..to ask how hard your life has been this week...

[downbutnotout2018]

...on a scale of 1-10.

Feeling a bit sorry for self this eve... Despite being a highly trained professional my living costs mean I am skint, work pressures, decisions I need to make, feeling like things are hard work.

Is this normal in this current climate or am I overthinking things and over complicating things?

OP is your misery looking floor company?

Maybe try and think of the things that have gone right for you this week/ or alternatively promise to do something at the weekend for yourself - doesn’t have to cost a lot (or anything!)

Be kind to yourself hope you feel happier soon.

Non, I think it is! Thanks for those suggestions.

This week has been tough. I am waiting to have both hips replaced, and have been in constant pain and as a result, with very little sleep, am exhausted. But, I have a good job, good friends, I only have to see my horses faces and life is good. I refuse to give in!

Oh and as a result of the pain/mess my stomach is rebelling. Can't tolerate chocolate- just how cruel?????

A couple of emotional lows within very close family this week on top of my eldest dc moving out in two weeks have given me the wobbles I have to say.

Work has been hectic and am putting in longer days to enable me to have one extra day off a week to juggle the dc and holidays.

Added to a dh who's working 16 plus hour days and leaving the house at 3 am some mornings and not getting home till gone half eight in the evenings we aren't eating till gone 10 pm after dc settled and peace has resumed and then going straight to bed 😕

I'm feeling like a single parent this last two weeks. On top of full time work and the mental load of home and holidays.
Spent 7 hours today running from shop to shop to get a start on uniform shopping and am absolutely shattered.

On the plus side I have had a good few hours with youngest dc although spent shopping we did stop for coffee and lunch together.
Also met up with eldest dc and his gf for coffee whilst middle dc went and spent the day with friends.

Also working tomorrow a full day but it's Saturday so looking forward to the weekend and have two days off next week so looking forward to that x

This week for me has been tough. Several unexpected bills and several other things so I put it about an 8/10 but there's been moments where it's been a 9.5/10! literal saw and met the end of my tether and just wanted to run away

Life is shit sometimes. Here's to better weeks for us all next wk

Well, yes many of those things apply to me. We are both fairly highly trained professionals, but public sector so not great pay and definitely count our pennies. Stressful responsible jobs.

However also I am experiencing a deeply uncomfortable pregnancy and sleeping very little so my job is especially hard at the moment. Plus I found out this evening that my dad has discovered a cancer with generally a very poor prognosis, just waiting for details from the tests. But a 5 year life expectancy of maybe 10%.
So this week is particularly bad.

But I don't really think misery top trumps is a great game. Though I am lying here crying about my Dad, I have had moments this week of immense gratitude for my DH, my daughters, and what is generally a privileged and comfortable life filled with love. I have what matters. I don't care if I have to buy my clothes on sale. In the grand scheme of things who gives a shit.

It has been tough.
Monday I went to my GP with a rash on my breast. GP said she was worried about abnormal tissue within my breast and wanted to refer me to breast clinic at Oncology Department. Wednesday I discovered there is a 5 week waiting list, I was like a rabbit in headlights- frozen with fear.
Phoned Bupa who arranged appointment at private hospital next day.
I was examined last night by consultant breast surgeon ( same one who works at NHS oncology department as it turns out) given tests, mammogram, ultrasound, results back within minutes. Well worth £250.

All normal, no follow up required.
Today I am walking on a cloud.

And my scare this week has made my other problems seem trivial.

Which is good.

helpbeforeimelt it's really not cool comparing yourself to a single parent when you're not.

Well I have a chest infection this week and an operation next week, and a 2yo to look after although I will have a 2-3 week recovery period so that's going to be tough. DH not in the country for my op, won't be back til 3 days after it and is self employed so won't be taking time off for my recovery. I'm very grateful that my dm and mil can help out.
Still feel happy though

A curate's egg of a week.

Most of it fairly good but one day was a complete emotional train wreck which has pissed all over the rest of my achievements in the period.

Proper core shaking upset. Fucking sucks as now I need to spend time caring for myself and dealing with that fallout, not just bobbing along.

9.99. Work related. I love work; I am at the top of my game but this has been a shit week because I have had to make 60+ people compulsorily redundant.

On a scale of one to ten, it's been minus a million!
If I could just go to sleep and never wake up, that would be great! Not going to happen mind, DH and the children need me, but oh how I pray for "the end of the world" to happen so we could just write off our lives and start again (or win the lottery) ...

I've had an 11 week on holiday. Next week will be -1 when I go back to work.

About a 5. I have bipolar, and can feel myself slipping into a depressive episode. Have been trying to combat it with healthy food and exercise but a lot of my triggers atm are to do with circumstances out of my control. It's tiring trying to focus on the positive all the time. to all

Stressful situation at work which isn't resolved .

my life is pure stress everyday and have been for years

i have 2 home educated children(just 8, nearly 14)that have multiply disabilities each(event though they are not violent they are big boys 5ft and 6 foot)
13 y old has severe aspergers,moderate autism,GDD(global development delay) by 2-3 years, severe dyspraxia, mild physical tourettes,ODD(Oppositional defiant disorder),severe sleeping disorder(as in doesn't sleep)

8 y old is undiagnosed(haven't the mental energy to fight for a diagnosis as i know theres no support out there anyway and as hes home educated i dont see the need) but has adhd,asd(moderate),gdd by 18 months-2 years,pda and spd,cluster speech(that is diagnosed)and separation anxiety(from me)also doesnt sleep

both need 24 hour care so are with me or their dad 24/7

we are official carers to them(ie gets paid carers allowance each)

im still co sleeping with youngest(from birth),dad in same room with oldest

oldest has just come out of a 3 year nervous breakdown and was agoraphobic for 2 years and wouldn't even leave his bedroom for months

we dont get 1 min to our self as we get no professional or family help help at all(in nearly 14 years neither have never been left with a babysitter day or overnight) and with the youngests separation anxiety needs to see me constantly(stands there when i pee or have a bath,its a good thing i dont get monthlys)

as both kids dont sleep(goes 2-3 days straight)so the adult with them at night dont either

both eat constantly(night as well),proper home cooked meals not snacks so one of us is always cooking something

im very very emotionally knackered and have been for years

we do love the home ed life though

but the plus side of this is i get to be with my kids as we chose the home ed life,we have plenty of money because of their disabilities,we have a big 3 bedroom in a nice safe area and we can afford all their food and heat they need(heating on 24 hours as both like to be naked or boxers)

despite not sleeping together since 2003 me and my oh have been together 19 years(been together since we were 17) and never have had a problem as he does just as much as me(hes also our driver)

ive never had a mother in law problem(bug bear of many on here i know)

i know plenty that last winter had to chose between food or heat (temp is always in the minus here in winter and gets dark by 3-4pm)

i live in a very "clean"space as im the valleys of south wales and my village is between 2 mountains, a forest one side and a lovely stream the other and the seas side is a 30 min drive

despite all the stress and daily struggle at the end of it we live a happy life

Pretty shit and some news from my sister tonight has only made it worse, awaiting decision on a benefits reassessment that could basically end everything worthwhile in my life if it goes the wrong way; so wondering whether it's worth going on at the moment

Shit but it’s shit most weeks and I can’t really see a way out

I am on holiday. I have been thumped several times, threatened with being killed, had my thumb bent back, still doing the cooking, cleaning, shopping and the mental load... oh and ex's mobile phone was thrown and came apart.

However, There have been a few times where it has been quiet and peaceful... And chocolate was on offer at the supermarket.

speakout what happened to the two week referral thing? Another promise that didn’t last?

Can we get to minus numbers? It's been crap, DS2 has a stinking cold so I've spent the past 3 nights with a wiggly toddler in my bed so I've hardly slept. He's still awake now, he didn't nap yesterday or today, and I have no help until Monday because DH is away on a stag do. And even Monday might suck because DH is going to be ridiculously hungover. I don't even get to go to the sodding hen do's either, it's horribly one sided, and there's fuck all I can do about it.

I've just realised how petty all that sounds compared to others. I'm just tired and in a shit mood.

DP's DD's paranoid delusional exP threatened to kill him - even though he's never even met him - and he's now in custody so stress levels have been high this week.

I'm miles away from home in hospital recovering from surgery, been here alone for a few days with no visitors as it's to far for family to visit.

Also struggling emotionally as my baby should have been here any day now but she was born a few months ago and was too early to survive.

So yeah been quite a rough week.