry for your troubles, OP

‘It already has you insensitive twatbadger’ no one has to look cheery and happy when they are not. I’m so sorry about your news op

I'm sorry that someone was so thoughtless and crass as to say this to you. Anyone with half a brain can see that it's not anyone's place to comment on other people's apparent mood like this.

Oh OP, I’m so sorry

Last time someone said it to my grandmother had just died. Which is what I told the twat. He had the good grace to look very ashamed.

I don’t know why they do it. You don’t owe anyone a smile or a perky expression. Whether you’re dealing with awful news or just wish you were at home with your bra off.

I hate men that do this. I like to tell them to go fuck themselves.

Lol I've got what I call "resting mardy face" I hate it when I get told this! You'd look pretty daft walking down the street with a huge grin on your face imo

How dare you not be performing your womanly duty of being decorative. Why should men have to have their day upset because you can’t be bothered to project a constant display of happiness for them. Shame on you!

Not lol for the reason you weren't smiling op.i meant I can relate to being told that

It’s only ever said to women as well like women have to look happy all the damn time

Someone said this to my auntie a few hours after her dad was found dead.

I have resting bitch face so I get it all the time!

Ps my BIL is battling a brain tumour at the moment. Cancer is shit

It's an example of every day sexism. I've heard it all my adult life, I'm 61 and hear it less now as I've got very short grey hair and look like a bloke.

Ha ha Anne - home with me bra off now!!! Do you know me?!! Big glass of wine too. Thanks all

"resting bitch face" is such a sexist thing. Men have non-cheerful faces all the time and no one thinks they've got resting bitch face, it's just their face.

Yep men only ever say it to women never to each other. My job isn't to look happy for men, fuck off.

I'm sorry about your news

Very much a certain type of bloke as well.....not terribly bright........utterly wanker thing to do. I used to get it all the time due to resting bitch face but don't so much now, probably as I'm over 40

I don’t but you sound great

I’ve undone mine but must take the bastard thing off.

Enjoy your wine. I’m off for a cuppa and a mince pie.

Next time just flip them the finger. Arseholes.

YANBU at all. I hate this too. Always men that say it and they never say it to another man only women and girls.

💐 for you OP.
Last time someone said this to me I replied “ I’ve just been to the funeral of a boy I used to teach” They couldn’t shut up fast enough. Always an inappropriate thing to say imo.

Christ are men still doing this? It’s so patronising.
Very sorry about your sibling Op

Sorry for your sad news OP.

I get this quite a lot. Once I was reading and having a latte in a coffee shop when some random bloke came up to me and said (exact words) 'You have lovely hair (?) but you'd look even prettier if you smiled more'.

Yes random sexist tosser please tell me what to do with my own face....

I hate it too OP. Dont need the comments when i am obviously upset.

The other one i hate is You on a mission? Well if I look busy, I am possibly too busy to pander to your stupid remarks.