I know I am not BU, but I really need to vent and this board seemed like a good place. A friend and her BF (early 30s) had to move out of her Dad’s place with just a couple of days notice, so I said they could come stay with me for a few days until their new flat was ready. I don’t have a spare room, so they slept on my sofa bed in the lounge.
He works part time, she isn’t working. A few days turned into almost 2 weeks and thank fudge they’ve gone… I’m a struggling single mum with 3 kids of my own.
I didn’t mind so much that they slept in while I’m up at 7am in the morning or that I had to get myself ready for work and a kids ready for school around them in the lounge and all their stuff that they’d leave laying anywhere for me to trip over (even though I’d said pile it up neatly in my DD’s bedroom), but I DID mind this ….
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Getting home from work to find the sofa bed still out and them both just sitting there watching TV while there was a mess in the kitchen, spills everywhere and all the washing up from stuff they’d used during the day not even neatly piled up in the sink.
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Dirty clothes just left on the floor of the lounge ALL DAY unless I picked it up or made a comment.
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She’d eaten leftover lasagne that I had left in the fridge for myself as a late lunch after work, but also left a mess inside my microwave and the worktop, then left the plate for me to wash up when I got home from work… and her response was “it’s been in the fridge 2 days, so I thought I’d better eat it or throw it away!” – while a loaf of bread she’d bought sat in my cupboard till it went stale.
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I worked double 12 hour shifts at the weekend, 8am to 8pm both Sat and Sun. I came home exhausted and found that they’d cooked for themselves using food out of my freezer (didn’t mind that so much) but spilled gravy all over my worktops and down my cupboards, left all of the dishes in the kitchen, both had baths (no hot water left for me) and were sat in my garden drinking alcohol. They also used the last of my bubble bath and didn’t tell me.
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They used all my frozen veg to cook for themselves while I was working all over the weekend.
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Using my toothpaste and squeezing it from the middle. Shudder.
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Borrowing my phone constantly because both of theirs were out of credit, then getting phone calls and messages for them from their mates in the middle of the night.
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Coffee / tea spillages on the sheets they used just left in my lounge … not even put in the washing machine. I did say they were welcome to use the machine for their stuff and showed them both how to use it.
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Taken food out of my freezer “so that they had something to eat” because they don’t have any money.
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Used my bin bags (heavy duty expensive garden ones) without asking.
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Used my expensive hot chocolate powder without asking (I said help yourselves to teabags, coffee and juice.)
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No thank you note left for me when I got home to find them gone today.
I just feel really taken advantage of. I’ve sent a text message, and got a really argumentative reply. It’s put me off ever offering to let people stay again. I feel better after venting.