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..to ask how hard your life has been this week...

51 replies

downbutnotout2018 · 17/08/2018 22:58

...on a scale of 1-10.

Feeling a bit sorry for self this eve... Despite being a highly trained professional my living costs mean I am skint, work pressures, decisions I need to make, feeling like things are hard work.

Is this normal in this current climate or am I overthinking things and over complicating things?

OP posts:
violets17 · 18/08/2018 02:43

Bad week here. My Dad's been in hospital and realising we are getting near the end. He's my best friend.

user764329056 · 18/08/2018 02:48

Fucking hard week and can’t sleep

PinkLady01 · 18/08/2018 03:53

I broke it off with my boyfriend, he was absolutely heart broken and it’s the hardest thing I think I’ve ever done. So I’ve had a week of not really eating / sleeping and crying because of worrying about him. He said he hasn’t got anything else in life now so I have a shit ton of guilt on my shoulders Sad

booandbumpp · 18/08/2018 04:37

I'm 30 weeks pregnant and this week the consultant confirmed that my baby is very likely to pass in the first week of life. The only surgery available is a open heart surgery which has 60% survival rate and is the first in a three stage surgery. If he survives the surgery then his life expectancy will be 15 - 20 years old.
So a bad week, one of the worst of my life so far.

Snog · 18/08/2018 05:10

💐 for everyone who is struggling.
I think I have become depressed as I am at a 2/10 although my problems do not warrant feeling as low as I do.

NoSquirrels · 18/08/2018 05:16

Flowers Flowers Flowers
For you all. I’m so sorry - won’t single out posters but there are some truly shit weeks on this thread and I wish you all peace and live and a better week next week. Please reach out to people IRL too.
Flowers Flowers

Vanillamanilla1 · 18/08/2018 05:57

I'm facing a disciplinary hearing
Got the date which is next week
I'm not due back to work until the day before the hearing . I'm in a different country on vacation
I won't have time 24 hours after arriving back in the country and the meeting to sort out a union rep
Its put a dampner on the rest of the holiday
Bizarrely the one carrying out the disciplinary is a woman who did to me excatly what I'm being accused of and I feel I won't get a fair hearing
I refuse to sort out a union rep etc when I'm in a different country on vacation
They didn't even bother to check my availability
I feel fucking shit now

MissusGeneHunt · 18/08/2018 06:33

@Vanillamanilla1 that's so horrible, I'm so sympathetic to you. Flowers

A week of fuckwittery here. Bipolar, reached end of tether. Holiday cut short due to DP issues. I had saved up ££s for a safety net for me and DS, had to use it to bail out DP due to his non paying tenant... Sounds petty but last straw. Had months of GP and psychiatrist telling me to go sick from work and resisted due to job being a relief at times, but Occ Health referral Dr has made it mandatory sick leave. Feel as though I've let work down. Now have to sort stuff out.

Flowers to everyone, in the hope all our weekends have some light.

MissusGeneHunt · 18/08/2018 06:34

I would add my shit isn't anywhere near as terrible as some above, so excuse my post.

Undercoverbanana · 18/08/2018 06:49

I have MH problems and this week has been a really good one for me. I have managed to deal with my anxiety triggers really positively and feel I have achieved some things. I can see good in the world and am not in a dark place.

So sorry for all those posters with tangible problems - debt, bad relationships, illness, work pressure.

Please remember your MH must come before everything else.

Some battles are not worth fighting because the collateral damage is too high. Drop the battles that damage you.

Of course DCs come first - but your MH must be prioritised alongside them.

Without good MH you have nothing and cannot support your DCs. Be kind to yourselves.

MisstoMrs · 18/08/2018 06:59

@obblegobble and @booandbump I can’t imagine how you feel. But know you’ve got support from here Flowers

Amy106 · 18/08/2018 07:08

It was my father's funeral this week. I really miss him and can't quite believe he is gone. It was good to see all those people at the service though-nice to know he was loved and cared about.

Oysterbabe · 18/08/2018 07:14

Sorry about the shit weeks Flowers
Mine has been shit too. My 2 year old has to have open heart surgery in a couple of weeks and I've been feeling so low and worried. Lots of random crying and I just can't motivate myself to do anything. I need to toughen the hell up or I'll lose my mind at this rate.

GluteusMaximus00 · 18/08/2018 07:14

Yes, it's been a stressful week and the stress will probably continue for some time. Lots of money worries; lots of family worries; some health worries and just a general feeling of exhaustion.

I know many posters have personal crises to deal with, and my heart goes out to them. However, I think , for many individuals, work pressures and financial strain may become worse over the next few years.

DerelictWreck · 18/08/2018 07:20

Pretty shit, I had surgery a few days ago and I really wasn't prepared for how hard it would be to recover and how much pain I'd be in. Plus I thought I'd at least be sleeping loads as the anaesthesia wore off, but nope, not at all!

Also feeling a little sorry for myself that no-one has sent flowers or visited Sad silly in the grand scheme of things but feeling a little forgotten Sad

LesLavandes · 18/08/2018 07:29

I would say zero. Was in court (for 5th time) against my stbxh in final hearing. 3.5 years of hell so far. Dishonourable man and I was expected from previous hearings to get a good settlement. The judge - old school female, hated me and loved the narcissist. She spent the judgement attacking me. One attack after another. I was 26 years married and basically brought my children up as a single mother while he pursued a successful career. Terrible result. Am in shock, have to be out of my home in 3 months, can't eat. Live in middle of nowhere. Feeling so scared.

Groovee · 18/08/2018 07:48

I've found it tough after 6 weeks off. Just tiredness. I have a chronic health condition so it just takes adjustments. I badly planned a full weekend too!

dentydown · 18/08/2018 08:15

My dad went into hospital and they wouldn’t let him out because his bedroom was a mess. I’ve spent all week getting rid of stuff including old raggy clothes that he has kept. Made me realise that my house is constantly upside down and messy and I can’t do anything.

RoseMartha · 18/08/2018 08:19

Mixed. Couple of days were ok. Pretty tense at home as getting divorced and we are living in same house. Stressful with kids. Dd has asd. Stressful with elderly parents and feel like i have extra children if i take them and kids out. Been bitten by insect and hand has swollen up.

JacNaylor · 18/08/2018 09:46

Wow, I came on to say I've had a pretty good week apart from missing ds and having nightmares about him falling off high buildings.
Sending hugs and flowers to all who need it though, there's some rubbish lives going on.

@BlackeyedSusan why???? Maybe covered elsewhere but is there no help available? Bless you.

@tor8181 I take my hat off to you, your life sounds extremely challenging but your boys are lucky to have you.

ShotsFired · 18/08/2018 11:27

May I please point out that everyone is fighting their own battles on their own journey, and it's not a race to the bottom.

If it matters to you, it matters, and your concern and upset is as valid as the next person's. Please don't apologise for your worries.

Justanotheruser01 · 18/08/2018 15:04

10 :-( horrible week.

Fellow · 18/08/2018 15:07

I'm 8 weeks pregnant and found out that my husband cheated on me. Hard is an understatement for this week.
But it won't be like this forever...

RubyWho · 18/08/2018 15:08

Bloody terrible. Rollercoaster highs and lows.

Highs: Offered new role, was headhunted for it, and badly wanted it.

Lows: Prep for an interview, and the interview itself, nearly killed me with the amount of anxiety it caused.

Current employers bitter and vindictive that I've handed my notice in and won't confirm if they're happy to act as a reference. So I've assumed they're not, and now need to source another one. Have explained the situation to new employers but am mortified.

Am also mid cancer scare, in big debt (well, 6k. About to enter into an IVA), and my MH is awful.

So out of 10? 2.

Next week will be better.

Obblegobble · 18/08/2018 17:12

MisstoMrs
Thank you

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